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surprise sechs is the only remedy. that & burning her folks' house.
surprise sechs is the only remedy. that & burning her folks' house.
Getting rejected is nothing new for most guys in their mid-20's but this has left me down quite a bit.
Have known this girl for well over a year and would consider us to be good friends even if we don't see each other too often anymore, other than a few social functions now and again.
Basically I've had feelings for her for a while and decided that I needed to 'fess up, else I would drive myself crazy with keeping the crush a secret. I told her how I felt and was told the attraction was not mutual, she considered me a good friend but only that. To her credit she was clear and let me down easily.
Being honest, there was a serious relief in finally knowing the truth but nevertheless I'm still feeling down over it. In truth I probably kept my feelings hidden for too long which has added to the sting of being rejected.
Not entirely sure why I'm writing this, I've been rejected before but not by a girl I've had such strong feelings for.
Anyone want to commiserate with me? Tell me to man up? Give some helpful advice?
I dunno, i've found burning my name in petrol on her front lawn or pissing in her letterbox is a good way to go.
In all seriousness though, as WeetBixKid said, getting shot down by someone you genuinely care for is not fun.
I got my heart stomped on by a girl who then paraded her new bf around the next time we were all in a group. Made me question why I ever had feelings in the 1st place.
Then I wasted on gin and tonic and sent her abusive text messages. That is NOT the way to go, trust me. That's the reason I stopped drinking right there.
I did the same fucking thing- twice while drunk- to two ex's. Fucking dumb, I said some pretty fucked up things, even if they did deserve it.
so basic advice: she says no, laugh and joke and make sure it doesn't look like it's a big deal. girls hate mopers and hate depressing people, if you show it doesn't bother you and that it's nbd then there's still possibilities.
While I did think she deserved it, it was never gonna solve anything.
Did you wake the next morning to a stream of messages from her angry friends/relatives threatening to "cut your dick off"? Cos I did :icon_sad: