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Anyone who puts pussy over training is a bitchazz.
anyone who mixes the two is genius
Anyone who puts pussy over training is a bitchazz.
Our school operates a little differently than others. We have technique nights and sparring nights. After I was in the open class for a couple months I started going to the sparring class. I told my wife "I'm going to start going to the sparring class on Tuesday & Thursday, but if anything comes up with the kids or that I should be at, I'll skip it and go to that.
A. How is that new wrestler going to get better if no one will roll with him? Take some initiative, talk to him about his issues and then get your roll on.
B. If your girl/job is unable to tolerate (or is surprised by) a black eye, then you probably haven't been forthright about your inclination to hug sweaty men...
Shake hands and hug all of your training partners and mean it. Ask what they did with their kids when they skipped that class.
My thoughts exactly. It's all great advice for adults training BJJ in a non-professional way (99.99% of us). I would add:
- If your significant other or kid really, really wants to do something that requires you to skip BJJ to do it with them, do it gracefully and without a fuss
Relationships are ultimately more important than BJJ, and for me at least my wife knows how important it is for me so she doesn't ask me to skip often.
I would hate that set up if my school operated like that. So I would be basically have to come four nights a week(2 nights for technique drilling and 2 nights for sparring just to be in a flow). I'm very guarded with my time, I love BJJ, but I don't want to spend most of my free time in the gym either.
Now that is a healthy relationship. I know the importance of family and relationships, but at the same time a healthy person also understand its important to have your own identity and hobbies as well as an individual.
I am in agreement! Pussy is number 5 on my list of priorities.
MONEY
BJJ
PUNK ROCK
WEED
PUSSY
FAMILY
GOD
anyone who mixes the two is genius
anyone who mixes the two is genius
You must be very young then.
A. Whats wrong with sparring with a new wrestler? Its important to spar with everyone. If you can't handle him maybe you need to get better.
B. I don't really care about money/carrer I make enough to get by.
C. I don't want to be with a girl that doesn't accept what I do and who I am. Maybe you change yourself for people I don't.
A. Whats wrong with sparring with a new wrestler? Its important to spar with everyone. If you can't handle him maybe you need to get better.
B. I don't really care about money/carrer I make enough to get by.
C. I don't want to be with a girl that doesn't accept what I do and who I am. Maybe you change yourself for people I don't.
A. Whats wrong with sparring with a new wrestler? Its important to spar with everyone. If you can't handle him maybe you need to get better.
B. I don't really care about money/carrer I make enough to get by.
C. I don't want to be with a girl that doesn't accept what I do and who I am. Maybe you change yourself for people I don't.
MONEY
BJJ
PUNK ROCK
WEED
PUSSY
FAMILY
GOD
A. Whats wrong with sparring with a new wrestler? Its important to spar with everyone. If you can't handle him maybe you need to get better.
Lol, ok, that is your life. There is nothing wrong with that attitude. As I said I am an older guy and I am looking for longevity.
Nothing is wrong with sparring with a new wrestler. The wrestling game and bjj game are two different types of games with different attitudes. If you are an older guy, it is not a matter of getting better or handling him, it is a matter of a guy knowing the difference between the two games and knowing how to control shit. But go ahead and roll with the explosive wrestler. I did it when I was younger. I just don't like a guy spazzing and going crazy throwing wreck-less elbows and knees because they are not used to being on their back.
You don't care about money? I have two children and a wife in graduate school, whom I am putting through graduate school. In my job if I have a black eye it does not matter. I don't really care to much about that but as an older guy having a black eye isn't really high on my priority. Also, I make enough to be happy and provide for my family. I am glad that you are happy being poor. I need money to provide for my family and live comfortably.
My wife accepts what I do. I don't really do MMA but every once in a while I will get a black eye, fat lip in bjj. My wife doesn't really like to see me with bruises on my face. As for my cauliflower ear she always asks me why I like ugly ears, so now I wear ear protection. It is a matter of maturity.
As I said you are a young guy. I am looking for longevity in this sport. I think Roy was targeting older guys and guys who want to survive in the sport. He wasn't really targeting dude that want to win the mundials with that list.
We all change ourselves for people with whom we're in relationships. It's called not being a selfish douchebag. If I continue to do everything exactly the same as I did when I was single, then I'm not giving enough to the relationship. On the flip side, I expect my wife to be there for me when I really need it...this mutual commitment is more important than BJJ. I agree that you shouldn't date anyone who expects you to quit BJJ or even stop training a lot, but if you really think you'll ever find anyone who will never ask you to do something for them that inconveniences you, you're a fool. I'm pretty sure that's not what you meant, but making Manichean statements about how you change yourself in no way for people is silly. I find what works best is to give on little things and compromise on big things, for both people. BJJ is definitely a big thing for me, but you're going to end up either compromising at some point or not having a relationship. Your choice I suppose.