Social Sex Addiction... Is it real?

[Hollywood Jack]

I see a lot of celebrities now who are accused of misconduct claiming that they struggle with sex addiction. This response is met with criticism and backlash claiming that its a cop out excuse and a fabrication.

But is it?

Personally I think Sex can be compared to a drug; it is euphoric and has a strong pull especially towards those with a high sex drive (If you recall puberty you know how sex-obsessed it can make a person). Just because some don't become addicted to it doesn't mean others cant. Similarly to alcohol or any other drug.

What say you sherdoggers? Is sex addiction a legit ailment or just a cop out excuse?

It's not one or the other. Some people have a compulsion to have sex which becomes an obsession or an addiction, if you will. I think it affects women more than men. Women generally can have sex any time they want compared to men, and there's more personal and professional harm for them due to promiscuity and it goes against what we expect of them. We expect them to be more selective than men, not less.

With men, it's expected that they will try to get sex as often as they can to a larger extent. Since women are more selective, they won't be as successful as female nymphomaniacs. In fact, a man generally has to work relatively hard to get laid at all. With certain high-status men, they have easy access to sex the same as an attractive woman would. They may have a sex addiction, or it may be a convenient excuse for them when their behavior becomes scandalous for whatever reason.

 

[Oblivian]

For sure they are increasing desire as is the sexualisation of society & women.
But its difficult to say whether it's a textbook addiction.

Though internet porn addiction is a separate topic than sex addiction and its very possible to be addicted to the former due to easy access.

The underlined in bold is precisly my entire point of why I see it plausible for a celebrity to be addicted to sex.

 

[I Am Legion]

I have seen documentary of a woman that was a sex addict. She had to have 2-3 random hook ups a day. She thrived on the endorphins and excitement. She didn't care who it was with, guys girls, co workers, she made the rounds. Wasn't safe, had many STDs and a few pregnancies. That's addictive behavior. That was a sex addict. Most people just have self control issues. Like a bunch of monkeys that cant stop rubbing themselves. No different than a fat person that makes poor eating decisions. Internet porn has ruined a lot of you. I saw the danger in it early and made sure to have limits. That is why some of you wack off 3 times a day to some vile ass shit...you never had limits.

 

[Boxingfan998]

It's not one or the other. Some people have a compulsion to have sex which becomes an obsession or an addiction, if you will. I think it affects women more than men. Women generally can have sex any time they want compared to men, and there's more personal and professional harm for them due to promiscuity and it goes against what we expect of them. We expect them to be more selective than men, not less.

With men, it's expected that they will try to get sex as often as they can to a larger extent. Since women are more selective, they won't be as successful as female nymphomaniacs. In fact, a man generally has to work relatively hard to get laid at all. With certain high-status men, they have easy access to sex the same as an attractive woman would. They may have a sex addiction, or it may be a convenient excuse for them when their behavior becomes scandalous for whatever reason.

Personally I think the opposite, that it affects men more than women precisely because of what you said.
Men in general have a need for sex, which is largely unfulfilled unless you are high status. One has to understand that because of the standards expected of women that you mention, many women will not have sex unless the male is high status or gets engaged with them. There is also the entire courting process expected of men that blocks many men. Basically you end up with a sizeable proportion of men who are sexually frustrated, if not incels. These men then fall to porn addiction easily.
The fact that a female nowadays however, can easily get sex even from a relatively high status male, means that her sexual needs are largely fulfilled.
This is not so with the men that I mentioned.

We have largely moved beyond the "I need to marry before sex" for many women. Women basically have much easier access to sex than men and this is the problem.
Of course there is the possibility of prostitution for men in certain countries. But IMO it doesn't solve the problem and sometimes creates another.
There are middle class and rich men who go almost exclusively to prostitutes (because their wives no longer satisfies them), and frankly, they're not men in the greatest mental state possible. I think its because prostitution sex is inherently degrading even for the customer.

