Worry you dont have empathy?

[Whiterabbit]

Basically I have realized recently I have trouble putting myself in others shoes. A coworkers mother passed away, I said I was sorry for their loss, but only did this because it's the proper thing to do. My Grandparent passed away, I was the only dry eye in the building. Thinking I should be crying the entire time but not.

Only time im really devastated is after breakups.

 

[Reyesnuthugr]

I think it's more common than you would think. It's a psychological defense mechanism, imo.

As long as you don't want to harm people you shouldn't worry. I used to be like that but am not anymore.

There are ways to change it without being fake (<-- doesn't work and feels terrible) but it takes a lot of time, which should be fine.

 

[BC]

Don’t beat yourself up about it bud, we all react to things in life differently.

Practicing empathy is something everybody can always do more of, I’m always finding myself having to stop for a moment and put myself in another person’s shoes to see things from their perspective.

The fact that you even realized this to the point of bringing it to your attention is telling of your character and your wanting to change, it’s normal my dude.

 

[Bamboozled]

Dude, you can't feel for someone else, you can't feel what they're feeling. To think you can is just silly. When your friends mom dies, or when/if your mom dies you're going to have sad emotions and go through it all differently. We're all different and we have genetic and influenced backgrounds. The only thing that you'll know of that is your own plight.

 

[MMA since 1993]

Sometimes

 

[genecop]

Don’t worry, if you really are a sociopath, you wouldn’t post concerns about empathy...your good to go, no worries..

 

[HelloJapan]

Do the Hare Test, let us know your score.

 

[michal001]

i'm having a hard time understanding what your question and issue is? maybe you are just broken and should end yourself?

 

[Alphaboy]

No.

 

[ssBaldy]

Basically I have realized recently I have trouble putting myself in others shoes. A coworkers mother passed away, I said I was sorry for their loss, but only did this because it's the proper thing to do. My Grandparent passed away, I was the only dry eye in the building. Thinking I should be crying the entire time but not.

Only time im really devastated is after breakups.

This shows what is important for you and what is not. As long as you can behave properly in public and are honest with yourself you are ok in my book.

 

[My name is]

I always feel most people are putting on fake tears just for the attention or because they want to fit in with a crying room.

 

[JAEGERX]

yeah sometimes, i also notice most of the people are like that, a world full of potential psychos

 

[Sansnom]

Basically I have realized recently I have trouble putting myself in others shoes. A coworkers mother passed away, I said I was sorry for their loss, but only did this because it's the proper thing to do. My Grandparent passed away, I was the only dry eye in the building. Thinking I should be crying the entire time but not.

Only time im really devastated is after breakups.

I doubt anyone really cares about their coworker's mother dying unless you knew her and had a personal relationship with her.

As for grandparents passing away, it all depends on what type of relationship you had with them.

 

[usfbrah]

I'm kind of numb to death since I've been around it alot. Messed up one of my relationships with an ex because she thought I didn't care enough when her mom died.

 

[Only Here for Attachments]

Empathy is overrated

 

[Krixes]

 

[MaureenCretis]

I don't worry at all.

 

[moreorless87]

Don’t beat yourself up about it bud, we all react to things in life differently.

Practicing empathy is something everybody can always do more of, I’m always finding myself having to stop for a moment and put myself in another person’s shoes to see things from their perspective.

The fact that you even realized this to the point of bringing it to your attention is telling of your character and your wanting to change, it’s normal my dude.

Theres the difference I would say between very direct empathy responding to emotions of others you experience and actively looking to put yourself in someone elses shoes in a given situation.

 

[tonysmasseuse]

Shit, no. Empathy is the bane of my life.

 

[pookiyama]

It's not sociopathy, it's narcissism.

The only method that works is fake it until you make it.