The Douchebag Sparring Partner

[CI]

how do you deal with the classic "dont hit hard, i dont wanna get a black eye for work" and they go 100%


after giving me a concussion from a sweep and making me miss sparring for a good month, i decided to pick up the speed with my kicks and actually throw punches. guy complains for me going too hard. So then i decided to clinch the fellow and not throw anything. he says its illegal move. the fuck.

what do you guys suggest i should do?

 

[Yodsanan]

talk to him after the training.

 

[Reyesnuthugr]

Have the coach watch you guys spar and make the calls next time. He'll be fair and say something if one of you is going outside of the conduct code, and both of you will have to acknowledge it (because he's your coach)

 

[CI]

Have the coach watch you guys spar and make the calls next time. He'll be fair and say something if one of you is going outside of the conduct code, and both of you will have to acknowledge it (because he's your coach)

thanks for the idea.

 

[Fire of Youth]

Chances are that you are actually hitting harder than you think and that he thinks he is going softer than he actually is. So you are both thinking you are going soft and respectful but are actually hitting with some force. Clarify your miscommunication through talking to each other.

 

[biscuitsbrah]

Dont spar with the guy. I usually just avoid the dangerous people in my gym.

 

[fightingrabbit]

Beat him with a phone book. It doesn't leave bruises.

 

[jawlock]

Chances are that you are actually hitting harder than you think and that he thinks he is going softer than he actually is. So you are both thinking you are going soft and respectful but are actually hitting with some force. Clarify your miscommunication through talking to each other.

Have the coach watch you guys spar and make the calls next time. He'll be fair and say something if one of you is going outside of the conduct code, and both of you will have to acknowledge it (because he's your coach)

I'd follow both advices, in the exact order I quoted.

 

[Higus]

hit him 25% power to the head and 100% power to the body. No marks on his face and he'll wish he was never born. You both win.

 

[Kanka]

I hate the guy that punches hard meanwhile i'm only kicking and lightly tapping him with the gloves

 

[DoctorTaco]

Call him out as soon as he mentions you going to hard. Apologize and continue the spar.

 

[JustinvR]

Knee him in the nuts and stomp his head after he falls down, that will teach him.

 

[DaGenius]

Eventually man it's always beat to talk for a bit after sparring. It's a two way street and unless you are an aspiring professional you need to adjust sparring so you can do the "rest of your life" stuff

You'd be surprised what a 5 minute convo would do to help both of you get more out of sparring

 

[roventu]

Dont spar with the guy. I usually just avoid the dangerous people in my gym.

its a little hard to do bc in my gym we always rotate sparring partners, for example go 3 mins with a guy, then everyone rotates. we all go easy on each other except 1 guy, hes not even the biggest, he just hits the hardest and everyone knows it

 

[Harukaze]

Try to open him up with elbows. Really get him gushing. He'll never bother you again!

 

[TheyAllFloat]

Sounds like you're scared of him and you prob go way harder than you realise because your adrenalin is up. He prob doesn't like sparing you either... Either stop sparring or just give and take the beating and get used to it. There will always be one or more guys that you don't really want to spar and if there isn't then you need to find somewhere where there is.

 

[Tug]

talk to him after the training.

works every time heheh

 

[jawlock]

its a little hard to do bc in my gym we always rotate sparring partners, for example go 3 mins with a guy, then everyone rotates. we all go easy on each other except 1 guy, hes not even the biggest, he just hits the hardest and everyone knows it

so you guys let one douche bully everybody else? Sounds bad honestly

 

[John Bradley]

these are the guys that are more responsible for future CTE morbidity than any competitive bouts.

But just refuse to spar with them anymore. If people think you're a pussy, just say you want to remember your kids' names in 10 years!

 

[PivotPunch]

I don't get why this thread gets made other week.

Step 1: Fucking talk tell him that the sparring is too hard for your liking, ask him if you ar maybe sparring too hard yourself and just have a fucking normal conversation I don't get why the fuck you just wouldn't talk to him before you decide to ask strangers ina forum

Step 2: if that doesn't work because he's an asshole or even maybe he is no asshole but shit at sontrolling hismelf either a.) refuse to spar with him, period or b.) beat the shit out of him in sparring so that he WILL go lighter for his own sake or he will stop sparring you voluntarily.