When do you sever ties with your friends?

[Lost]

For me I'm kind of getting sick of my group of friends because certain poisonous people in my friends.

its like, I'm forcing myself to be nice to someone I could just fucking destroy, by simple telling them to stop acting the way that they do and calling them on all of their bullshit.

The reason I don't just tear into this person is they have someone mutual friends, so it just makes me the bad guy. The shitty part is I'm pretty bad with interacting with new people so I can't really seem to break away.

Man..

I need to find another outlet, I think and just distance myself away from these people. Its funny I was just talking to one of few really close friends about a friend of our we never see, and I wonder if he just felt the same way and just needed to break away from the bullshit and responsibility of trying to maintain a proper friendship, one that is equal on both sides..

So when do you simple say, I'm done with you guys, don't talk to me anymore?

any thoughts on this and can you relate to this situation?

Cliffs:
* Tired of bullshit people in my group of friends do

* Contemplating just ignoring them "my main group of friends" as a whole because deeply rooted people in the relationship of friends piss me off

* When do you cut ties with friends and can you relate to this issue.

edit: relevant article

http://stronginsideout.com/2011/08/02/fire-your-friends-drop-the-negative-people-in-your-life/

 

[IIIIIIII]

i've had to do this a few times. i think it's simply a matter of people changing with time, and other situations and influences affecting them.

this happens with all of us, and it's natural to move away from certain people. so i personally wouldn't worry about it if i were the threadstarter.

 

[Slick_36]

De ja vu...

Honestly, it sounds like you need to leave the island and do some exploring. Find yourself and the friends will follow.

 

[Lost]

i've had to do this a few times. i think it's simply a matter of people changing with time, and other situations and influences affecting them.

this happens with all of us, and it's natural to move away from certain people. so i personally wouldn't worry about it if i were the threadstarter.

Good to hear its just not me.

Its a bit scary to think about, but I guess it would be for the best.

what made you break away from your old friends?

 

[Slick_36]

Good to hear its just not me.

Its a bit scary to think about, but I guess it would be for the best.

what made you break away from your old friends?

Lmfao this is tripping me out.

 

[Lost]

Lmfao this is tripping me out.

Its bizarre to hear honest and sincere opinions isn't it.

Its nice not to be shut down for no reason, with some bullshit answer like man up, for a change.

 

[Cestus]

if i don't want drop the whole group but i'm just tired of few ones, i've no problem keep go out with them and at the same time make clear and well known that i consider xxx and yyy douchebags

Don't see the problem, i've lost the count of times i said "you're not my friend,i don't like you" to peoples in the same group, specially the ones that act like if is automatic you have to eat their shit because you go around all together

As long you're straight about that, every whisper they can do against you just make them look bitches

 

[Slick_36]

Its bizarre to hear honest and sincere opinions isn't it.

Its nice not to be shut down for no reason, with some bullshit answer like man up, for a change.

Lol I meant us nearly quoting eachother back and forth from the two threads without seeing the other post first. I can still see this going south here. We'll see.

 

[Lost]

if i don't want drop the whole group but i'm just tired of few ones, i've no problem keep go out with them and at the same time make clear and well known that i consider xxx and yyy douchebags

Don't see the problem, i've lost the count of times i said "you're not my friend,i don't like you" to peoples in the same group, specially the ones that act like if is automatic you have to eat their shit because you go around all together

As long you're straight about that, every whisper they can do against you just make them look bitches

Damn, I respect you man, I really do.

For me personally I'm not sure if I could do that, one of my biggest problems is I want everyone to like me, as stupid as that is and how impossible that would be to accomplish.

The worst part being if I just straight up told someone in my group I dislike them, I could be alienated. I kind of feel more comfortable just alienating everyone in my group.

The part that makes it difficult is I'm kind of the outsider being the newest member of group, so no one is willing really step up for me I assume. Maybe I just have shitty friends, hell if I know.

 

[big perken**]

If you are not getting anything out of the relationship than there is no point keeping it. Times change people change it happens to everyone. Time is to precious to be wasting it with people and things you don't enjoy.
Best of luck man

 

[IIIIIIII]

Good to hear its just not me.

