The fear of growing older, it is crippling.

[Sauk]

Ever since I was a boy I despised the idea of growing older. Not sure why, but I always felt 40 yrs old was the end of the line for me, in that I had no desire to be older. I feared the gray hair, my body shutting down, and also the 'settling down' idea - be it personally or professional.

For men, we peak sexually and physically at around 35, and mentally we don't come into maturity until 25. So a man's prime years are just ten of them, between the ages of 25-35.

I'm 38 years old and the last two years have been hell for me because I see 40 is approaching. Does anyone else have this fear, or had it and got past it ?

I have no idea what I'm supposed to do with the time I have left on this planet. Do I just keep working the usual routine I have been doing until I'm 70 ?

 

[JAEGERX]

its good for ourselves to reflect on the fact that we are mortals and that death is real, what are you supposed to do from this day until you die, thats on you, but fear is the mind killer and fear will destroy you while you are still alive.

anyway great post for a white belt, welcome to these lands lad.

 

[squeezewax]

I hardly ever think about it. However once in a blue moon i'll serioiusly think about the fact that i will not exist someday soon, and the fear is terrible. Maybe because i'm now 59 yrs old.
The last 20 yrs have seemed more like about 10 as time speeds up so much as a person ages. So i know the next 20 yrs will seem like less than 10.
I expect i'll die when i'm 70 so thats really, really close. I can't believe i'm almost at the end of my life.

 

[Deleted member 457759]

I had difficulties letting go of my childhood in my 20s. I'm 35 now.

You have to invision an identity and purpose for yourself as an older person.

Its fucking gay but as soon as you swallow the pill it's cool.

 

[ralphc1]

It's easy to stop getting older!

 

[KoreanZawmbie]

Youth is wasted on the young....

Looking back, there were a lot more I could have done in my early 20's, which would have set me up perfectly into my 40's (started my career relatively late)...I'm in the same boat as you TS.

Yet, a lot of the old timers (guys that are in their mid 50;s right now) all tell me, you don't truly live until you're 40 and onward anyways. During your 20 to 30's, you're suppose to bust your ass. I dont know, we'll see about that..

 

[Cool Hand Luke]

40 has been a breeze

 

[Amerikuracana]

Ever since I was a boy I despised the idea of growing older. Not sure why, but I always felt 40 yrs old was the end of the line for me, in that I had no desire to be older. I feared the gray hair, my body shutting down, and also the 'settling down' idea - be it personally or professional.

For men, we peak sexually and physically at around 35, and mentally we don't come into maturity until 25. So a man's prime years are just ten of them, between the ages of 25-35.

I'm 38 years old and the last two years have been hell for me because I see 40 is approaching. Does anyone else have this fear, or had it and got past it ?

I have no idea what I'm supposed to do with the time I have left on this planet. Do I just keep working the usual routine I have been doing until I'm 70 ?

Just try to stay in shape.

Now that women are in charge, they continue to bang young guys into their 50s, and act like they aren't attracted to guys their own age. That actually offends me looking forward. I'm not shallow enough.

I'll enjoy watching my kids enjoy life, I hope. Having little ones let's you see the world through their eyes in a way, and it's nice.

I just need more money.

 

[salamander]

There is an element of grace that can be attained as a you grow old. It's unmistakable when you see it in others, and for me it's always kind of inspiring.

 

[Darth_Inv1ctu5]

Ever since I was a boy I despised the idea of growing older. Not sure why, but I always felt 40 yrs old was the end of the line for me, in that I had no desire to be older. I feared the gray hair, my body shutting down, and also the 'settling down' idea - be it personally or professional.

For men, we peak sexually and physically at around 35, and mentally we don't come into maturity until 25. So a man's prime years are just ten of them, between the ages of 25-35.

I'm 38 years old and the last two years have been hell for me because I see 40 is approaching. Does anyone else have this fear, or had it and got past it ?

I have no idea what I'm supposed to do with the time I have left on this planet. Do I just keep working the usual routine I have been doing until I'm 70 ?

Right there with you bro. My response to the fear is to get as strong as possible now, for no particular reason. I know life is pointless overall but I figure peacing out, as an option, will always be there. Until then, play w my dogs, enjoy my wife's company, hang w friends here and there, do a bit of traveling, read some philosophy and history... and run gear cycles till I die strong ... There's no grand scheme of things, a meaning - just max out on enjoyment, whatever you derive it from

 

[Sauk]

Maybe because i'm now 59 yrs old. I expect i'll die when i'm 70 so thats really, really close. I can't believe i'm almost at the end of my life.

I don't fear dying, I fear not being under 40 anymore - physically. I have zero fear of not existing anymore. I fear aging and how it is to not be in your thirties anymore.

