Wife and Mom tension

It isn't the opposing political views. It's the idea that if a group of Biden supporters were in the intersection my wife wouldn't have cheered knowing my mother doesn't share her beliefs. It isn't sports lol Jesus man.
Do you believe your mom would be offended if your wife vocally expressed support for Biden?
 
I'd never distract my mom and neither would my wife. I do find it odd my mom found that to be appropriate though. Idk if I just leave it be or discuss it. I don't want to hurt my mom's feelings. If she knew it bothered my wife I think she'd be upset.
I don't even see how it's that disrespectful though. All she did was say to honk at the Trumpers and your wife went all 13 year old emo and won't talk to you?

A democrat of 30 years ago is far/center right today. Can't say Trump doesn't align with the democrats she was raised with.
 
Do you believe your mom would be offended if your wife vocally expressed support for Biden?

I do...she would at least take it as disrespect knowing she has different views. It's a sensitive topic. It's much more than just a candidate, it is a whole way of thinking. It is so stand offish to draw your lime in the sand when you already know another person you care about doesn't share the same very important to them views.
 
You know what's crazy to me? She doesn't even have social media. She watches Fox News religiously. To be honest, I don't get how you could like ANY politician. If you are a fan of a particular one I just don't think we'd get along in general. It's horse shit to me lol.

I gave Trump the benefit of the doubt at the start of his presidency because he made an effort to reach out to folk in middle America and didn't have the baggage most career politicians have. I thought he might shake things up. It didn't take long for it to become obvious he's an incompetent, dangerous asshat. The Democrats have been totally useless in opposition. They're a fucking disgrace. The thought of voting for that senile lunatic Biden makes me sick. This is the 2nd election where normal people have no one they can vote for.
 
It isn't the opposing political views. It's the idea that if a group of Biden supporters were in the intersection my wife wouldn't have cheered knowing my mother doesn't share her beliefs. It isn't sports lol Jesus man.
Do you really constantly walk on egg shells with your wife? Who cares about cheering? It's not like either candidate has vastly different views.
 
I can see why your wife is ticked but on the other hand she should not let that shit get under her skin. By getting upset she is giving your mom all the power. She should laugh it off.
 
I do...she would at least take it as disrespect knowing she has different views. It's a sensitive topic. It's much more than just a candidate, it is a whole way of thinking. It is so stand offish to draw your lime in the sand when you already know another person you care about doesn't share the same very important to them views.
Perhaps you should communicate this to her instead of assuming her position on the matter. Most normal people are able to interact with others who have different political views without harbouring resentment towards them for it. If neither one of you can reconcile your beliefs with the others then you have much bigger problems in your family than who you are all choosing to vote for.
 
Wife's Mother... Older Filipina Woman... would come over and constantly nag me about taking care of my son (Different cultures) and try to take him from me.

"Give... Give him." was the go to whenever my son started getting fussy.

I put up with this for about five times, then told her to go fuck herself. She's never spoken to me again, but she also never comes over and I don't have to deal with it anymore. I'm not saying go hard in the paint like I did, but rather allow the situation to determine your level of response. She's purposely disrespecting you, and if you let it happen, it will continue to happen.

The amount of satisfaction I got from seeing that old bag recoil in horror at my words will make me smirk for the next thousand years.

I don't even see how it's that disrespectful though. All she did was say to honk at the Trumpers and your wife went all 13 year old emo and won't talk to you?

A democrat of 30 years ago is far/center right today. Can't say Trump doesn't align with the democrats she was raised with.

Just read what you have said. My wife...is not a Republican and my mom knows that. My mom, knows I am a Democrat and she tried to get me to honk at the Trump supporters to show support with them. That's not disrespectful? K.

I gave Trump the benefit of the doubt at the start of his presidency because he made an effort to reach out to folk in middle America and didn't have the baggage most career politicians have. I thought he might shake things up. It didn't take long for it to become obvious he's an incompetent, dangerous asshat. The Democrats have been totally useless in opposition. They're a fucking disgrace. The thought of voting for that senile lunatic Biden makes me sick. This is the 2nd election where normal people have no one they can vote for.

We both feel that way. The moment you don't support the guy you are in Antifa. Lol it's so stupid. I just don't like conflict every day and I want a middle of the road candidate that won't bother my stuff.
 
Wife's Mother... Older Filipina Woman... would come over and constantly nag me about taking care of my son (Different cultures) and try to take him from me.

"Give... Give him." was the go to whenever my son started getting fussy.

I put up with this for about five times, then told her to go fuck herself. She's never spoken to me again, but she also never comes over and I don't have to deal with it anymore. I'm not saying go hard in the paint like I did, but rather allow the situation to determine your level of response. She's purposely disrespecting you, and if you let it happen, it will continue to happen.

