Mental Health vs New Job

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Hey guys

Another unhappy thread I'm afraid. Basically, I've had persistent thoughts of self harm for several months now. Talking to a professional hasn't helped - all they say is bullshit stuff like "things will get better". The medication hasn't helped either. The only thing left for me to try is to go to hospital at this point.

However, I am also meant to start a new job next month. Really not keen on doing it - I am only moving because of an increase in income. But I have already quit my old job.

I feel really unwell and I don't know if I should start the new gig. Regarding my sickness, I haven't lost the ability to think clearly but I'm very down. Part of me just thinks I'm a wimp and I should push my emotions aside and push through. The other half thinks my condition may soon decline further.

Advice?
 
You have to realize that the new job may impact your mental health as well, and mental health is always more important than a job. Although it's understandable if you need the income, otherwise wait it out a bit and get yourself straight. The only advice I can give you is very generic, but exercise and healthy diet go along way, although it's a lot more than that sometimes and involves medical intervention. cheers.
 
No advice to offer but curious what type of treatment you’ve had in the past.
 
Find a local support group and talk to somebody.

Let us know if you need help with finding the right group.
 
If talking to a professional isn't helping, you may be seeing the wrong one. It can be difficult to find the right fit and you may have to go through a few to find the one for you. And nobody will be the right one if you aren't committed to making a change.

Exercise is more effective in treating depression than medicine. Make sure you are exercising, even if you really don't feel like it.

Try meditation. It isn't a stand-alone solution, but it will help.

Good luck.
 
Hatake88 said:
Hey guys

Another unhappy thread I'm afraid. Basically, I've had persistent thoughts of self harm for several months now. Talking to a professional hasn't helped - all they say is bullshit stuff like "things will get better". The medication hasn't helped either. The only thing left for me to try is to go to hospital at this point.

However, I am also meant to start a new job next month. Really not keen on doing it - I am only moving because of an increase in income. But I have already quit my old job.

I feel really unwell and I don't know if I should start the new gig. Regarding my sickness, I haven't lost the ability to think clearly but I'm very down. Part of me just thinks I'm a wimp and I should push my emotions aside and push through. The other half thinks my condition may soon decline further.

Advice?
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bro, seek out the little things that amuse you - but they must be anchored with positivity.

keep yourself busy. immerse yourself with things that keep your spirits from sinking.

take sherdog for example. there's always a humorous tone that's set here in The Mayberry. that ought to be a good start. people joke & goof off here, myself included.

I just lost my father, & there's an entire mess of problems as a result regarding my family members, but I know not to dwell on that shit because along with the grieving, it's just too much for me.

sherdog helps. it provides me with the necessary buoyancy to still think of the issues at hand appropriately, but not sink into them with negativity.

you got this bro.
 
Mmm.

What's your approximate age, family, support net, and financial situations?
 
Hatake88 said:
I feel really unwell and I don't know if I should start the new gig. Regarding my sickness, I haven't lost the ability to think clearly but I'm very down. Part of me just thinks I'm a wimp and I should push my emotions aside and push through. The other half thinks my condition may soon decline further.

Advice?
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Ok, we need more info.

Age/Height/Weight/RelationshipStatus?

What is the job you're taking, and which one did you quit? Where are you now and moving to?

How long have you felt these thoughts of self-harm? Do you specifically mean suicide or generally hurting yourself to feel pain? What recent trauma have you suffered that may have helped cause these urges?

If you don't take this new job, how long can you sustain yourself financially?

Any wild changes to your weight and diet in recent years?
 
Movement is the key to life.

If you seat at home and just think to yourself about how unhappy you are and start looking at all the negative things you are not going to get better.

You need to start off by going for a walk, and looking around you and start feeling grateful for all the good things in your life, all the things that make life worth living; if you can't find them create them, start imaging what would your perfect life be like.

When you get a bit more energy, go for a run, exercise, practice gratitude, call an old friend, do something that makes you happy, find your passions, watch a funny movie, make yourself happy again little by little and start thinking what is that one thing you always wanted to do.

Remember by sitting down and feeling sorry for yourself you are only going to get word, you need to get moving, and get busy.

All the advise we can provide you with is useless if you do nothing about it, it's on you to make this work, remember "you can lead an elephant to water, but you can't make him drink".
 
Binge some Jose Aldo highlights and take up medieval weaponry collecting. You’ll be living your best life in no time.
 
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Do what you think is right.
 
Hatake88 said:
Hey guys

Another unhappy thread I'm afraid. Basically, I've had persistent thoughts of self harm for several months now. Talking to a professional hasn't helped - all they say is bullshit stuff like "things will get better". The medication hasn't helped either. The only thing left for me to try is to go to hospital at this point.

However, I am also meant to start a new job next month. Really not keen on doing it - I am only moving because of an increase in income. But I have already quit my old job.

I feel really unwell and I don't know if I should start the new gig. Regarding my sickness, I haven't lost the ability to think clearly but I'm very down. Part of me just thinks I'm a wimp and I should push my emotions aside and push through. The other half thinks my condition may soon decline further.

Advice?
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If you feel you aren't in control, and you'll know because it's a terrifying feeling, you need to check into a hospital. You can get a lot more help there and therapy, but you have to be willing to work on your mind. You will also be able to rest there, but prepared to be put right on anti-depressants and other shit. You don't have to take them, but be prepared for that.
 
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