That was a great read, thanks for sharing.
Trickster, I still think you're kind of missing the point I was trying to make. The final goal of any submission grappling is the submission, that's a given. However, my beef and my concern, is that I will surpass my training partners and have to only roll with the brown/black belt instructors (not that I don't like it, but it's kind of nice to know you're not being toyed with). I just wanted to know if people get past this 'phase' and from what others have said that seems to be the case.
I'm also a white belt and I try to get the tap whenever I have a sub. But if I were to get an armbar I will only go as far as extending the arm, possibly pushing my hips out if they're really fighting it, just so the other guy knows that I have it. I won't ever yank the arm back, push my hips out all the way and try to damage the joint. Where as these guys will try to break your elbow if you don't tap fast enough, which I think is a really lame thing to do to your training partners. Even if you don't break it you could tear/strain the joint and that guy has to sit out for the next couple of classes 'cause his arm is messed up.
About the toning it down when rolling with 'inferior' grapplers, I whole heartedly agree. I do the same, but again, the people I'm speaking of won't. They'll work to their only position, and crank out the sub, over and over again. Which goes back to my thread title, rolling strictly for the tap.
Also, they don't tap me, not anymore, I've rolled with them enough to know what to expect and can usually sweep them to mount/side mount and do with them as I please. But they don't put up a fight once in this position 'cause they don't know how to. Usually i'll just try to stay in side mount for a while and play around, switching to mount occasionaly and/or judo side mount etc.
P.S. just to clear it up, I'm not a cry baby, just a concerned student.