 

[Cpt Migraine]

Nah.. get fucked..

Never met one sex addict in my fucking life.. i have heard of a lot of celebreties bitching out and calling it an addiction when they get caught cheating though..

Expecting anything else from these guys is absurd though.. yeah, yeah.. you've managed to stay faithful to your fat wife for 25 years.. congratulations.. do you have different a different pair of insta-thots going out of their way to give you a double blowjob everyday? If not your're really not fit to judge..

I'll turn down the 38yo mother of 3 from economy at the christmas party like a perfect gentleman and never speak about it..
If i was approached by this every. Single. Day. I'd like to think i'd still be faithful but i fucking doubt it..

What i will not do is call my lack of character an addiction and further piss on my partner..

 

[luwellafc]

Some of these people use sex addiction loosely. A real sex addiction is someone who is constantly thinkin about sex 24/7. Who is nonstop watching porn. Who is nonstop wanting to have sex to the point they will have sex with anyone that is willing. That is sex addiction where it destroys relationships, etc.

 

[moreorless87]

Some of these people use sex addiction loosely. A real sex addiction is someone who is constantly thinkin about sex 24/7. Who is nonstop watching porn. Who is nonstop wanting to have sex to the point they will have sex with anyone that is willing. That is sex addiction where it destroys relationships, etc.

Pretty much, I think most of the "addiction" we hear about is really more the result of unrealistic abstinence culture that tends to want to limit sexual activity to almost nothing which simply isnt natural.

 

[StonedLemur]

To some degree sure.

There is a difference between compulsive behavior and a substance abuse disorder, both of which are interchangeably called addictions by the layperson and they obviously function different from each other.

Definitely there is a choice in everything you do, but there are real neurological differences that separate a casual from the addict. With repeated large dopamine responses it literally rewires your brain to put that desire in the same area where your primal needs like breathing and drinking water are.

So it literally turns into as much of a choice as you or I choosing to breath can be. Their brain chemistry has changed significantly enough to tell them they NEED that thing they are addicted to. So yeah imagine choosing not to breath and that's very similar to how their brain is talking to them about that thing they are addicted to.

There are real mental health issues under the hood with addicts and for sure they are partially responsible for their situation but it doesn't help anyone to just blame them for their problems and ignore it. They need help and compassion to change their lives.

No comment sir.
I see it differently.

 

[Hollywood Jack]

Personally I think the opposite, that it affects men more than women precisely because of what you said.
Men in general have a need for sex, which is largely unfulfilled unless you are high status. One has to understand that because of the standards expected of women that you mention, many women will not have sex unless the male is high status or gets engaged with them. There is also the entire courting process expected of men that blocks many men. Basically you end up with a sizeable proportion of men who are sexually frustrated, if not incels. These men then fall to porn addiction easily.
The fact that a female nowadays however, can easily get sex even from a relatively high status male, means that her sexual needs are largely fulfilled.
This is not so with the men that I mentioned.

We have largely moved beyond the "I need to marry before sex" for many women. Women basically have much easier access to sex than men and this is the problem.
Of course there is the possibility of prostitution for men in certain countries. But IMO it doesn't solve the problem and sometimes creates another.
There are middle class and rich men who go almost exclusively to prostitutes (because their wives no longer satisfies them), and frankly, they're not men in the greatest mental state possible. I think its because prostitution sex is inherently degrading even for the customer.

Just to clarify, when I said that it affects women more, I meant that women have the means to engage in this behavior more often and that the personal, professional and societal consequences for them are higher. Obviously men have a higher sex drive and of course I understand the standards expected of women and that they are generally more selective of sex partners.

 

[XNYHCX]

They've have AA type groups for it for decades. Seems real enough for some. But like most things people throw terms around very casually. The real addicts are pretty hardcore from what I understand.

There's a movie called Thanks for Sharing I watched with my wife years ago because somehow we thought it was a comedy. Hating the process of looking for a movie to watch, we just went with it. It was okay. It might illuminate the topic for you some.

