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  1. TardStrong Brown Belt

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    I have a lot of extended family. If I were to just not go to anymore funerals from now on would it be a big deal or not? I just think I funeral is not for the actual person but for show. I mean spend time with the person while they are here , when they are gone they are gone. I could see family members being upset if I didn't go but part of me thinks oh well.

    Anyone ever skip any funerals? I how did it go over?
     
  2. Mike RIP Frankie

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    I have never been to a funeral. Not sure I would go to one tbh.
     
  3. Jack Stevonovich Red Belt

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    it's kind of a big deal. It means a lot to family.
     
  4. I wasn't told about my grandathers funeral because everyone thought someone else would just tell me. I probably would have skipped out anyway.
     
  5. Headkicktoleg Titanium Belt

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    I skipped my coworkers funeral because I didn't have a black suit. I really regret it. He was a great guy and I should have made it work.
     
  6. Sakurabaism Black Belt

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    Don't be a dick, attend, help them while you're at it. They'll help you in return. Attending family matters is the easiest way to keep ties in case something bad happens and you can't deal with it alone.
     
  7. Morning Star Silver Belt Platinum Member

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    I always go to family funerals unless it's extended family across the country. I wouldn't miss one in my vicinity. You're not just going for the deceased, you're going to support your family as well.

    Had a cousin skip out on our Grandfather's funeral. He was the only Grandkid that didn't visit him in the hospital or attend the funeral. He was at Coachella instead. Couldn't even bother to attend a Saturday morning funeral less than 2 hours away. My Grandfather was the only father figure in his life, paid 100% for his Berkeley education, and paid for him to go on trips every year. Anyways his Mom was super ashamed (great woman) and the family all thinks he's a selfish asshole now.
     
  8. qw3rty Silver Belt

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    I didn't go to my grandfather's funeral, if your family already know you are a dick I guess it doesn't matter.
    OTOH if they are counting with you, yeah it's a big deal. Like Jack has said, it means a lot to the family, you should go if you want to be there for them. Dead guy won't give a fck :p
     
  9. Milgrim Australopithecus - not your average hominid

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    Been to a lot of them unfortunately. Funerals suck, but being a pallbearer is worse.
     
  10. Jim Cozad Jr. Banned Banned

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    I only went to my grandparents’ funerals, who are now all gone...I’m not close with any extended family and really don’t care what they think about me...
     
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  12. MMA since 1993 ____________ Banned

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    My take on this:

    If you were close to them, go.

    If you weren't, it's up to you. But it shouldn't matter if you don't go
     
  13. supnmunm Brown Belt

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    Go to the funerals and pick up the grieving women like in Wedding Crashers
     
  14. Trollingshill Banned Banned

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    TBH I couldn't care less if people show up. It's not gonna make that person come back and it's not gonna make anything' better. I really just want to be left alone and grieve in my own and probably drink myself
     
  15. Kraysla Black Belt

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    Depends how close you are and how you deal with death/funerals. I would say going to a wake is enough unless you were really close.
     
  16. Crocop42 Brown Belt

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    I usually skip funerals unless my wife wants me to go. I just dont get them most of the time
     
  17. Lowmanproblems Silver Belt Platinum Member

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    Funerals are for the living, the dead dont give a shit. If you dont like the living that are going to be there, dont go. If you want to support those that are grieving, then go and offer your support.
     
  18. Stoic1 Weapons are my religion

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  19. looktwice Blue Belt

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    It's not like they're looking down thinking, "oh, that Tardstrong didn't show up. What a prick."
     
  20. Damien Karras Mirabile dictu, don't you agree?

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    Depending on how close you are to the person, even if you were mildly close to the person you should go. A big definitively yes if they’re family.

    Also in support of those closest to the person who are sad about their loss, it’s the right thing to go and offer your condolences.

    Funerals are not a fun thing to go to, but it’s the thing you should do out of respect.
     

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