Need help with a girl. Apologies ahead of time...I have no one else to talk to.

[Endocarditis]

Sorry guys but I'm kind of clueless how to go forward at this point.

I've only known this girl for like a month but we get along really well and she is nice and really touchy with me especially when we go drinking. I feel like I'm friendzoned but it's really confusing because she's hot and cold and it changes day to day without any real pattern...as in sometimes she is standoffish and other times she's playful.

This last weekend we went to a club in Shoreditch with a group of friends. I ignore her for most of the night and she ends up dancing with some dude...storms off when he tells her to buy her a drink and tries to give me the drink but I don't take it because I've been ordering Vodka cranberries with doubles the whole night and ended up dancing with a random group of Brits. Eventually she finds me again and I end up taking her outside and we are touching/hugging etc while waiting for the rest of our friends to come out. When they come out she pushes me off and starts being super emotional saying that the dude she was with spiked her drink. We all end up going to the bus and she looks super fucked up and says "Marv, I need to throw up. Marv, I need to throw up." I tell her to just throw up in the bus because I was pretty f'd up myself and didn't want to go out and wait for another bus. She storms off and I follow her. She's on the sidewalk throwing up and I start throwing up because she's throwing up. I think we were probably there for like an hour and we don't get home until around 5am. As we are walking, I tell her in the nicest way possible that she shouldn't go around trying to hook up with guys at clubs and she pushes me off of her again and starts crying.

She's told me that she is currently trying to find a boyfriend and the fact that she's sharing that with me makes me think that I'm friendzoned. I overheard her and her girlfriends talk about Tinder and finding a guy through that and she went up to me and asked me while twirling her hair if she should make a Tinder account. I told her no obviously because I really like her.

One other problem that compounds this situation is that she is a housemate, so It will be awkward if I confess my feelings and she rejects me. I would have no problem expressing my feelings otherwise.

Cliffs:

*hot and cold girl
*she is my housemate
*I like her a lot but I think I'm friendzoned
*what do I do/is this a lost cause?

 

[LEWIS540]

Pics


lost cause

 

[Rusk]

You have yo go for it.

Tell her that you like her, and you would like to get to know her from another side than do this: :wink:

Then invite her on a date, where you will act like an aggressive alpha male and not a bitch. And then you fuck her.

Or if she refuses, be persistent. If she really refuses you, then its all over, you got to find another girl, but at least you tried.

EDIT: just read the op, i think you are too nice, and a good friend, you got to stop this shit when it comes to women, be indifferent.

 

[zackryder]

make a move now and see where u 2 stand

pros:
-if she reciprocates then u win (& have fun in ur loving relationship)
-the faster u move, the less likely u will be in the friendzone

cons:
-if she rejects u @ least u can move on and see where u 2 stand

*so the best thing is to come right out and tell her. if she says yes then u 2 r officially a couple. if she rejects u, then ull just end up pretty much where u started. the pt is @ least u know and have some finality or peace of mind

 

[Damien Karras]

She's on the sidewalk throwing up and I start throwing up because she's throwing up.

That's love right thurr

 

[fatalis]

Did you really think people on sherdog can actually help with women?

 

[Kirin]

Man, just crawl into her bed tonight and see where it goes from there.

 

[Endocarditis]

You have yo go for it.

Tell her that you like her, and you would like to get to know her from another side than do this: :wink:

Then invite her on a date, where you will act like an aggressive alpha male and not a bitch. And then you fuck her.

Or if she refuses, be persistent. If she really refuses you, then its all over, you got to find another girl, but at least you tried.

make a move now and see where u 2 stand

pros:
-if she reciprocates then u win (& have fun in ur loving relationship)
-the faster u move, the less likely u will be in the friendzone

cons:
-if she rejects u @ least u can move on and see where u 2 stand

*so the best thing is to come right out and tell her. if she says yes then u 2 r officially a couple. if she rejects u, then ull just end up pretty much where u started. the pt is @ least u know and have some finality or peace of mind

My only problem with going for it is that she is my housemate and it might make things super awkward. She's here until September so that's 4 months and we have the same group of friends right now.

 

[Da Speeit]

If you're not sure then back off dude. Girls don't like making "The first move" but they lay out ground for you do so. If she's hot and cold, try doing the same and see her reaction. If she gets upset at the cold, you're in.

 

[Kevin Rudd]

fuck me, we should have a relationship sub-forum. This is getting really pathetic.

 

[fightingrabbit]

We really need pictures of your housemate to properly assess this situation.

 

[Damien Karras]

TS, this is my advice

you are probably young and so is she. I know your feelings are raw and your penis really wants to tango with her vagina, but she is very much not into you. She does like the hugging and attention though. If you're really willing to be "that guy" who just gives her what she wants without getting anything in return, you will hate yourself later for it.

If you live with her, blast the volume while you're watching porn in order to send her a message that you're not going to f***around for too long. You have some needs, and you're a raging sex fiend. Eventually her low self-esteem will have her give in.

Or you can do the right thing and have a heart to heart with her. You're young so you're going to f*** up either way.

 

[Endocarditis]

If you're not sure then back off dude. Girls don't like making "The first move" but they lay out ground for you do so. If she's hot and cold, try doing the same and see her reaction. If she gets upset at the cold, you're in.

Thanks, I will try that.

 

[Skydome]

Pics?

 

[Rusk]

My only problem with going for it is that she is my housemate and it might make things super awkward. She's here until September so that's 4 months and we have the same group of friends right now.

It is already awkward.

Right now you just coming up with excuses, she is a girl you are a boy, its normal for you to want her.

You got nothing to lose. Also there is a possibility that even if she will refuse, you still will be around each other, so maybe she will change her mind, at least she must know that you are there if she needs to get filled.

 

[Endocarditis]

TS, this is my advice

you are probably young and so is she. I know your feelings are raw and your penis really wants to tango with her vagina, but she is very much not into you. She does like the hugging and attention though. If you're really willing to be "that guy" who just gives her what she wants without getting anything in return, you will hate yourself later for it.

If you live with her, blast the volume while you're watching porn in order to send her a message that you're not going to f***around for too long. You have some needs, and you're a raging sex fiend. Eventually her low self-esteem will have her give in.

Or you can do the right thing and have a heart to heart with her. You're young so you're going to f*** up either way.

You're probably right.

 

[Minnja]

fuck me, we should have a relationship sub-forum. This is getting really pathetic.

Mayberry to me = relationships/girl problems, personal problems and movies forums. I visit to check out the movie news, then I stay to read the relationship/girl problems threads lol.

 

[Kevin Rudd]

If you live with her, blast the volume while you're watching porn in order to send her a message that you're not going to f***around for too long. You have some needs, and you're a raging sex fiend. Eventually her low self-esteem will have her give in.

Or you can do the right thing and have a heart to heart with her. You're young so you're going to f*** up either way.

Awesome advice right here.

 

[Tycho- Taylor's Version]

Next time you guys are doing the touchy-feely stuff, move your hands over her ass or boobs a little. Or look into her eyes for a bit and then try to kiss her.

If she's down you'll be able to escalate smoothly, if you're friend-zoned she'll pull away and you'll get an earful.

If you're roommates it's probably better to confine sex to your off-nights anyways.

 

[Jon Stark]

You need to play the friends with bens card. Get drunk with her again, come on strong, when she says no or is iffy which will happen, say we are just gonna cuddle, rub your erectic dong on her leg kiss her neck and she'll change her mind. Laugh a lot during the encounter and emphasis you only want casual sex.