I ended up having a mental freak out over the summer and needed to have someone to talk to - called up a co-worker I used to be good friends with. She ended up driving me around the city and talking me down.
like a month later she had a break up with her man - like a bad one, cops involved, locks changed on her house, ends up selling her condo and moving to a suburb.
I hope it had nothing to do with me - I've been to busy to ask.
And to answer the original questions - I guess - if that's what she needs to do then I can't stop it - I guess you have to have some trust.