I don't know where you are getting the contempt that Jesus has for marriage.
The Bible. The same place Christians got it for about 1500 years, before they started to reinterpret these texts in a more 'marriage friendly' light. The entire reason the Catholic priesthood is celibate, and has been for about 2000 years now, is because the NT is so blatantly clear that the Christian spiritual elite are anti-marriage and anti-sexuality.
Matthew 19 could not possibly be clearer when the disciples ask Jesus whether they shouldn't get married then given what he says, and he says yes, it's a hard teaching that only a few (the spiritual elite) can accept, but that such people are like eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven -- not everybody can achieve or accept this, but it's the ideal.
If you are having difficulty understanding what these verses say, I repeat they say exactly what the text says, and what most mainline Christians have read them as saying for 2000 years: Better not to get married. Protestantism has tried to radically reinterpret these verses, or ignore them, in the move to exalt marriage and move away from the radical Judgment Day centered spiritual elitism that the NT exalts.
In this, Jesus just taught the exact same view that Paul repeated.
"Yet I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each man has his own gift from God, one in this manner, and another in that. But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I. But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.…"
Marriage, again, for the spiritually weak losers who lack self control, and the only reason it's tolerated is as a way to avoid even greater sin of unmarried promiscuity and lust. St. Paul isn't trying to confuse you here. It's not a trick. He's being as clear as he can.
This is just what Jesus and Paul both outright say. It's not unclear, it was never unclear, and it never will be unclear, no matter how much contemporary Protestant Christians want to get hetero married, pump out kids, and complain about poor people.