 

[My name is]

I'm fine with getting older

 

[MadSquabbles500]

For men, we peak sexually and physically at around 35, and mentally we don't come into maturity until 25. So a man's prime years are just ten of them, between the ages of 25-35.

Donald Trump says otherwise.

 

[Spoken]

You need therapy

 

[Fatman1]

I royally fucked up my late-teens and 20's by suffering from depression, dropping out of university (twice), taking a lot of drugs/drinking, accumulating a lot of debt and working a dead end job that didn't pay much.

I thoroughly recommend it. Of course, there were good bits too: I travelled, banged anything that was female and had a pulse, had no real responsibility, etc.

Now I'm 33 and halfway through university. I'll be qualifying as a Clinical Psychologist when I'm around 38-39 years old. I am driven, know how to work hard and my grades are awesome. On scholarships so it's not costing me much either.

I look forward to my 40's because I'll still be fresh in a career I love, earning more than I ever have, etc. Can't wait.

I think a lot more people need to spend their prime years having fun rather than chasing a career. When they follow the traditional route they seem to burn out at 45, get divorced and end up sad and alone.

Although I didn't reject that route intentionally, I had depression, I'm glad it is only now that I'm getting round to the whole grown up thing.

 

[ShinkanPo]

Ever since I was a boy I despised the idea of growing older. Not sure why, but I always felt 40 yrs old was the end of the line for me, in that I had no desire to be older. I feared the gray hair, my body shutting down, and also the 'settling down' idea - be it personally or professional.

For men, we peak sexually and physically at around 35, and mentally we don't come into maturity until 25. So a man's prime years are just ten of them, between the ages of 25-35.

I'm 38 years old and the last two years have been hell for me because I see 40 is approaching. Does anyone else have this fear, or had it and got past it ?

I have no idea what I'm supposed to do with the time I have left on this planet. Do I just keep working the usual routine I have been doing until I'm 70 ?

Is this midlife crisis?

 

[Darth_Inv1ctu5]

I don't fear dying, I fear not being under 40 anymore - physically. I have zero fear of not existing anymore. I fear aging and how it is to not be in your thirties anymore.

Gear. The fuck. Up. You don't need to go crazy, keep it simple and it doesn't need to be super expensive. I'm bracing for old age too - but fuck me if I'll go without a fight.

 

[ShinkanPo]

I royally fucked up my late-teens and 20's by suffering from depression, dropping out of university (twice), taking a lot of drugs/drinking, accumulating a lot of debt and working a dead end job that didn't pay much.

I thoroughly recommend it. Of course, there were good bits too: I travelled, banged anything that was female and had a pulse, had no real responsibility, etc.

Now I'm 33 and halfway through university. I'll be qualifying as a Clinical Psychologist when I'm around 38-39 years old. I am driven, know how to work hard and my grades are awesome. On scholarships so it's not costing me much either.

I look forward to my 40's because I'll still be fresh in a career I love, earning more than I ever have, etc. Can't wait.

I think a lot more people need to spend their prime years having fun rather than chasing a career. When they follow the traditional route they seem to burn out at 45, get divorced and end up sad and alone.

Although I didn't reject that route intentionally, I had depression, I'm glad it is only now that I'm getting round to the whole grown up thing.

Late teens depression is so unfortunate it robed me of my youth. Just like you I flunk university twice and got really sick.

But unlike you I did not get to bang because I am just so socially awkward person so no pussy for me until I am in my mid 20s.

 

[Darth_Inv1ctu5]

I royally fucked up my late-teens and 20's by suffering from depression, dropping out of university (twice), taking a lot of drugs/drinking, accumulating a lot of debt and working a dead end job that didn't pay much.

I thoroughly recommend it. Of course, there were good bits too: I travelled, banged anything that was female and had a pulse, had no real responsibility, etc.

Now I'm 33 and halfway through university. I'll be qualifying as a Clinical Psychologist when I'm around 38-39 years old. I am driven, know how to work hard and my grades are awesome. On scholarships so it's not costing me much either.

I look forward to my 40's because I'll still be fresh in a career I love, earning more than I ever have, etc. Can't wait.

I think a lot more people need to spend their prime years having fun rather than chasing a career. When they follow the traditional route they seem to burn out at 45, get divorced and end up sad and alone.

Although I didn't reject that route intentionally, I had depression, I'm glad it is only now that I'm getting round to the whole grown up thing.

What this man said. I have some regrets over my 20s, things I would have ended earlier, risks I would have taken.

 

[therealdope]

I kind of know that I won't be able to go hard physically when I get to 60 so I'm trying to get as much Mountain ascents and physical stuff in before then.

It's inevitable that I'm gonna get old at some point so I'm ready to do other stuff when the time comes. What bugs the shit out of me is when I get injured (like right now) and I'm pissing away time waiting to heal up. I only have so many years of physical stuff left and being injured seems like being short changed of that remaining time.

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