When you don't have the heart to tell them the truth

[spin]

the thread topic is all good, but as far as the individual girl


meh, she's 20.




20 yr olds dont think right. and as long as they dont have kids, dont need to.

 

[spin]

I have no problem telling people the truth, I'm not the most popular or loved guy out there, but the people that are in my life respect me for being honest, and real.

plus its fun to hurt people's feelings, and they can't even legitimately get mad at you, because its the truth.

 

[EndlessCritic]

My wife: "Did I pressure you to propose to me?"

Me: "No"

 

[ThulsaDooom]

There were these two fat cows at my gym once talking about a guy who’s a regular. Dude’s in phenomenal shape but he’s only around 5’7”. Still taller than these two whales.

Anyways I heard one of them say to the other “what about him? He’s cute?” And the other one says “no way. He’s too short.” The old lady on the treadmill next to them broke out laughing and was shaking her head.

As #3 on the P4P GOAT Manlet Brotherhood list at 5'9" and a half, I've gotten that a lot on first dates. "Normally l go for taller guys..." then they usually follow-up with a "but you were really funny" or something along those lines. I've bitten my tongue a fair share when confronted by that line coming from some under 5'3" Topeka 7s. But if I was really into the woman, I just brushed it off.

 

[SmilinDesperado]

I don't think I would discourage a friend from pursuing someone that was physically out-of their league. Unattractive people do land attractive ones from time to time. So, why not try?

There's really no need to bring up your friend's weight. You just point out what the dude did, or didn't do and tell her that that guy wasn't interested in you in a serious way. Leave the "why" to her to figure out.
She either knows she's fat and doesn't care, or doesn't know she's fat, and thus, delusional. Does no good pointing out the obvious

 

[SmilinDesperado]

I did have a talk with a friend recently about pretty much the same topic, but i left out the looks part of the discussion.
This guy isn't ugly, but he's chubby, and is not a conventionally attractive dude. Again, not ugly...but he just has some shit about him that isn't going to make girls want to throw panties at him.

This dude is ALWAYS going after girls 10 years his junior that are the bubbly, club dancer type. This isn't his style at all. He doesn't go to clubs, and isn't this energetic guy that would fit a girl like that. Everytime i meet the new bartender he's infatuated with, i already know it's a no-go immediately .
The dude has some ridiculous high standards. I've never seen him with a girl in the 3 years ive known him. And when ive tried to hook him with girls he's like "yeaaa that's not my type, man"
Dude is gonna be jacking off for eternity

 

[zapataxiv]

I did have a talk with a friend recently about pretty much the same topic, but i left out the looks part of the discussion.
This guy isn't ugly, but he's chubby, and is not a conventionally attractive dude. Again, not ugly...but he just has some shit about him that isn't going to make girls want to throw panties at him.

This dude is ALWAYS going after girls 10 years his junior that are the bubbly, club dancer type. This isn't his style at all. He doesn't go to clubs, and isn't this energetic guy that would fit a girl like that. Everytime i meet the new bartender he's infatuated with, i already know it's a no-go immediately .
The dude has some ridiculous high standards. I've never seen him with a girl in the 3 years ive known him. And when ive tried to hook him with girls he's like "yeaaa that's not my type, man"
Dude is gonna be jacking off for eternity

buy him a plat membership to pornhub and if he ever considers buying a van notify the FBI.

 

[SmilinDesperado]

buy him a plat membership to pornhub and if he ever considers buying a van notify the FBI.

Lol in our circle of friends, we have decided he either is gay and is compensating, or he's secretly really religious and scared/or waiting for marriage. He's too low T for a white van

He'll occasionally have a story about hooking up with a girl for a one-nighter, but it just so happens to always only be at the times when he's alone.

 

[zapataxiv]

Lol in our circle of friends, we have decided he either is gay and is compensating, or he's secretly really religious and scared/or waiting for marriage. He's too low T for a white van

He'll occasionally have a story about hooking up with a girl for a one-nighter, but it just so happens to always only be at the times when he's alone.

one of my best friends in high school was like that and he was just a forever virgin maybe a little low on the EQ scale but he always struck out big with the ladies. Everybody just started assuming he was gay (even the ladies) dude is straight he just didn't know how to interact with people. Anyway now he is married and we never hang out because he is embarrassed by the memories. i once hooked him up with this girl who basically agreed to blow him and apparently he went over to her house made fun of her TV and then questioned her about her sexual history and then wanted to see every room in her house. ended up not scoring and the chick was so embarrassed she basically begged me to do anything to get him from ever contacting her again...

 

[Seaside]

LOL in 10 years she's going to be one of those chicks who writes an article on the huffington post claiming that she's 35 and there aren't any men left for her to marry.

To be honest it'd be safer to just sterilize her now, dat low iq could pollute humanity.

Give this man an award. Youd have a position in my global regime. Well if she is pretty keep her dna and have her become part of your harem.

