Man, people I know have been dying fairly young

[rj144]

Last week, a colleague of mine wife's died at 47 from cancer. Yesterday, my cousin's wife died in her sleep suddenly at 57. Man, does that suck.

Do what you want, within reason, now folks. You never know when your expiration date is, unfortunately.

 

[Threetrees]

My cousin passed away at 39 last month, he died suddenly in his sleep. No prior conditions

 

[Cherry Brigand]

I'm sorry for your losses sherbros.

Because life is a vapor, we should humble ourselves before God and do his will. James 4:14.

Or if the words of God don't move your heart, perhaps those of Don Henley will:

If you find somebody to love in this world
You better hang on tooth and nail
The wolf is always at the door...

You better take a fool's advice
And take care of your own
'Cause one day they're here;
Next day they're gone.

 

[MichiganMMA1978]

I lost a few friends last year, and a couple guys I went to HS with. All early 40s, various reasons from suicide to OD to dying in sleep... getting older sucks.

 

[fingercuffs]

I'm sorry for your losses sherbros.

Because life is a vapor, we should humble ourselves before God and do his will. James 4:14.

Or if the words of God don't move your heart, perhaps those of Don Henley will:

If you find somebody to love in this world
You better hang on tooth and nail
The wolf is always at the door...

You better take a fool's advice
And take care of your own
'Cause one day they're here;
Next day they're gone.

One thing that moved me about Louis CK was a sketch he did about finding the love of your life, spending every living second loving that person all to make it the harder when they die. The more you put in, the worse it is when they go. Horrible, right?

That isn't to say we shouldn't make ourselves vulnerable to love, but it was a poignant 'comedy' moment.

 

[Cherry Brigand]

One thing that moved me about Louis CK was a sketch he did about finding the love of your life, spending every living second loving that person all to make it the harder when they die. The more you put in, the worse it is when they go. Horrible, right?

I'd rather have my entire being completely shattered at the death of my wife than have never loved her! I hope you feel the same way -not about my wife - though to know her is to love her- I mean your husband.

 

[fingercuffs]

I'd rather have my entire being completely shattered at the death of my wife than have never loved her! I hope you feel the same way -not about my wife - though to know her is to love her- I mean your husband.

Of course. We've had ups and downs but he's been my soul mate for 22 years. I wouldn't change our adventures for the world. We've made our lives for the richer completely and I'm so very lucky to be his wife. I see my step-dad though who is still absolutely mortified by my mum's death 2 years ago, he will never get over it. I dread that day if husband goes before me, I just can't fathom the loss.

 

[MichiganMMA1978]

Of course. We've had ups and downs but he's been my soul mate for 22 years. I wouldn't change our adventures for the world. We've made our lives for the richer completely and I'm so very lucky to be his wife. I see my step-dad though who is still absolutely mortified by my mum's death 2 years ago, he will never get over it. I dread that day if husband goes before me, I just can't fathom the loss.

I've contemplated, should I find out I've got a terminal illness, of just divorcing her without telling her... I'd rather her be mad at me than go through that. I know, even with all our issues, it would crush me to see her suffer, and vice versa. I don't want any loved ones seeing me suffer. I'd rather be alone in the woods and swallow some lead when I can't take care of myself any longer. sounds kinda harsh reading it... maybe I should rethink lol

 

[THEfightsAREfixed]

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr70/nvsr70-09-508.pdf

second leading cause of death for ages 10-34 is suicide, one of the most important things is to even want to live in this day and age given how shitty people are and have made the world, treat others, etc.

 

[deadshot138]

Of course. We've had ups and downs but he's been my soul mate for 22 years. I wouldn't change our adventures for the world. We've made our lives for the richer completely and I'm so very lucky to be his wife. I see my step-dad though who is still absolutely mortified by my mum's death 2 years ago, he will never get over it. I dread that day if husband goes before me, I just can't fathom the loss.

This is where that dying at 30 being the meta thread I made a while back comes into play. You get to enjoy your roaring 20s and fuck your brains out while avoiding the shit parts of life like watching all your loved ones die around you before you take the dirt nap yourself. Just lost my mom so that part of life is starting for me.

 

[Oregonmma]

One thing that moved me about Louis CK was a sketch he did about finding the love of your life, spending every living second loving that person all to make it the harder when they die. The more you put in, the worse it is when they go. Horrible, right?

That isn't to say we shouldn't make ourselves vulnerable to love, but it was a poignant 'comedy' moment.

