Speaking at my Mum's Funeral tomorrow

[cmw43]

4 years ago she got diagnosed with cancer and was given 12 months to live, she went through it all radiotherapy, chemo and a procedure known as "The Mother of All Operations".

She had a few good years in that time between treatments, we managed a couple of holidays to Europe and Christmases were still fun but it was always at the back of my mind that the expiration date was going to be sooner than any of us wanted. About 6 months ago she started taking a bit of a turn and then 2 months ago started deteriorating really fast.

We were at her bedside every day in the last couple of weeks and she eventually passed away in her sleep 2 weeks ago with myself, Dad and my little brother and sister at her bedside. She would've been 60 on Tuesday.

It's a relief in someways because I know she was really suffering in the last few months and didn't want to be here in the last few weeks but she always put on a brave face for us.

It's the funeral tomorrow and right now I'm just sipping on a whisky putting the finishing touches on my speech. I don't normally have a problem with public speaking, I do presentations at work and I've done a best mans speech but I think it's gonna be tough to hold back the tears tomorrow.

My brothers doing a bit of an emotional speech so Iv'e tried to make mine a bit more light hearted and just focused on good memories.

Anyone else ever had to speak at a funeral?

 

[mjmj]

Sorry to hear. It's a terrible thing to go through. My dad passed suddenly when I was 18. No way I could have spoken at his funeral. I'm nearly 42 now and a good friend passed away this spring, and I still couldn't do it. I just can't get words out. Good luck.

 

[CoolB]

Sorry for you loss. I couldn't do a funeral speech. It'd be too tough for me. Good on you for having the strength and determination to do this.

 

[gatchaman]

Both parents. My brother gave the light-hearted speeches. I closed with the emotional ones. Suck it up. You'll be fine.

 

[Fedorgasm]

Sorry about your mom. I'm going through the exact same thing with my mom right now and have been thinking about what i would say at her funeral. I hope the right words come to you. And yes, light hearted is good. If she loved to laugh then I'm sure she'd want you guys to share a few laughs when you remember her.

 

[genecop]

Sorry for your loss, I could never do it , I admire your courage and composure, good luck with it, your Mom will be proud..

 

[bandicoot]

I just gave a speech at my Mom's funeral back in March. It was definitely tough, but it's necessary. Just do your best, man. You'll do fine.

 

[Coconut Joe]

I spoke at both my Mother and Fathers funeral. It wasn't easy, but I held up. I did get to bawling after my kids shared a few words about how they are going to miss the walks she would take them on. 60 is to soon Amigo, condolences

 

[KnightTemplar]

4 years ago she got diagnosed with cancer and was given 12 months to live, she went through it all radiotherapy, chemo and a procedure known as "The Mother of All Operations".

She had a few good years in that time between treatments, we managed a couple of holidays to Europe and Christmases were still fun but it was always at the back of my mind that the expiration date was going to be sooner than any of us wanted. About 6 months ago she started taking a bit of a turn and then 2 months ago started deteriorating really fast.

We were at her bedside every day in the last couple of weeks and she eventually passed away in her sleep 2 weeks ago with myself, Dad and my little brother and sister at her bedside. She would've been 60 on Tuesday.

It's a relief in someways because I know she was really suffering in the last few months and didn't want to be here in the last few weeks but she always put on a brave face for us.

It's the funeral tomorrow and right now I'm just sipping on a whisky putting the finishing touches on my speech. I don't normally have a problem with public speaking, I do presentations at work and I've done a best mans speech but I think it's gonna be tough to hold back the tears tomorrow.

My brothers doing a bit of an emotional speech so Iv'e tried to make mine a bit more light hearted and just focused on good memories.

Anyone else ever had to speak at a funeral?

I'm sorry for your loss, man. RIP.

I lost my mother to heart failure one year, eleven months and two days ago. The pain of grief is the price of love. If we didn't love someone, we wouldn't mourn their passing. And while the pain never truly goes away, time makes it easier to bare.

Don't be afraid to cry. Fuck anyone who says real men don't cry. I've seen the hardest men I've ever met, soldiers who've forgotten how many bodies they've put in the ground, weep like bairns for lost loved ones.

Again, my sincere condolences for your loss.

 

[KnightTemplar]

Sorry about your mom. I'm going through the exact same thing with my mom right now and have been thinking about what i would say at her funeral. I hope the right words come to you. And yes, light hearted is good. If she loved to laugh then I'm sure she'd want you guys to share a few laughs when you remember her.

Sorry to hear that, bro.

 

[cmw43]

Thanks for the kind words guys.

That's why I keep coming back to the Mayberry for all these years I'm 30 now been here since I was 19.

In between all the 'x brahs GTFIH' threads you do get real people sharing real experiences.

 

[Zer]

That's a tough gig bro. I'm not sure I'd be able to do it. Don't be concerned about crying mate, that's only natural

 

[WorldofWarcraft]

I tried to during my mom's funeral, but when I got up there, I literally couldn't even speak.

 

[JbModest]

4 years ago she got diagnosed with cancer and was given 12 months to live, she went through it all radiotherapy, chemo and a procedure known as "The Mother of All Operations".

She had a few good years in that time between treatments, we managed a couple of holidays to Europe and Christmases were still fun but it was always at the back of my mind that the expiration date was going to be sooner than any of us wanted. About 6 months ago she started taking a bit of a turn and then 2 months ago started deteriorating really fast.

We were at her bedside every day in the last couple of weeks and she eventually passed away in her sleep 2 weeks ago with myself, Dad and my little brother and sister at her bedside. She would've been 60 on Tuesday.

It's a relief in someways because I know she was really suffering in the last few months and didn't want to be here in the last few weeks but she always put on a brave face for us.

It's the funeral tomorrow and right now I'm just sipping on a whisky putting the finishing touches on my speech. I don't normally have a problem with public speaking, I do presentations at work and I've done a best mans speech but I think it's gonna be tough to hold back the tears tomorrow.

My brothers doing a bit of an emotional speech so Iv'e tried to make mine a bit more light hearted and just focused on good memories.

Anyone else ever had to speak at a funeral?

Sorry bro. I went through the same thing with my dad who died of pancreatic cancer. He was in a coma the last few days and I was at his side when he passed. I didn't prepare anything and just spoke extemporaneously.

 

[freaky]

I'm sorry. Just thinking about it is putting tears in my eyes. I had slight depression and cried every night as a kid when I learned that people die.

 

[cmw43]

I tried to during my mom's funeral, but when I got up there, I literally couldn't even speak.

I'm hoping I'll get through it but I think I'm gonna have my girlfriend on standby just in case I need her to finish it.

 

[OverCoronavirus Pressure]

*hug fam*

 

[Iceberg Slim]

Sorry for your loss man. I'd say just focus on the good memories, keep it light hearted, and don't be too worried about breaking down a little, it may actually help someone else. It's possible that your emotion will show one of the younger family members that it's ok for a man to cry at a time like this.

Quick edit - This brought back memories from my father's funeral. One thing I remember was that it was almost surreal. I was in such a haze that I was able to disconnect and get through it all. I wish you the best dude.

 

[pinger]

My dad is a renowned public speaker and has done countless funerals and weddings.

If I have to do his I will be a wreck. I am not nearly the orator he is; but I will do it to honour him; crying like a bitch the whole time.

 

[cmw43]

I don't normally make much effort with charity stuff either but the Hospice that looked after her in the last 2 weeks were incredible, I don't know how the nurses could do that job, they're real saints.

I ran a 10k race to raise some money last weekend and my Mum herself requested no flowers at the funeral and just for people to give to the hospice.