Pros and Cons of getting sober

ColemanwastheGOAT said:
All that stuff you're experiencing will go away with time. I was never an alcoholic but I did drink a decent amount in my 20s and 30s. I started smoking pot in my early teens so from the age of about 14-35 I would have felt the same way you do now - where everything is better stoned/with some beers in.

It takes a few months but eventually all that goes away as your body gets used to sobriety. I haven't touched pot now is close to a decade and I drink a few beers maybe six times a year now. Life is much better without, imo.

Just try to remember life back before you ever touched any substances. You got a long just fine. You will get back there if stick with it.

You are going through a major life change though and changing habits so you should expect it to feel weird. Maybe try signing up for better help for a month or so. It helps to talk to a professional when you're going through a major life change like this nome invisivel.
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thank you so much for your suggestion
 
You have to do things to kick start your endorphins and dopamine. The alcohol and drugs fuck that shit up. Intense exercise like running and lifting. Furious masturbation. Intense laughter from a funny movie. Swimming in a brisk ocean or lake. A hammer to the hand. These things should help.
 
Just noticed that alcohol makes the muscles in your face kind of paralyzed
 
Got Cali sober(only vape THC occasionally) this year and there are no big cons for me, while the pros are numerous. Feel better, look better, perform better. All good. Maybe a bit of social "pressure", or annoyances tbh, to drink, but that is it.

If anyone is having issues with these things, just do it. The cons, if you get any, will eventually go away, and leave you with only the pros remaining. It gets so much better, especially if you are an older person.
 
CrimsonFan said:
So as alot of you guys know, I was really bad off on drugs and alcohol for a long time. Now that i've managed to get the most sober time of my entire life under my belt (62 days). Shits weird.

I'm sitting here trying to figure out what the fuck to do with myself like normal. Feel like ranting

Obviously I was ready to make a serious change in my life, with two medical detox's this year, one 30 stay stay and rehab, a really bad relapse, and just a rollercoaster ride of trying to change my life for the better.

A little over two months ago I said fuck it, and with $4000 to my name, I spent $3200 to go detox myself from alcohol for one week. I was living in basically a trap house with cocaine dealers, i told them i'm gonna go.. found a place, called my mom to come pick me up.. and said my goodbyes to my friends and that lifestyle.

Detoxing wasen't hard. The place I found this time around put me on a pretty good dose of valium and I just chain smoked cigarettes the entire time going to these little group meetings frequently throughout the day. Had pretty bad shakes and insomnia but that went away after about a week.

This time I didn't go right back to my old ways like I did earlier this year.. I moved into a sober living house with other sober people, used the last bit of my money to rent a room and quickly found a job.

Turns out when im not wasted all the time, good things happen. I instantly got promoted and was self sufficient within weeks. Now i've got about 2 grand to my name even after paying rent and i'm already looking to move on my own again. i thought I lost my girlfriend, but she has stuck with me through all this which is pretty much crazy considering the shitty things ive done and said to her.. and put her through. I guess I got a good one.

So now i'm sober for over two months, im doing really well at work.. I dont wanna kill myself anymore. And I sleep like a baby again

But life is fucking dull. Movies suck, the internet sucks, sex even is hard to get into. Every time I try to play music every note feels flat, I don't know what in the hell to do with myself when i'm not working. I'm eating out of boredom. I chain smoke to a fault. I don't really enjoy much of anything yet.. I cut ties with pretty much all of my friends because we basically just drank together. I go to AA meetings out of boredom.. I actually prefer doing that over just sitting around watching TV or something. Shits kind of difficult to be honest

Basically, getting sober is fucking weird.
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BJJ. Will cost you $200 a month but you can go every day. It will eventually coerce you into quitting cigs and eating healthy and you'll be a badass after a year or so.

You need to do something that forces you to focus with 100% of your attention. For me it was bjj/mma. Now it's snowboarding in the winter and racing cars in the summer. I'm a bjj black belt and still train for fun and to stay in shape.

Extreme focus on healthy and productive past times is the key.
 
CrimsonFan said:
This thread was from 2020, but I appreciate the encouragement still!

And I have stayed sober this entire time. 4.5 years now.

Edit, actually not true.. I drank again after that and wound up in rehab again. It finally stuck after that (Jan 2021)
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Not a single bump? Not even a little one?
 
