Rejected by Girl - Feeling Down

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  1. potatoe57

    potatoe57 Green Belt

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    Getting rejected is nothing new for most guys in their mid-20's but this has left me down quite a bit.

    Have known this girl for well over a year and would consider us to be good friends even if we don't see each other too often anymore, other than a few social functions now and again.

    Basically I've had feelings for her for a while and decided that I needed to 'fess up, else I would drive myself crazy with keeping the crush a secret. I told her how I felt and was told the attraction was not mutual, she considered me a good friend but only that. To her credit she was clear and let me down easily.

    Being honest, there was a serious relief in finally knowing the truth but nevertheless I'm still feeling down over it. In truth I probably kept my feelings hidden for too long which has added to the sting of being rejected.

    Not entirely sure why I'm writing this, I've been rejected before but not by a girl I've had such strong feelings for.

    Anyone want to commiserate with me? Tell me to man up? Give some helpful advice?
     
  2. Lost

    Lost Looking through Platinum Member

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    Sorry to hear that. But now that you know you can move on now without lingering what if feelings. Which lets be honest are way worse.
     
  3. MGLucas

    MGLucas Brown Belt

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    4. Suck it up and move on with life
     
  4. tkotom

    tkotom Fedor belt

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    get over it

    everyone gets rejected.. find someone else and try again
     
  5. DKallysz

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    You were in the friend zone for a full year. You need to be sexual and make your intentions clear in a subtle way at the beginning. It's time to move on now, it make be difficult but it will pass. If you're hellbent on this one girl, then my advice to you is to go out with as many other girls as you can and find a new way to present yourself to this girl in a more sexual way.
     
  6. BigRed78

    BigRed78 Orange Belt

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    get over her by getting some other lassy under you, if your relaxed about love you get better by failing until you find the one you really are destened ti be succsessfyl with. Good luck buddy
     
  7. lts5025

    lts5025 "What the **** is a Dim Mack?"

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    xcvbn Silver Belt

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    At least you tried and now know. If you hadn't asked you'd be wondering "what if" for god knows how long like most people
     
  9. potatoe57

    potatoe57 Green Belt

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    Yeah, hands up on that point. I may be down for a couple of days but I'll get over it and know the truth, unlike before where I was completely unsure.
     
  10. AgeofEmpires2**

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    I was there a few weeks ago too brotha. Really liked the girl then she withdrew all affection, we were heading toward bf-gf area but she changed her mind after about a month of it. AOE2 doesn't just fall for any girl so it did struck an unpleasant chord in my heart. Use this energy that you feel into creation... writing, music, drawing, painting, etc. You'll be surprised with how naturally it comes during times like this. The arts also exert emotions that build up which is good for you.
     
  11. Malas

    Malas Sent via carrier pigeon

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    At least you tried, TS. Just relax, you haven't lost anything. The birds will still chirp, the Earth will still rotate on its axis, etc.
     
  12. potatoe57

    potatoe57 Green Belt

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    Lol. Yeah, think you nailed it.
     
  13. Plutoburn

    Plutoburn Alpha booze head

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    The lesson here is if you are attracted to a girl, never know her well enough that it'd hurt you to get turned down by her.
     
  14. potatoe57

    potatoe57 Green Belt

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    Thanks for the responses so far guys. I feel I should point out that I'm not exactly in a deep depression over it or am currently crying over the keyboard. Just feeling a little down is all.
     
  15. Will Collazo

    Will Collazo Amateur Fighter

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    Sorry bro, but be proud of yourself you took a chance and its better than not knowing. Its her loss you gotta put her behind you right away and start meeting other girls to get her out of your brain. With time it will pass. A wiseman once gave me great advice " if someone is willing to walk away from you, let them walk" there not meant to be apart of your life.
     
  16. fatalis

    fatalis Hang yourself with a belt

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    potatoe57 Green Belt

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    Lol. Respect her decision or drug her?

    Something to think about.
     
  18. BrutalBoy

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    post her pics so we can tell you whats wrong with her elbows
     
  19. EJRMAN513

    EJRMAN513 Black Belt

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    Got friend-zoned the other day bro. I know how it feels.
     
  20. Kanster

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    On to the next one. Don't get upset over little shit like this.
     

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