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NEED HELP : Switching schools, dealing with teacher

Discussion in 'Grappling Technique' started by only1, Jun 14, 2008.

  1. only1

    only1 White Belt

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    I am considering switching schools but they are 15 min apart. I am only a white belt and been with this school a few months. I have a good relationship with the teacher and fellow student, but i like the other school for various reasons ( one being curriculum).

    My question is how to i deliver the news? to my teacher in a way that is not offensive or leaves resentment......... very likely to see them and fellow students at competitions.

    please help with advice and personal stories or experiences
     
  2. batman69

    batman69 Purple Belt

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    fake your own death. if anyone from your old school sees you around tell them, that you're your twin brother.
     
  3. JiuJitsuZen

    JiuJitsuZen White Belt

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    It can be very hard to switch schools without insulting the instructor. But keep in mind that you have only been training a few months and its very normal for white belts to sign up and quit. Gyms survive by white belts signing up and some leaving.
     
  4. CopPsychDoc

    CopPsychDoc White Belt

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    Let's man up a little here. Your instructor is running a business. Clients come and go every day. Such is life.

    Just move on and if you run into anybody from the old school tell them your work/job hours fit the new school better.
     
  5. pittfrog

    pittfrog Blue Belt

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    This is going to be harder than it sounds, but don't break the news at all, just make the switch. If you sit down and have a conversation, you run the risk of burning your bridges with your current school. If you stick with this sport, you may not want to do that. You never know what's going to happen in the future. In this case, it's better to fade away, than burn out in a blaze of glory.
     
  6. Yojimbo

    Yojimbo Brown Belt

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    What is your problem with the curriculum?
     
  7. only1

    only1 White Belt

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    Thanks for the replies, its a small jiu jitsu school so even a few month made me very close to the teacher even as a white belt....... i am sure even as a white belt that i will stick with the sport unless injury happens......... so i am sure i will see them later on in life at competitions..........


    from the replies there are two options: 1) fade away 2) have a talk

    fading away is easy and good but what will that do to my reputation later if i see them in competition??? i guess ill think about it........

    thanks guys
     
  8. only1

    only1 White Belt

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    It seems the teacher doesn't have one..... its many techniques everyday..... i feel like it doesnt give us a chance to absorb it..... its good i the way that we learn some advance stuff but i dont think it it in a progressive line just like any high school or college material..... i like curiculum that schools like alliance and pablo popovitch stress
     
  9. FWTG

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    Go to shake your instructors hand and then pull guard and armbar. He wll get the mesage. Seriously though just make the switch without saying anything I guess.
     
  10. B3rserk3R

    B3rserk3R Brown Belt

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    I've gotta go with fade away. If you see them, tell the, you moved closer to the other one or something like that. It is a business and I think most instructors realize that it's not what you base you life around.
     
  11. Kimuralex

    Kimuralex Brown Belt

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    why not instead of "fading away" you go to your instructor with your problem?

    maybe he will realize your right, and will change the way he does things....and he will benefit from that since he will be better and you will benefit from it since you get what you want...

    on the other hand, i think since your new, you dont know what is good for you whatsoever....so you need to trust your instructor, and stick with it.

    it seems people always want more, more more, i bet when you go to your new school, there will be something new you wont like, and will want to go elsewhere. Its always like that.
     
  12. PervertHyena

    PervertHyena Yellow Belt

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    @ CopPsychDoc

    "Your instructor is running a business."

    I heard this from you before in another topic.
    Seems like you give the same advice to everybody.
    Thanks to you we know now, that the instructor is running a business..................
    great job
     
  13. DaDiazBros**

    DaDiazBros** Banned Banned

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    Just tell him. If you don't want to slip up tomorrow, tell the truth now.
     
  14. only1

    only1 White Belt

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    alright thanks guys
     
  15. PervertHyena

    PervertHyena Yellow Belt

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    i think it wont be a big problem if he doesnt financially relie on you and hes sure mature enough to not take it personal.
     
  16. black koala

    black koala Banned Banned

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    extreme yet effective..
     
  17. eclipse

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    lol just disappear

    when your membership runs out or whatever, dont go back :)
     
  18. nyne

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    Just man up.
     
  19. batman69

    batman69 Purple Belt

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    nah, extreme would be to kill the instructor so you could switch schools without ever having to explain why you switched schools. granted there would be a few questions about why you killed the guy in the first place.
     
  20. GentileJitsu

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    what does the other school offer that yours doesnt?
     

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