Ive been training on and off for a year (mostly on) ,and im not a spazz and i dont hurt anyone i roll with unneccesary,but i find it tough to go "light"..maybe it could start out that way but theres comes a point where i need to get rough to avoid a submission or to get a guy to the ground...to use aggression because maybe my technique isnt good enough or i just feel i need to explode.I just feel its my nature,even if i was alot better. The first time i rolled with a black belt he was so calm and light and of course let me just get trapped in bad position all by myself,but i just dont feel that comfortable rolling in that style,myself. Sometimes when i go to open mat in other places they want to roll light,and i just find having a hard time sticking to that. Is it all up to my "limitations" that i have trouble with this or is it just natural for some to just want to go at it in a tougher pace? Im curious especially with what more experienced players would have to say.