Social Spoiling Kids

[SummerStriker]

I am depressed through no fault of my own. No girlfriend. Can't smoke or drink because I'm a single dad.

Sometimes I just take my kid out for ice cream, then buy her a new toy, because it makes me happy.

What's wrong with that? Huh?

 

[IloveTHIS]

I am depressed through no fault of my own. No girlfriend. Can't smoke or drink because I'm a single dad.

I feel an argument could be made here

 

[TheNinja]

Nothing wrong with that. Lately I've been thinking more and more though. Like me SO spoils the kids like crazy and does every single thing for them.....food, laundry, cleaning up after them, etc. I think she feels guilty in other areas and then uses the fact that she does everything for them as a way to show her love and caring towards them.

However I'm becoming more opposite in that if you really love and care for your kids you are actually doing them a disservice by doing everything for them. Your job as a parent is to TEACH them to do things for themselves, not to make their childhood easy and do everything for them. It's misplaced love IMO.

But as far as spoiling the kid with ice cream or a new toy once in a while. No issues at all. Those are the best times when they haven't "earned" it per se or it's not a birthday or a reward. They get something as a surprise just b/c you love them. As long as people aren't buying their kid everything the kid wants and constantly spoiling them I see no issues.

 

[Syd1975]

Nothing wrong with that at all. Wish you the best.

 

[IloveTHIS]

the one thing that will help with your depression when all else doesnt, is living for those kids instead of yourself. instead of getting too into your own head and demons, ask yourself "but how are MY KIDS doing?"

not that you dont already put them before yourself. you likely do but just dont give yourself credit for it like you should. it will be very hard to stay in a depressed state of mind when you think about your kids being happy and healthy.

 

[mb23100]

Good on you. Some of my best memories from childhood were my dad taking me to the store and buying me random toys for no apparent reason.

Got my Sega Genesis that way.

 

[Chesten_Hesten]

I'd buy an Atari 2600 if I were you. That'll cheer you up.

 

[syct23]

Have you tried drinking and smoking with your kid, so you’re not doing it alone?

 

[Kardashians]

My sister and I spoil our niece and nephew. Take them out for picnics, go to monster truck shows, see the movies, visit Walmart to pick out a new toy, etc.

Both their parents are disinterested and more into drugs tho, so we do what we can until shit gets sorted.

 

[VulcanNervPinch]

I am depressed through no fault of my own. No girlfriend. Can't smoke or drink because I'm a single dad.

Sometimes I just take my kid out for ice cream, then buy her a new toy, because it makes me happy.

What's wrong with that? Huh?

Impossible to tell.

How often?
How much junk food & sugar are they getting normally?
How many toys do they already have? Do they play with something twice and get bored? Do they not care when something is lost or broken, because they have a million more?
Are you doing something because it's good for your kid or because it makes you feel good?

 

[Sweater of AV]

Nothing wrong with that at all. Spoil her as much as you like but just not to the point where she expects it or it becomes detrimental for her.

 

[Bia]

the simple joy in life. I enjoy that too, taking my kid out holding their hand and seeing them having fun exploring.