Hi all, first post at SD here - apologies in advance if this is the wrong subsection. Ok, me, I'm 43, bodybuilder 6' and 243Ibs. Did a teeny bit of Muay Thai back in my 20's but can't remember much except getting a contact lens knocked out in sparring. Have a VERY good record of non-violence - not a single fight since my teens, which I atrribute partly to my size acting as a deterrent, partly to my own good judgement in avoiding rough areas/bars etc. Yes alright, a couple of face-offs in the pub and the odd shove (given and taken) over 20 years but never so much as thrown a punch at a man since then, which is actually why I've decided to take up MA. Goals are: 1) Confidence - don't want to freeze up or overthink if I'm ever dumb enough to get cornered, if I have to hit I want to hit out of strategy, not fear/anger; 2) Outlet - been giving this one a lot of thought recently, it might seem a bit 'Tyler Durden' but I think a man SHOULD be in a fight once or twice in his adult life, I've led an oversanitised life since my teens, worked at a desk for the most part of 20 years, (though for a year during '00 had a job where confrontation occurred weekly, and loved the adrenaline rush) and want to experience hitting, and getting hit; 3) Diversify physical exercise; MMA is the best form of cardio in terms of calorie burning, that plus I've got all this muscle, but all it does is shove iron - I want to stress them on another route. 4) Develop Situational Awareness - ie know how to never get cornered, to have that yellow flag pop up in my mind when a trusted someone innocently puts himself in a position where he could easily snap my knee, and a red flag pop up when that someone is untrusted. It's much better to run and be labelled a coward, than win and be scarred for life, that's my decision, but I want to be ready if ever the decision to fight as grabbed out of my hands; Not an exhaustive list, I HOPE there are more I'll learn, but the main attacks I want to develop defences/counters against are: Punch thrown abruptly; Grabbed around neck from behind; Broken bottle being swung; Knife being swung; Grabbed by the throat abruptly. Finally, I know I need to work towards being able to do splits, to practice getting hit to the face and body, and find a school that isn't run by franchise or has little/no sparring available. I look forward to the considered thoughts/comments of you experts here!