2 plus years sober

Pros. health, I remember everything, I'm being a good dad, I'm saving lots of money

Cons. I'm healthy and I remember everything. I might just live a long time and keep remembering all the fun I used to have. I'm bored
 
A con is that life is very boring as a sober person so you have to change your entire lifestyle to avoid the boredom. Quitting is easy, the hard part is completely changing your daily routine.
 
Jesus X said:
A con is that life is very boring as a sober person so you have to change your entire lifestyle to avoid the boredom. Quitting is easy, the hard part is completely changing your daily routine.
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Video games are better than ever
 
Addicts are fucking assholes to everyone around them due to how selfish they are. I bought some edibles once and me and my daughter's thing was watching Impractical Jokers and talking shit about them. I took one and wasn't really talking much shit with her and she said something along the lines of "come on, what i said was funny". I knew at the time she was right and I was taking something from her. I felt bad about that and didn't do that again. The only thing I really liked about it anyways was how it made food taste amazing.
 
ObsoleteSoul said:
Got Cali sober(only vape THC occasionally) this year and there are no big cons for me, while the pros are numerous. Feel better, look better, perform better. All good. Maybe a bit of social "pressure", or annoyances tbh, to drink, but that is it.

If anyone is having issues with these things, just do it. The cons, if you get any, will eventually go away, and leave you with only the pros remaining. It gets so much better, especially if you are an older person.
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Just have a dozen club soda and limes and people think you're drinking them under the table.
 
Prefect said:
Addicts are fucking assholes to everyone around them due to how selfish they are.
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100%

I am dealing with that right now with a loved one and I finally tapped out after ten years. I'd love for her to turn it around.

I feel like Ben Affleck in Good Will Hunting. One day I'd love to call her up to hear how she's doing and find out she's doing great without me.
 
CrimsonFan said:
This thread was from 2020, but I appreciate the encouragement still!

And I have stayed sober this entire time. 4.5 years now.

Edit, actually not true.. I drank again after that and wound up in rehab again. It finally stuck after that (Jan 2021)
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Hell yeah sherbro. It was a weird necro bump but we’re all fired up for you dude. I love to see people take their lives back. We’re all happy and here for you
 
CrimsonFan said:
So as alot of you guys know, I was really bad off on drugs and alcohol for a long time. Now that i've managed to get the most sober time of my entire life under my belt (62 days). Shits weird.

I'm sitting here trying to figure out what the fuck to do with myself like normal. Feel like ranting

Obviously I was ready to make a serious change in my life, with two medical detox's this year, one 30 stay stay and rehab, a really bad relapse, and just a rollercoaster ride of trying to change my life for the better.

A little over two months ago I said fuck it, and with $4000 to my name, I spent $3200 to go detox myself from alcohol for one week. I was living in basically a trap house with cocaine dealers, i told them i'm gonna go.. found a place, called my mom to come pick me up.. and said my goodbyes to my friends and that lifestyle.

Detoxing wasen't hard. The place I found this time around put me on a pretty good dose of valium and I just chain smoked cigarettes the entire time going to these little group meetings frequently throughout the day. Had pretty bad shakes and insomnia but that went away after about a week.

This time I didn't go right back to my old ways like I did earlier this year.. I moved into a sober living house with other sober people, used the last bit of my money to rent a room and quickly found a job.

Turns out when im not wasted all the time, good things happen. I instantly got promoted and was self sufficient within weeks. Now i've got about 2 grand to my name even after paying rent and i'm already looking to move on my own again. i thought I lost my girlfriend, but she has stuck with me through all this which is pretty much crazy considering the shitty things ive done and said to her.. and put her through. I guess I got a good one.

So now i'm sober for over two months, im doing really well at work.. I dont wanna kill myself anymore. And I sleep like a baby again

But life is fucking dull. Movies suck, the internet sucks, sex even is hard to get into. Every time I try to play music every note feels flat, I don't know what in the hell to do with myself when i'm not working. I'm eating out of boredom. I chain smoke to a fault. I don't really enjoy much of anything yet.. I cut ties with pretty much all of my friends because we basically just drank together. I go to AA meetings out of boredom.. I actually prefer doing that over just sitting around watching TV or something. Shits kind of difficult to be honest

Basically, getting sober is fucking weird.
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Your dopamine system could take 18 months to return to normal. You'll have to find ways of feeding it in the meantime and suck it up.

Edit, seen you have, proud of you son.
 
ColemanwastheGOAT said:
Just have a dozen club soda and limes and people think you're drinking them under the table.
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Yeah, I don’t really care too much. Just hearing the same questions over and over are annoying. If that’s the worst thing happening, it’s not all that bad.
 
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