Its a bit scary to think about, but I guess it would be for the best.

what made you break away from your old friends?

some of it was due to friends raising families and not being around for my lifestyle (single, going out to bars often, etc.), and not being engaged enough in eachother's lives to maintain a friendship.

and other times it was due to people simply changing. some of my past friends began to run with the wrong people. and with others, it was simply due to their personalities, along with my own, changing with time. you also find yourself meeting new people who you happen to have more in common with. leaving friends doesn't always have to be due to something wrong that someone did. it's simply due to finding others who you happen to bond with more.

life is too short to set your desires to the side in order to accommodate someone else's feelings.

 

[Benoco]

Is it a single person/turd?

 

[Lost]

If you are not getting anything out of the relationship than there is no point keeping it. Times change people change it happens to everyone. Time is to precious to be wasting it with people and things you don't enjoy.
Best of luck man

Thanks man. I appreciate the support.

I need to find a new outlet and expand my horizons.

 

[IIIIIIII]

The part that makes it difficult is I'm kind of the outsider being the newest member of group, so no one is willing really step up for me I assume. Maybe I just have shitty friends, hell if I know.

how old are you?

i ask, because i was similar when i was in my early twenties. i felt like i needed a group of people around me. now that i'm in my early thirties, i have more one-to-one friendships where there is no group mentality. it's also due to becoming a more independent person.

 

[Lost]

some of it was due to friends raising families and not being around for my lifestyle (single, going out to bars often, etc.), and not being engaged enough in eachother's lives to maintain a friendship.

and other times it was due to people simply changing. some of my past friends began to run with the wrong people. and with others, it was simply due to their personalities, along with my own, changing with time. you also find yourself meeting new people who you happen to have more in common with. leaving friends doesn't always have to be due to something wrong that someone did. it's simply due to find others who you happen to bond with more.

life is too short to set your desires to the side in order to accommodate someone else's feelings.

What you're saying is truly resonating with me, I shouldn't try and compromise myself in a situation. Maybe its just a cruel reality check that I have shitty friends that I'm wasting my time trying to mend failing relationships.

 

[Slick_36]

how old are you?

i ask, because i was similar when i was in my early twenties. i felt like i needed a group of people around me. now that i'm in my early thirties, i have more one-to-one friendships where there is no group mentality. it's also due to becoming a more independent person.

Lol nail on the head Parthenon.

 

[Slick_36]

What you're saying is truly resonating with me, I shouldn't try and compromise myself in a situation. Maybe its just a cruel reality check that I have shitty friends that I'm wasting my time trying to mend failing relationships.

Or you're all kids and you're just one of the first to mature and it makes you loom like the bad guy.

 

[Reyesnuthugr]

You're just afraid to meet new people, I think. When you know several different groups, you can float where you're appreciated and disappear in a puff when someone acts like jackass.

The best part is you're not "abandoning" anybody, you're just "busy" lookin cool and doing a lot of stuff

 

[Lost]

how old are you?

i ask, because i was similar when i was in my early twenties. i felt like i needed a group of people around me. now that i'm in my early thirties, i have more one-to-one friendships where there is no group mentality. it's also due to becoming a more independent person.

I just turned 20 three days ago. As far as the independence maybe that's what I need to establish.

I kind of just tag along. The real thing that pissed me off is I always go out of my way to do shit for people on their birthdays and known of my friends got me shit. Hell today was supposed to be a late celebration of my birthday and no one even mentioned it. Lets not get this confused as if I'm only butt hurt about the birthday thing or something I have been feeling like this the past year and a half lots of fighting amongst my quote on quote friends. It always feels like no one is on my side in those situations. Maybe I'm just paranoid but I'm really sick of everyone's bullshit
You know what I do have shitty friends.

 

[DOS 3point1**]

Cut em loose. It took Facebook for me to realize how much I despised a lot of people as well as Facebook itself.

What can I say? I'm a bitter person who seems nice but deep down I'm saying "please stfu, I don't care how your day is going."

Sort of like a Jim Carrey Liar Liar or Yes Man character.

Depends also on you and your friends. I mean, I realized after a while my friends were just fillers. Friends because we partied but when it really came down to it, they were nothing.