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Of course, but why is your self-interested painted as some type of bad thing? You don't join jiu-jitsu so that you may pay your instructor some fees. You join so that you can learn jiu-jitsu--and inherently selfish goal. The whole point of attending is so that you can learn a skill, and learn it well.
If I am ever presented with an opportunity to get better instruction at a cheaper price, I will take it! That's because I take jiu-jitsu so that I can get good at it, not to provide a $120 per month charity service to a Brazilian guy. If that was the case, I would just give him my money and not show up.
If he is training me, showing me techniques, etc, and then says I "betrayed" him by leaving, I would say--"Are you forgetting about the thousands of dollars I've paid you?" It would be a lot different if he charged absolutely nothing and the agreement was that I would stick around with him as a student forever. However, there is no such agreement. The agreement is that I pay him for instruction and he provides me that instruction. He is not providing that service out of sacrifice--he's doing it for his own benefit just like I am. The only debt I owe him is the fees I pay each month and the rules of the class (which include respect when on the mats and in the gym).
If the instructor was a genuine friend, he wouldn't later ask me to sacrifice my ability to improve by telling me to stay at his school when I could go to a better one. That is not how a friend acts. Friends want to see you get better.
.... "Though I still agree that consumers have a right to spend their money how and where they decide, for the first time I understand a bit more how the OLD SCHOOL instructors viewed students they felt "betrayed" them by jumping around from school to school with no sense of regret, respect or loyalty."
Hmmm, thanks for your contribution bro. My bad.