What will you do with your parents when they will get too old?

[quantiqus]

What will you do with your parents when they will get too old and they will not be able to take care of themselves?
- nursing homes?
- hire someone to take care of them?
- are you going to move them to your city, near you?

Have you talked about this with your brothers/sisters (if you have any)?
How expensive are the nursing homes or hiring someone in your area/country?

 

[Midnighter]

Send them out into the wilderness during winter.

 

[neverwas]

I've already buried mine,you insensitive asshole!

 

[breadfighter]

Cremate them.

 

[IloveTHIS]

My mom will probably outlive me so nothing

 

[tonysmasseuse]

Nothing. It's not my decision to make.

 

[Ikuza]

Nothing. Both are dead.

I'll probably send myself to a nursing home though unless I get married. I hear old people be getting it on something fierce in those communities.

 

[GearSolidMetal]

Probably shoot 'em.


Nursing homes are too expensive, and I can barely afford my Plat account.

 

[Wrath of Foamy]

I've had this conversation with two people.

The first was a Somalian colleague, around thirty, male, nice bloke. He said that he never had a mother but if he did then he would do everything for her, even give up his wife and children. I debated this (as I had watched a man's video diary of him and his dementia-suffering mother) with him and it got heated, but we are still friends.

A few days later I talked to Mum about this for her perspective, and she said that she would rather die than be any type of burden on her children. I told her that I would fully look after her, unless she had a disease that degraded her mentally, because I probably won't be able to handle it very well and I don't want her or any other family member to be harmed. I'd put her in a good home or get her a carer and check up on her every day.

 

[therealdope]

- nursing homes? If it's appropriate, yes
- hire someone to take care of them? yes, if that would help before he's moved into a home
- are you going to move them to your city, near you? Nope

Have you talked about this with your brothers/sisters (if you have any)? yes
How expensive are the nursing homes or hiring someone in your area/country? It depends on the amount of care they need but a good long term care facility can be $8,000/month

 

[quantiqus]

I've already buried mine,you insensitive asshole!

No worry!
Me Eastern European.
I have shovel.
I give you shovel too.
We unbury them.
We take worms and make protein bars.
Business idea.

Cremate them.

No worms.
No business idea with you.
Bad businessman.

Send them out into the wilderness during winter.

They will need protein, my friend!
Can I sell you protein bars?

- nursing homes? If it's appropriate, yes
- hire someone to take care of them? yes, if that would help before he's moved into a home
- are you going to move them to your city, near you? Nope

Have you talked about this with your brothers/sisters (if you have any)? yes
How expensive are the nursing homes or hiring someone in your area/country? It depends on the amount of care they need but a good long term care facility can be $8,000/month

8,000 a months?
That much?
Seriously?
Canada or US?

 

[therealdope]

8,000 a months?
That much?
Seriously?
Canada or US?

that's just good/avg. In California, the avg cost of long term care is $110,000/yr.

 

[adifighter86]

Take care of them, see how older people live in Asia.

Most of them goes to Casino and bars, enjoying life the way it should be.

There's a reason why a lot of foreign people wanted to retire in our country.

 

[thetruth2709]

My parents are very old already man, my mom is taking care of my dad which is the one in worst shape. However if my dad dies it would be such a gigantic blow to my mom emotionally that I think she would have to live with my sister or I, I think she would completely let go of her own if she stays by herself, most probably my sister would taker her.... if my mom goes I dont think my dad would make it much longer. They both live close to my sister and I so I visit them once a week. I know my sister goes more often than me

 

[MMA since 1993]

 

[Organic Damage]

My dad is significantly older than my mom but I can see him outliving her due to their relative difference in general health. Once she's no longer around to take care of him I don't know what will happen since he is used to being catered too but is too proud and independent to be in a home.

I definitely don't have the temperament to be a nursemaid but I am the only child in a position to do anything for my parents when they become infirm. Not looking forward to it at all.

 

[Sharon Peters]

Mine live on 55 acres in the middle of the woods...by the time things devolve to the point of needing care from an outside source they'll have already gone all "hillbilly justice" on some folks and the decision will no longer be in our hands.

 

[Darth_Inv1ctu5]

Lapot.

 

[Scerpi]

Well, my Dad and Step-Mom died quickly from quick moving cancer... The only thing good about that was that it was quick and they didn't spends years suffering. It just fucking sucks because they were too young and my kids will never get to know them.

But my Mom is healthy physically, but is a borderline mental case. She's sold most of her possessions, left home in Denver to live in a studio in Chicago. She doesn't have any close friends because she ends up alienating them. She's already borderline alienated my wife. My wife puts on a cordial face when my mom visits (bless her), but any hope of a close relationship there is out the window.

My mom travels extensively on a limited budget. Egypt, Morocco, Europe, Central/South America. She always goes solo because she travels so frugally and no one in their right mind would want to spend 7 days with her in a foreign country.

That all said, I'm happy that she's content doing her own thing. I can only stand spending a few days with her at a time. I call her at least weekly and that seems to work for her.

My brother and she are oil and water and they are always at each other throats. So one day, when she's going to need help comes, it'll be up to me... somehow. She has no desire to come to Texas... So I have no idea how's going to play out. My wife said she'll help in any way she, even if it means we have to move her in... The thought of it scares the shit out of me.

I can go into detail about her in anyone is really interested, but I don't want to turn this into a mom bashing post.

 

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