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I see you're taking this lesson to heart...
Why were you late? Don't leave us baby birds hangin'. You built it up enough I want a climaxI had a bit of an epiphany today. Cut a long story short, I had a nightmarish journey to work and ended up being late to a meeting.
I spent the morning telling one of my co-workers about what happened, but he just wasn’t listening at all ... “yeah, yeah, oh ... I get that ... oh...”
I started realising that complaining about things in any form is feminine behaviour and makes you feel like less of a man ... to be honest, upon reflection, I felt like a whiny bitch.
It reminded me of that maxim, “never complain, never explain”.
My boss later asked me why I was late, I kept it real brief and said sorry. Left it at that.
But, yeah. Never complain and never explain.
I need to be sure to catch myself next time I feel the urge to vent.
Sometimes explanations are required..
Complaining isn't feminine in different circumstances.
Lets say the cashier short changed you by 20 dollars or €20 and you don't say anything. It's feminine not to speak up and let someone rob you blindly like that.
Or if you order a steak medium-rare, and they serve it to you well done.
You sit there and eat it passively without complaining.
That right there is feminine as hell.
This doesn’t make sense. You’ll become a door mat if people know you don’t complain about anything. Perhaps there’s a degrees of complaining that can be avoided like being late but to absolutely swear off complaining is a terrible idea. PS Trump complains daily and he’s the most powerful man in the world. Complaining/defending your position are traits of strong leadership.
So if a restaurant or hotel treats me poorly and I complain, I should always tell them what I expect them to do to remedy the situation? I don't agree.Complaining is when you talk about a problem and not a solution.
Frame all your "complaints" as a call to action and you won't seem so whiny.
We just let a guy go that's like that, couldn't tell him shit because he would just start in with the whiny ass excuses. He'd be a decent worker if he just stfu and accepted the constructive criticism.I try to never complain or make excuses to my boss, if I fuck up I tell him, think he appreciates it. My equivalent makes excuses for everything, it’s painful.
We just let a guy go that's like that, couldn't tell him shit because he would just start in with the whiny ass excuses. He'd be a decent worker if he just stfu and accepted the constructive criticism.