Why marriages don't last anymore ? is it still worth it ?

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  1. dontlaugh

    dontlaugh Black Belt

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    I don't know for how long it has been a tendency, but it seems it just doesn't last like it used to. My parents broke up 12 years into their marriage, almost every single one of my aunts and uncles also had short marriages or married many times.

    Most of my friends, co-workers and neighbors have stepdads or divorced parents too, my old classmates also.

    It seems people these days don't really see the "magic" in it anymore or maybe "the party every weekend" lifestyle has more gains for people these days than marrying. I've seen some pretty damn good arguments about not marrying being a smarter choice financially speaking.

    Is marriage still worth it or people these days are too screwed in the head to make a marriage last ? i know there's always the argument for the "right person", but shiet, it seems the right person is harder to find now more than ever. Talk about kids being screwed psychologically (at least a portion of them ).
     
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  2. mooner100

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    You guys sure fret about this topic a lot. Jesus.
     
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    ga_ninja Whopper or Die

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    Thats why I'm married to a Triple Whopper and she always puts out.
     
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    Elmonstro1 Bones Nose

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    Marriage is a religious born idea, most people are becoming less religious they might be correlated to each other.
     
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    I suspect it might also be tied to the internet. So many more options at your fingertips. So easy to find others to relate to, read stories of break ups and how much happier they are now...etc..
     
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    odog A cat trapped in a dog's body

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    The numbers on divorces is misleading. I can't remember the exact figures so these are an approximation. FIRST marriages are successful about 65% of the time, which isn't too bad. So why is the divorce rate so high? Because some people, like those in your family, are really fucking shitty at marriage so they marry numerous times and bring the number down. Second marriages fail at a high rate, third marriages at an even higher rate. And so on.

    So it's a case of a relatively small number of people who suck at relationships that make marriage look shitty.
     
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    dontlaugh Black Belt

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    I see, the minority that fucks up is more notorious than the big part that lives happy. Good point.
     
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    snakedafunky Red Belt

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    I think its just that there is less "shame" today in getting a divorce compared to the past.
    People were probably equally unhappy in their marriage but divorce wasn't really on option for many couples.
     
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    Lol, well it's something to care about. It's a big step in everyone's life.
     
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    Yeah right now it is more like, ok to be divorced. Still, don't people think of all the effort and thought/decision put into Marriage ?

    The more common divorce gets, the less weight marriage seems to carry. It should be a big responsibility for everybody.
     
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    TeTe Favorite Worst Nightmare Staff Member Senior Moderator

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    If you find the right person, sure.

    It takes two mature people to make any relationship work. If one person or both aren't mature.. it's probably doomed.
     
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    John Wayne's Teeth Green Gucci Suit Platinum Member

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    its "to" dummy
     
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    Agree, but finding someone mature enough for Marriage is becoming harder. At least...it seems.
     
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    Horse Style Silver Belt

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    Divorce is less frowned up than in the past. So people will split when the marriage fails instead of remaining miserable in a failed marriage
     
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    IMO it's because people don't really need to marry anymore, let alone stay married. Woman aren't hostages to their husbands like they used to and when both sides are independent they put up with a lot less bullshit.
     
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    Yeah but also silly reasons to divorce like "you put it in the wrong hole i wanna divorce now". If you're a rich guy women will try to pull that on you all the time trying to get some money or something.
     
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    KYS Silver Belt Banned

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    For sure. You're thinking about marrying?

    #PlatinumBless
     
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    Horse Style Silver Belt

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    I assume you heard of a story where this happened. I think it's safe that this reason is a rarity and thus not something worth considering in this discussion.
     
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    Right ? they don't need the husbands beating the shit out of them anymore, they can do well by themselves.

    Good thing tho, a Women with firm decisions is more reliable than Women that only engaged in serious relationships because most people around them do and tell them they should do it too.
     
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    dontlaugh Black Belt

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    Well...yeah...

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