But you don't have to be more sensitive or use different techniques?
And if you can't tell a joke in front of a selective demographic, its usually a good idea not to tell the joke at all. Probably racist, sexist or offensive in some way.
What did I say about thinking less in terms of gender? If you sub her, great, you sub a fellow grappler. If you don't, then there's more to learn. Its like the same as sparring with smaller guys and you really shouldn't think of sparring as "beating" someone. If you want to beat people, you compete.
Also, I think you get what you want from sparring. You can always try to test new technique on (presumably) weaker opponents. Just because you hold back on the strength doesn't mean you hold back on the techniques you use...if you are good enough at it, some of the sweeps/most of the chokes don't even require much strength to begin with.
I honestly think at this point women are the ones who are tolerating you. Just like the rest of us here who clearly think you are sixteen or something.