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Love is something you should definitely feel especially the first years of marriage because its going to be hard to get used to each other so the feeling that love causes sometimes will be the only thing that will keep you pushing forward in trying to make things work... Sex is very important too in these first years and love is going to feel more like a passionate strong feeling
However after a while marriage turns into a relationship of complicity and being comfortable with each other. You just like to share your life with that person and it doesnt feel the same way with anybody else. Love is not associated with passion anymore, you still feel it but its a more peaceful feeling, it doesnt feel so strong it just feels very comfortable
Im not old enough to know what love feels like when you are very old but looking at old people I think love becomes something even more peaceful than in the other previous stages, I think it becomes more like a frienship, the most important friendship of your life. You really become life partners in every sense of the word.
With everything I wrote what I mean to say is YOU probably have an idea of what love is that will change throughout your live, in reality love is just a feeling that can feel for your parents, for your dog, for a good friend.... love is not these gigantic thing that you think it is. At this point in your life love is more associated with passion, and you should definitely feel that, but keep in mind that will change, you will change and so does she. Think if this person still makes for a good partner if you take the passion out as well, because if you are thinking of her long term, you will get there and the relationship has to work without passion as well.
Most people are not mature enough to understand what marriage is, thats why people are so fast to say is shit, it doesnt work and bla bla bla... marriage works but you are probably wrong about what it means and the idea that you associate with love when you are young will change, but you dont understand that yet. Only that idea of love as passion will not be enough to sustain a life relationship like marriage is.... good luck bud!
I assume if you’re really in love, both of you are working at it all the time
True, the only issue with that is that biblically speaking, love is a personal choice outside of others meaning the choice is up to nobody but yourself. Many marriages are brought back from the brink of divorce because one partner chooses to continue to work on their love for the other without reciprocation for a time. Ultimate personal sacrifice and act of humility if you ask me.
Glad to hear that brother! Keep being happy and making your lady happy. Keep a good thing going!I'm 31 and I started dating my wife when I was 17. We dated other people after HS but we've basically always been together. I'd say alot of what you said is correct. We still have passion cuz we're not quite old farts but it's not like the beginning either. Kids don't help that aspect but I think I'm more happy with our relationship now than I was when we were young, much less fighting.
What do you mean they do it without reciprocation and only for a time?
I mean how do they think about it that they are willing to do this, and how do they decide when time is up?
That's me right now, lol.
Did it because of the kid.
when you say your vows, it’s for better or worse, not until I stop feeling like it. Marriage is a sacred bond, closer than any other. Too many people see it as “well if I’m not happy, I’m out”. I don’t know what that time frame is, but it’s as long as you are willing to try and save your marriage.
I’ve wondered in the past what the Christian perspective on this is. I mean if the other person stops trying, aren’t they breaking their vowels, then is the Christian perspective that you should continue to keep your’s? And if so, what exactly is the motivation here?
What is love?
From the Christian perspective, we are to treat our marriage as Christ treated the church which means regardless of what the church does, Christ sacrificed Himself for it. Now, Christ is perfect and we are not, but we are to strive to be that way. I feel that the way we treat our spouse is a mirror image of how Christ treats us. Unconditional love.
Bruh, you got banned or why are you a guest?