...is really kind of ridiculous when you think about it. I'm not talking about the common sense definition of respect btw - obviously, you should try to be nice and courteous to everyone on and off the mats regardless of their race, gender etc. However, I've seen or heard people who have been mislabelled as "disrespectful" in BJJ schools for (and these are all real examples): asking a higher belt (who hasn't got a partner yet) to roll; asking to roll with their professor (who is already on the mat and have been rolling with other students); forgetting to bow in and out when walking on/off the mats; not facing the wall when retying their belt; not giving right of way to a pair of higher belts when rolling - even when the two lower belts stayed in the same spot and it was the higher belts that were moving around; refusing to be graded for a stripe after learning that each grading for a stripe cost $50; getting angry at being locked out of more advanced classes not because the guy didn't have the skill (the coach even said he did) but because he hadn't paid for grading; wanting to wear a new rank they got while training overseas on an extended vacation; tapping someone out via wrist locks; (my personal favourite) apparently its also disrespectful to tap your professor out or to hold him in a dominant position (in my friend's case, he was asked what point he was trying to prove and didn't he realise the professor "let" him get the back in the first place - my friend easily has 50lb on the professor and is a well seasoned brown belt). Does anyone have any more examples? Ultimately, I think a lot of coaches use the idea of "respect" to maintain their position as the alpha within the school and to earn money. By "respecting" these rules and customs, you end up disrespecting yourself. Agreed?