I see a lot of celebrities now who are accused of misconduct claiming that they struggle with sex addiction. This response is met with criticism and backlash claiming that its a cop out excuse and a fabrication.

But is it?

Personally I think Sex can be compared to a drug; it is euphoric and has a strong pull especially towards those with a high sex drive (If you recall puberty you know how sex-obsessed it can make a person). Just because some don't become addicted to it doesn't mean others cant. Similarly to alcohol or any other drug.

What say you sherdoggers? Is sex addiction a legit ailment or just a cop out excuse?

AA type groups for it have existed for decades. It's real enough for some. But like most things people throw terms around very casually. The real addicts are pretty hardcore.

There's a movie called Thanks for Sharing I watched with my wife years ago because somehow we thought it was a comedy. Hating the process of looking for a movie to watch, we just went with it. It was okay. It might illuminate the topic for you some.

 

[ineverpost]

If it is real, It's one of the best addictions to have.

not if you are paying lol

 

[HelloJapan]

I'm reading this while banging...what do you think.

 

[ineverpost]

Nope. Here is why.

If I'm al alcoholic or addicted to drugs, I can't have alcohol or the drug that I'm addicted to. It's a chemical issue and an alcoholics brain just cannot process that 1 drink like a normal person.

If you are a sex addict you can still have sex.

Sex addiction is some bullshit excuse people want to use when they get busted for cheating on their partners all the time.

most notably it's what people with a public image use. No wife or husband is going to accept this unless they are what Joe Rogan would call a "cuck" .

 

[Zinger]

not if you are paying lol

No addiction is free.

 

[Boxingfan998]

Just to clarify, when I said that it affects women more, I meant that women have the means to engage in this behavior more often and that the personal, professional and societal consequences for them are higher. Obviously men have a higher sex drive and of course I understand the standards expected of women and that they are generally more selective of sex partners.

When you say that the "personal, professional and societal consequences are higher for women", how exactly do you mean?
What prevents a run of the mill Western woman in any job except the highest posts in society (government, executive, etc) from getting railed on a daily basis by a different man?

Btw a woman can hide all of that and plenty of women "who have been around" marry solid net worth men in their 30s.
Truth be told I think the biggest pressure on a woman is her looks. As long as she looks good, she can basically do anything she wants.
Society stops caring when she no longer looks attractive. It's terrible and harsh but its like that.

Meanwhile men are judged more or less by how much money they make.

 

[ralphc1]

I can't believe this hasn't been posted yet.

All animals are programmed to reproduce or they wouldn't exist.

 

[terrapin]

I was adding to your post.
You don't have to answer in a spastic aggressive manner, worthy of psychiatric evaluation.
Check yourself.

he is addicted to anger.

edit-- lol just realized he said it first!!

@jgarner

 

[terrapin]

I have seen documentary of a woman that was a sex addict. She had to have 2-3 random hook ups a day. She thrived on the endorphins and excitement. She didn't care who it was with, guys girls, co workers, she made the rounds. Wasn't safe, had many STDs and a few pregnancies. That's addictive behavior. That was a sex addict. Most people just have self control issues. Like a bunch of monkeys that cant stop rubbing themselves. No different than a fat person that makes poor eating decisions. Internet porn has ruined a lot of you. I saw the danger in it early and made sure to have limits. That is why some of you wack off 3 times a day to some vile ass shit...you never had limits.

i know a woman like that who went in and out of recovery. she had it bad. one time by chance i caught her cruising in her car hitting on random men walking down the road and the look on her face........ it was just terrible... souless and completely empty.

kind of scared me really.

 

[fatmanthenextbatman]

sex addiction is real if one uses substances like coke , meth or even alcohol. once knew a girl back in highschool who was total freak and would seriously suck and fuck anyone. she wasn't that bad looking either.

 

[Benjamin Burton]

A weak minded individual can become addicted to anything