using the term gay to describe something is offensive. That's why. It's like calling my black shoes being as dark as a n.... Or calling a person jewish because he's cheap. It's offensive to use the term "Gay" to describe something that has nothing to do with homosexuality. Unless you're gay, Like myself, you really have no basis to comment on what's offensive when using the term "gay"
Jewish people and black people are Jewish or Black because their parents are Jewish or Black. Are your parents gay? I don't think it's apples to apples to compare being gay to being black or Jewish. With that said, I don't think it's fair to pick on someone or belittle them because of what they do in the bedroom.
I'm not gay... nor do I have anything against gay people. It has just always been funny to me that gay people are the only group of people that identify themselves by what they do in the bedroom or who they sleep with. It's not like people that like blowjobs band together and have parades or clubs that cater to them. You've never heard anybody say... "Hey, we're going to a doggy style club tonight!"... or, "I'm going to support this politician because his favorite position is lazy boy." There is never any debates about whether being attracted to brunettes and turned off my red heads is a choice or a genetic predisposition.
I'm not trying to pick on gay people... and, whether I agree with it or not, I don't think it is my place to tell someone else how they have to live... But I've just always thought it was funny that, for allot gay people, there sexual preferences or predisposition seems to be their whole identity. I mean, my friend loves big girls and I don't call him names or make fun of him... but he also doesn't have a sticker on his car telling the world he likes big girls.
As long as it's consensual and between adults, do what you want in the bedroom... but, it's not necessary to boast it, or have a sense of pride because of it, or have some kind of recognizable symbol that lets everyone know how you spend your intimate time or who you spend it with. Just my 2 cents...
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