Rejected by Girl - Feeling Down

surprise sechs is the only remedy. that & burning her folks' house.
 
surprise sechs is the only remedy. that & burning her folks' house.

I dunno, i've found burning my name in petrol on her front lawn or pissing in her letterbox is a good way to go.


In all seriousness though, as WeetBixKid said, getting shot down by someone you genuinely care for is not fun.

I got my heart stomped on by a girl who then paraded her new bf around the next time we were all in a group. Made me question why I ever had feelings in the 1st place.

Then I wasted on gin and tonic and sent her abusive text messages. That is NOT the way to go, trust me. That's the reason I stopped drinking right there.
 
it will get better with time, there will be other girls
 
Getting rejected is nothing new for most guys in their mid-20's but this has left me down quite a bit.

Have known this girl for well over a year and would consider us to be good friends even if we don't see each other too often anymore, other than a few social functions now and again.

Basically I've had feelings for her for a while and decided that I needed to 'fess up, else I would drive myself crazy with keeping the crush a secret. I told her how I felt and was told the attraction was not mutual, she considered me a good friend but only that. To her credit she was clear and let me down easily.

Being honest, there was a serious relief in finally knowing the truth but nevertheless I'm still feeling down over it. In truth I probably kept my feelings hidden for too long which has added to the sting of being rejected.

Not entirely sure why I'm writing this, I've been rejected before but not by a girl I've had such strong feelings for.

Anyone want to commiserate with me? Tell me to man up? Give some helpful advice?

i had the same thing happen to me on friday. but i took a different approach this time and just kept it open to her. i basically said hey, if you change your mind you know where to call me, and went on with my night. i mean sure, i got a little drunker than usual b/c it didn't feel great, but it'll destroy ANY possibility in the future if you are mopey about it the second she says no.

i mean really what else can you do. it's harder b/c it's not just a random girl, i get that, but really when you think about it you'll likely see her again at some point in the future so may as well keep the seed well planted rather than rip out the root the second it doesn't go right.

so basic advice: she says no, laugh and joke and make sure it doesn't look like it's a big deal. girls hate mopers and hate depressing people, if you show it doesn't bother you and that it's nbd then there's still possibilities.
 
I dunno, i've found burning my name in petrol on her front lawn or pissing in her letterbox is a good way to go.


In all seriousness though, as WeetBixKid said, getting shot down by someone you genuinely care for is not fun.

I got my heart stomped on by a girl who then paraded her new bf around the next time we were all in a group. Made me question why I ever had feelings in the 1st place.

Then I wasted on gin and tonic and sent her abusive text messages. That is NOT the way to go, trust me. That's the reason I stopped drinking right there.

I did the same fucking thing- twice while drunk- to two ex's. Fucking dumb, I said some pretty fucked up things, even if they did deserve it.
 
I did the same fucking thing- twice while drunk- to two ex's. Fucking dumb, I said some pretty fucked up things, even if they did deserve it.

While I did think she deserved it, it was never gonna solve anything.

Did you wake the next morning to a stream of messages from her angry friends/relatives threatening to "cut your dick off"? Cos I did :icon_sad:
 
so basic advice: she says no, laugh and joke and make sure it doesn't look like it's a big deal. girls hate mopers and hate depressing people, if you show it doesn't bother you and that it's nbd then there's still possibilities.

Pretty much what I've done so far.

Being honest I really don't hold out any realistic hope of getting with her now but I'm not going to burn my bridges either.
 
While I did think she deserved it, it was never gonna solve anything.

Did you wake the next morning to a stream of messages from her angry friends/relatives threatening to "cut your dick off"? Cos I did :icon_sad:

Well with the first instance after I sent that text, I got a text from anontext (I can only imagine it was her new squeeze) threatening me. Couldn't respond to it because it was anonymous and at that point I just let it go and never spoke to the bitch again.

I know I can never solve anything with ex-gf's, nor do I really want to although you think about it a lot at first. If you have intense feelings (which I did both times) you panick and can't stand the thought of losing them. So you think about making it right but its a waste of time. I know lots of girls want a guy to do that so it feeds their ego- bad move.

But in the end its the best if you don't show any anger and just shrug it off and move on. <------------that's a lot easier said than done. Indifference is the key, and I fucked up both times and said some pretty hateful things.
 
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I don't think you even bothered to read the OP.
 
I know your feeling man. It sucks


Same thing happened to me a month ago.
 
funny i was just reading this thread last week, and now i can contribute.

This may sound random but its important to the story, I won my age group at a local 5k in october and won a gift card to a local shoe store. So in November I go there and use it buy new running shoes, talk to one of the guys theres, a nice friendly man, helps me pick out a new shoe, wishes me luck on future races.

Anyway around this time I start trying to make some moves on this girl in my class, we dont sit next to each other, but eventually I start talking to her after class and we walk to the parking garage together for a month. So last wednesday was our Final for that class, we're both chatting before, I ask if she wants to get a coffee after the final, not interested. oh well.

We still spend the next 2 hours together as if me asking her out never happened, on the walk home her boyfriend comes up casually through conversation, but we just keep talking, but of course i know i've got no shot. So as we're about to leave I ask if shes got a facebook to stay in touch since we're both Philosophy majors, and shes cool with it.

I add her, then suddenly realize her boyfriend was the dude that worked at the shoe store who I bought my running shoes from a month before. The realization that I met her boyfriend and talked to him and he was nice guy, before I even started talking to her is a shitty feeling. small fucking world.

but oh well, guess its off to the next
 
The best of us, the worst of us, and the rest of us have been there man. It hurts like ass, but the good part is now you can talk to women who do want you. Just keep trying, and let a girl know straight up you are trying to get with her. That will keep you out the friend zone.
 
Don't worry! I have been rejected by dumb bitches before and ive got a hot sugar mama now who buys me things! :D

Not everyone has the same taste. There are plenty other girls out there who will want you!
 
TS, you might want to consider getting an escort and have her give you a GFE (Girlfriend experience.) That way you can let out your your pent up lovey feelings. I've been in your shoes many times and I find this helps a lot. Getting rejected/friendzoned has been the story of my life so I meet with escorts pretty regularly to keep my head on straight. The good thing about hookers is you don't have to worry about getting rejected no matter how nice or friendly you are to them.
 
Best way to get over her is to go meet other chicks.
 
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