The amount of satisfaction I got from seeing that old bag recoil in horror at my words will make me smirk for the next thousand years.

So you told grandma to fuck off and wifey sided with you? Ballsy move.
 
So...quick caveat as there is always somebody that says this is a WR topic, but this isn't about what side you are on politically.

My mom and dad came up to visit the wife and I today. We were having a great day; got lunch, chatted for a few hours, hung at our house with our pup. Everything was going great until...we were headed over to a home and garden shop near my house and at the main intersection was a large group of Trump supporters with flags, yelling at the cars causing them to honk and cheer.

Like the rest of the country, NH is split pretty close to 50/50...maybe a little more Democrat but depends on where you are. So my wife and I were both raised Democrat and we still share many (not all of those values) but that isn't the point of this. My mom in the backseat starts cheering! Telling me to honk at them...knowing the wife and I are not huge supporters. We aren't liberals but that is how things apparently get divided lol.

My wife was quiet and respectful and my dad diffused the tension as best as he could. The damage was done. Idk what the hell to do as my wife has been quiet all night and felt disrespected...and I agree with her. That's my mom though so wtf...I'm stuck here.

Cliffs: Mom is a die hard Trump fan, wife is a Democrat and Mom cheered at Trump supporters in my car which angered my wife...more hurt than angered. Now idk how to proceed.

Double cliffs: Fuck all of this political bullshit I don't even care about any of it. Go away the lot of them!

Triple cliffs: <1> Me right now.
Your mom is the best!
 
Do you really constantly walk on egg shells with your wife? Who cares about cheering? It's not like either candidate has vastly different views.

I don't walk on eggshells man but I care when she's upset. I'm funny that way...

I can see why your wife is ticked but on the other hand she should not let that shit get under her skin. By getting upset she is giving your mom all the power. She should laugh it off.

I tried to get her to do this but this shit is so sensitive now. This climate blows...

That stuff can be divisive, though... I completely understand where TS is coming from. And in this case, it was used as a tool of dominance and disrespect.

You've summed up my feelings exactly.

Perhaps you should communicate this to her instead of assuming her position on the matter. Most normal people are able to interact with others who have different political views without harbouring resentment towards them for it. If neither one of you can reconcile your beliefs with the others then you have much bigger problems in your family than who you are all choosing to vote for.

Yeah because political conversations always end well. Someone calls someone a snowflake and then what? You aren't allowed to have any feelings unless they are the same as the other person. That's when the insults happen haha. Have you been to the WR????
 
I don't walk on eggshells man but I care when she's upset. I'm funny that way...



I tried to get her to do this but this shit is so sensitive now. This climate blows...



You've summed up my feelings exactly.



Yeah because political conversations always end well. Someone calls someone a snowflake and then what? You aren't allowed to have any feelings unless they are the same as the other person. That's when the insults happen haha. Have you been to the WR????
I would hope that political conversations in your household don’t end with your mother calling you a snowflake. You’re crafting this divisive story in your head about how you think a conversation about the election is going to go, it’s your mom, man... go talk to her. She’s not going to call her son a snowflake, she’ll probably be genuinely interested to here your beliefs and why you hold them.
 
I would hope that political conversations in your household don’t end with your mother calling you a snowflake. You’re crafting this divisive story in your head about how you think a conversation about the election is going to go, it’s your mom, man... go talk to her. She’s not going to call her son a snowflake, she’ll probably be genuinely interested to here your beliefs and why you hold them.

We have been down this road and it didn't end well. The thing about the media is it paints each side as crazy. So if you are on the opposition, the person you are discussing your beliefs with feels you are crazy. If you are a Democrat, you are a Socialist. Examples can be seen in this thread for God's sake. It's just the way the media (social and regular) have driven a fence between the country. The political ads are filled with division. If you believe one side, you can't be reasoned with if that is the agenda you are listening to.
 
My father in law was a massive Trump fan & it killed him. He was convinced that COVID-19 was a massive hoax & he refused to take the simplest of precautions. Right up until he caught the virus in May & he realized that it wasn't a hoax after all. But by then it was too late.

Now, I wish I'd have engaged him in debate more often than I did regarding his love for Trump & about the virus. But it wouldn't have done any good because he was a stubborn old coot. So, my wife & I just avoided the subject of politics with him as much as possible & we'd look the other way when he'd go off on one of his rants. Fortunately, they didn't occur very often unless he was watching Fox News. And he was only allowed to do that across the street at his own house. LOL.

As far as your mom is concerned, I'd just wait for things to ( hopefully ) blow over in the morning. Luckily, tomorrow is the last day before election day & after that, your mom won't have any reasons to bring up Trump anymore.
 
Years ago I watched this scary Japanese drama TV series where this super pretty wife was terrorized by her mother-in-law, who also kept her own mother-in-law confined in a shed in the backyard.
 
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