Ahh yes the wise words of Louis. Life is short. Jack off in front of your loved one more... Or not even your loved one for that matter lol

 

[fingercuffs]

I've contemplated, should I find out I've got a terminal illness, of just divorcing her without telling her... I'd rather her be mad at me than go through that. I know, even with all our issues, it would crush me to see her suffer, and vice versa. I don't want any loved ones seeing me suffer. I'd rather be alone in the woods and swallow some lead when I can't take care of myself any longer. sounds kinda harsh reading it... maybe I should rethink lol

I'm pretty sure she'd know if you've divorced her

What me step-dad went through with my mum. Incontinence being the worst was horrific, her losing her mind with brain cancer, I wouldn't want to be that burden to my husband either but I know he would do it if/when it happens. It got to the stage where my mum had to go into a nursing home, and her mind had changed so much she was fine with it. And it really was the kindest thing to do for her.

I don't want him to die before me for selfish reasons because I can't really imagine him not being here and don't really want a life without him. But unselfish reasons I don't want to go before him so he has to suffer losing me. I've told him to get the dancing girls in and take up cocaine if I pop my clogs first.

 

[fingercuffs]

Ahh yes the wise words of Louis. Life is short. Jack off in front of your loved one more... Or not even your loved one for that matter lol

I'm not too fond of him anyway but that would have been a buzz kill if I was in the audience that night.

 

[MichiganMMA1978]

I'm pretty sure she'd know if you've divorced her

What me step-dad went through with my mum. Incontinence being the worst was horrific, her losing her mind with brain cancer, I wouldn't want to be that burden to my husband either but I know he would do it if/when it happens. It got to the stage where my mum had to go into a nursing home, and her mind had changed so much she was fine with it. And it really was the kindest thing to do for her.

I don't want him to die before me for selfish reasons because I can't really imagine him not being here and don't really want a life without him. But unselfish reasons I don't want to go before him so he has to suffer losing me. I've told him to get the dancing girls in and take up cocaine if I pop my clogs first.

I saw the toll it took on her taking care of her grandfather, and then a few years later her mother getting sick... she wasn't the same after that... I don't want to be a burden like that.

I can relate with the brain cancer as well. My biological dad passed away in 07 from brain cancer... fought it for 13 years. We weren't close by any means, but it was still hard to see. Thankfully I was raised by my adopted dad, I was a horrible child, somehow he dealt with it, and I hated him for it at the time, but not many people I respect more than him now.

 

[genecop]

Yup, this life is happening right now…it’s not a practice run, take chances and be happy, too many people let their dreams die and get stuck in less than happy lives…sorry for the loss TS…

 

[TeTe]

It usually stands out when younger people we know (or don't know) die at a young age. And while it sucks and puts things into perspective, a high percentage of people do get to live a long life.

Of the people who die young of health related issues, many of them have expedited their fate by poor life choices. For every person that I know of that died young from diseases or conditions that have no control over.... I could name three that died from smoking, drinking and drugs or heart conditions, diabetes, clotting, etc that came from being overweight. I'm talking mainly about people under the age of 60.

 

[fingercuffs]

I saw the toll it took on her taking care of her grandfather, and then a few years later her mother getting sick... she wasn't the same after that... I don't want to be a burden like that.

I can relate with the brain cancer as well. My biological dad passed away in 07 from brain cancer... fought it for 13 years. We weren't close by any means, but it was still hard to see. Thankfully I was raised by my adopted dad, I was a horrible child, somehow he dealt with it, and I hated him for it at the time, but not many people I respect more than him now.

I was a handful for my step-dad too, and mirroring your thoughts on your adoptive dad. I flew over to look after my mum and step-dad during and post surgery with her. I was useless with the incontinence and step-dad and I got on each other's nerves a bit.

But he treats me like his own daughter the same if not more than he does his blood biological son.

 

[xHeadx]

Last week, a colleague of mine wife's died at 47 from cancer. Yesterday, my cousin's wife died in her sleep suddenly at 57. Man, does that suck.

Do what you want, within reason, now folks. You never know when your expiration date is, unfortunately.

I totally agree. In the last 6 years I lost my father, a sister, my best friend & his wife, & another friend. My father was the oldest around 64. Everyone else was under 50 or close to it. During that time I managed to get cancer & a brother is I'll. Hug your loved ones.

 

[mozfonky]

I've contemplated, should I find out I've got a terminal illness, of just divorcing her without telling her... I'd rather her be mad at me than go through that. I know, even with all our issues, it would crush me to see her suffer, and vice versa. I don't want any loved ones seeing me suffer. I'd rather be alone in the woods and swallow some lead when I can't take care of myself any longer. sounds kinda harsh reading it... maybe I should rethink lol

Be careful about suicide, some of the paranormal stories i hear about it don't make for a pretty afterlife. Who knows if it's true but why find out?

 

[PG29 red0 Jr]

Life is short, live life wild and reckless, don't save for the future, live for the now.

Think about all the fun you can have in your 20s. What are you going to do, save money so you have it when you are an 80 year old cripple watching the price is right? That's only if you are lucky enough to live that long.