Fine, replace 'oral sex' with something more racy like 'analingus' or 'bondage'. Normal people enjoy those things too, but I'm guessing it's unlikely there are many married Christian couples out buying riding crops for the bedroom (maybe I'm selling them short, who knows). Though I don't know that porn is a good argument since my guess is if you're militant about no sex before marriage you're probably not a big consumer of porn, plus porn sex is nothing like real sex.
I'm not sure how unlikely it is. While religion did suppress aspects of sexuality, it was with good intent: Maintaining healthy families. You have to keep in mind, in biblical times all manner of perversity was commonplace, and I'm not talking about analingus. I tend to think the intention of religion wasn't to keep husbands from eating pussy and ass. Of course, like with all aspects of the big bad religions, teachings and customs are easily misinterpreted and I won't speak for the righteousness of religious people through the centuries.
I'll give you an example, take de Sade. If you read some of his stuff, even aside from the extremely perverse and criminal elements, he muses at length on basic things like oral sex in provocative away that makes it evident these things were kept private. Where did he figure this stuff out, in 18th century Christian France? I think much of the population experimented to their own satisfaction, but because of religious influence you kept it to yourself.
True enough, and again I'm not saying you can't have a satisfying sex life with only one partner your whole life. I'm merely suggesting that there are probably things you'd enjoy that you aren't going to experience with just one person and as such you'll probably miss out on a variety of sexual experience. But that's far from the worst thing that can happen to a person in their lives.
Number of sexual partners has no bearing on happiness, it's whether the individual is having the amount and quality of sex that they personally desire. Of course, desires can be destructive to yourself and others. It's not a good thing to indulge every desire on a whim, desires should be tempered, and religion serves this purpose, but you see how this intention can be twisted around in the human mind.
You think the big problem with sexual self righteousness in this country is swingers looking down on Christians? That's pretty much 180 degrees from the actual situation vs-a-vie sexual moralizing.
That's why I said it's ironic, and the knife cuts both ways, so I wouldn't say it's "the big problem".
And that's something every woman can experience, with every man (and therefore in every marriage)? What do you do when that doesn't work, or starts not working? Pray harder?
Obviously not, everyone is different and a lot of woman don't orgasm as much as they'd like. What I'm trying to illustrate is that people are programmed, when they think of missionary sex, to think about it in a specific way. Why is bad missionary sex more plausible than good missionary sex?
I hope Christians have good sex lives just like I hope everyone has a good sex life because it's an important component of life, but it's hard for me to believe that they do when they seem so hostile to sex except under very specifically defined conditions. The idea that sex is sinful and wrong is pretty deeply embedded in Christian culture and it's a very harmful idea that does no one any good, and so I do get a little offended when representatives of that culture go on about how great your sex life is if you have only one partner because they have no fucking clue about anybody else's sex life and no standard of comparison for their own.
So you get insecure when someone tells you they're happy having taken a different path in life, and feel the need to defend yourself and your experiences. It's normal.
Sin is a whole other discussion, my interpretation of sin is that it's more benign than most people understand it to be, but I'm not going to start in-depth on religion.
The thing with this sex ed curriculum is that it's a faceless state authority not just educating teenagers about sex, but dictating to them what is morally acceptable. Telling boys "Real men go down on women on their period" is a opinion about what is masculine, it goes beyond sex ed into feminist politics.
