My friend is a dick to his girlfriend.

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Haven't hung out with him in a while, so I forgot how much of a jerk he is. Wouldn't let her talk about her plans to see some show, tried to take phone out of her hands because he wanted to know who she was talking to. He got really pissed when she moved a hot tea-kettle to touch his finger. She did it on purpose, and yeah it sounds kind of like a dumb thing to do which I admit it was, but it was a light-hearted attempt at humor that caused him to swear at her, and his hand moved into the slapping mode like he was going to hit her.

He called her best friend a slut multiple times, and other things I can't remember off the top of my head.

We aren't best friends, but he seems to have a certain level of respect for me. I'm not sure what his response would be if I confronted him about him being an asshole to women though.

So.. Would you confront the guy? Any thoughts on this? I can't stand disrespect to women.. I took her side a lot during their arguments, but I didn't talk to him about the situation as a whole.
 
Forgot to mention. I do like the guy. He's a great friend, with the exception of when he's around women.
 
maybe you should take notes from the GF and deal with it rather than make a thread complaining about some dood we ain't know
 
JohnsCurry said:
Haven't hung out with him in a while, so I forgot how much of a jerk he is. Wouldn't let her talk about her plans to see some show, tried to take phone out of her hands because he wanted to know who she was talking to. He got really pissed when she moved a hot tea-kettle to touch his finger. She did it on purpose, and yeah it sounds kind of like a dumb thing to do which I admit it was, but it was a light-hearted attempt at humor that caused him to swear at her, and his hand moved into the slapping mode like he was going to hit her.

He called her best friend a slut multiple times, and other things I can't remember off the top of my head.

We aren't best friends, but he seems to have a certain level of respect for me. I'm not sure what his response would be if I confronted him about him being an asshole to women though.

So.. Would you confront the guy? Any thoughts on this? I can't stand disrespect to women.. I took her side a lot during their arguments, but I didn't talk to him about the situation as a whole.
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Does she complain about him?
 
JohnsCurry said:
Haven't hung out with him in a while, so I forgot how much of a jerk he is. Wouldn't let her talk about her plans to see some show, tried to take phone out of her hands because he wanted to know who she was talking to. He got really pissed when she moved a hot tea-kettle to touch his finger. She did it on purpose, and yeah it sounds kind of like a dumb thing to do which I admit it was, but it was a light-hearted attempt at humor that caused him to swear at her, and his hand moved into the slapping mode like he was going to hit her.

He called her best friend a slut multiple times, and other things I can't remember off the top of my head.

We aren't best friends, but he seems to have a certain level of respect for me. I'm not sure what his response would be if I confronted him about him being an asshole to women though.

So.. Would you confront the guy? Any thoughts on this? I can't stand disrespect to women.. I took her side a lot during their arguments, but I didn't talk to him about the situation as a whole.
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You know she ain't gonna let you hit it fo dat right? come on playa
 
Sounds like you like the girl TS.

If he's not slapping her around you should leave them to it, she's an adult and can leave if she chooses to.

If you do like the girl, and want to impress her - beat the shit out of him while maintaining eye contact with her.
 
Unless physical violence occurred or the gf is actively seeking help, the Bro code says mind your own business.
 
If she hasn't left or done anything about it...oh well.

Unless she's being physically abused and you see proof, it's on her.

You have a good heart though.
 
She's still with him so obviously it's not that big of a deal.

As with most relationships it probably won't last much longer, so no point in confronting him and possibly messing a friendship up over something that is basically nothing.
 
I personally know a lot of guys that were/are verbally/mentally abusive to their girlfriends, and as much as I've wanted to get involved and say something, I haven't. Even when the guy was my best friend at the time, granted it's one of the reasons I'm not friends with him anymore, I still didn't.

Certain women will always end up with abusive men, no matter what.

Though, if you see a guy you know hitting a girl you know, touching him with teh jab is completely called for.
 
Don't white knight on your homeboy.

...That's it. Mind your own business.
 
I hear women in abusive relationships, physical or mental, have a hard time leaving on their own because a lot of times they feel they deserve it or something. I don't know, the point was that abused women don't have the ability to just bounce all the time.
 
only speak up if you accept that no good, particularly for you, can come from it.
 
EOW said:
she's an adult and can leave if she chooses to.
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Not if Stockholm Syndrome has kicked in. And what if next time he goes to visit the couple he finds out the guy has locked her in the bedroom? Then it kind of turns into a Schrodinger's Cat thing.
 
Wolveswithkeys said:
Not if Stockholm Syndrome has kicked in. And what if next time he goes to visit the couple he finds out the guy has locked her in the bedroom? Then it kind of turns into a Schrodinger's Cat thing.
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That's when he go into full white knight mode, guns blazing.
 
Do you know the woman's best friend or mother? If you do, sit them down and express your concerns. Beyond that, step away from the problem. Avoid seeing him around women. That is all.
 
EOW said:
That's when he go into full white knight mode, guns blazing.
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But what if TS gets smacked around by the dude. Then he won't get the girl, and she will still be in her abusive relationship
 
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