 

[SmilinDesperado]

one of my best friends in high school was like that and he was just a forever virgin maybe a little low on the EQ scale but he always struck out big with the ladies. Everybody just started assuming he was gay (even the ladies) dude is straight he just didn't know how to interact with people. Anyway now he is married and we never hang out because he is embarrassed by the memories. i once hooked him up with this girl who basically agreed to blow him and apparently he went over to her house made fun of her TV and then questioned her about her sexual history and then wanted to see every room in her house. ended up not scoring and the chick was so embarrassed she basically begged me to do anything to get him from ever contacting her again...

Lol damn. Yeaaaaa, sounds quite a bit like my friend
I know he's straight, but he's just terrible at reading girls and situations. And he gets easily jealous and frustrated when the attention isn't on him.

When we go out and we're talking to girls, his go-to move is to try and make fun of me, or the other guys to make himself look funny.
It ALWAYS backfires, but he never learns. He's just herding girls to us, because he makes himself look like a weirdo.

He's had a few situations where all he had to do was ask for the number and he would've gotten it, and he instead just says something weird, or points out someone having a bald spot, or something else inane, anddd the conversation is killed
Just cant teach some things

 

[90 50]

I did have a talk with a friend recently about pretty much the same topic, but i left out the looks part of the discussion.
This guy isn't ugly, but he's chubby, and is not a conventionally attractive dude. Again, not ugly...but he just has some shit about him that isn't going to make girls want to throw panties at him.

This dude is ALWAYS going after girls 10 years his junior that are the bubbly, club dancer type. This isn't his style at all. He doesn't go to clubs, and isn't this energetic guy that would fit a girl like that. Everytime i meet the new bartender he's infatuated with, i already know it's a no-go immediately .
The dude has some ridiculous high standards. I've never seen him with a girl in the 3 years ive known him. And when ive tried to hook him with girls he's like "yeaaa that's not my type, man"
Dude is gonna be jacking off for eternity

I have that exact friend to a T, I wonder if it’s the same person lol.

His name is Mike

 

[Seaside]

we live in a bizarre time where girls that clearly aren't THAT attractive have been artificially inflated to believe they are. People actually say being fat is healthy, w/ a straight face at that.

honestly I think the removal of the actual bullying culture has resulted in this, along w/ some other trends highlighting the weakening of modern Western society

not keeping score in kids sports, Barney telling everyone they're special, no more corporal punishment, rampant entitlement, etc.....when you remove the competitive aspect of many parts of life, people not only become content w/ what they are, but also delude themselves into false expectations

Move to the 3rd world or 2nd world countries. Delusion can still exist but the increased risk of death or violence and lack of western lifestyle creates a culture of crazyiness and fun.

 

[90 50]

To the OP, it sounds like she was trying to tell you she was with late night hook ups if you were to call her late.

And she was available.


Smash it and report back.

 

[SmilinDesperado]

I have that exact friend to a T, I wonder if it’s the same person lol.

His name is Mike

Lol Nah, my delusional friend is a Liam.
I think there is a breed of this kind of dude. I've known a couple guys like this

 

[Milgrim]

So this girl is young, like 20, and she's got a semi cute face but she's pretty chubby.

I was talking to her and she mentioned that she turned down a date from this guy because she wants someone much hotter. Now I've seen the guy that she turned down, and he's on her level if not above. So I was curious to hear what league she thought she was in.

I asked her what made her think that she could get such a hot guy? And she said, "well i did it before"

So I probed a bit there, and basically they're was a really hot guy she met in college. They had sex late one night, then a few sporadic times after that. Always late at night. And she was annoyed that they never even had a break up conversation. One day he was just dating someone else and then he graduated and moved away.

I just remember feeling so sorry for this girl. In her head she thought she had a legit relationship with this guy, when in reality he just used her as his booty call. And the fact that he only did it a few times tells me that she was his absolute last resort. When all his other girls were busy, he knows at 3am he can always bust a nut in this fatty.

I didn't have the heart to tell her the truth. She would just argue with me anyway. She's going to have to figure out that shit on her own.

Have you ever had a situation where you didn't have the heart to tell someone the truth?

I've come close a couple of times. I think it's time to let fly with a hard dose of reality and then I see that sad, earnest face and just say, "Nice thread, @Clippy."

 

[Michaelangelo]

respek to all the 3 AM whales out there

 

[HunterSdVa29]

Move to the 3rd world or 2nd world countries. Delusion can still exist but the increased risk of death or violence and lack of western lifestyle creates a culture of crazyiness and fun.

have spent time in quite a few 'emerging markets' and i'd agree on that pt

as for second world, I think Kyrgyzstan is the only country I've been that falls into that category. Had I not been there in dead winter I might've enjoyed it, who knows haha

 

[n...not crazy]

I can't wait to tell my daughters the truth about men in brute force plain language. They'll be some weird ladies perhaps, but they'll never be booty calls.

 

[dc007]

Oh I just tell them. People need to hear the truth. Especially women who think a guy fucking them makes them attractive. We'll fuck anything if it's been a long enough drought.