So my littlest brother (22 years old) has been a loser his whole life and been unable to find any group of people to ever accept him because he doesn’t have any real talents, hobbies, or anything that would attract other people. With other this ridiculous “non binary, cisgender, gender fluid” bullshit going on lately he finally found a group of people that would accept him and he decided all of a sudden that he was one of them. While I thought it was pathetic that he would latch on to a fad like that it wasn’t hurting me so I didn’t say anything about it.
A few months ago he started posting pics of him on Instagram wearing makeup and dresses at different places around town, including the children’s section of the local library. We don’t go over to my parent’s house that often so I figured I could wait to address it with him. Eventually before Thanksgiving I sent him a polite text (even thought I know he’s basically just playing a game and isn’t really transgender or anything) saying that I hadn’t figured out how I was going to address this with my son’s (four and eight years old) and to just give me some time to talk to them about it. He obliged and it was all good.
Originally we weren’t going to go over for Christmas dinner but our other plans fell through so we made plans to come over at 7 last night. We walked in put our food down, and as soon as he heard us downstairs he came down in a dress and wearing a full face of makeup. Within minutes my boys noticed and started asking him why he’s wearing a dress, makeup, etc. While I really wanted to commit a hate crime/domestic violence, I also didn’t want to give him the reaction he wanted so I basically pretended he didn’t exist for the whole dinner. After dinner he went upstairs, changed his clothes to jeans and a tshirt, and wiped his makeup off. I continued pretending he didn’t exist and talked to my dad/other brother for the remainder of the night.
At one point my mom pulled me off to the side to apologize for him which was surprising since she’s generally on his side and she’s pretty accepting of all this shit. I decided to address it today via text since I think a face to face conversation would devolve to him name calling and trying to yell over me. The following conversation was funny and now I’m trying to figure out how to address this further. Part of me wants to lecture him like a disappointed adult (to take away the moral high ground he craves), part of me wants to get mean and treat him like the asshole he is, and a bigger part of me wants to cut him straight to the soul by calling him out on this all being bullshit and him playing pretend to be accepted by a bunch of weirdos. Thoughts Sherdog?
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As ridiculous as that conversation is I can assure you it is completely legit.
