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Losing interest or giving up on your dream

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  1. lion paw

    lion paw Purple Belt

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    Awhile back, I used to write screenplays and sometimes stories in my spare time. The screenwriting drafts I used to love doing. That's not the case anymore. Prior to that, I used to draw a lot. I was in no way a professional drawer. It was my own creations. Unfortunately, I grew out of that too. As for the screenwriting, I haven't done it in a while and I have little to no interest of returning.

    Have you ever outgrown or given up on something you wanted to pursue?
     
  2. Kühle Hand Luke

    Kühle Hand Luke Mr. Cool Hand Luke Ice

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    I wanted to be a porn star but I just didn't measure up.
     
  3. lion paw

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    I knew that one was coming, no pun intended.
     
  4. Josh

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    Giving up and outgrowing dreams are two totally different things man. If your goals and values don't change as you move through life, you ain't movin through life.
     
  5. lion paw

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    Good shit. The drawing, outgrew. The writing, I went back and tried to restart. Slowly outgrowing. Trying to keep interested. Time for a new outlet.
     
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    When I was a child, I wanted to be a hitman #1, a garbage man #2, or an Astronomer.

    Unfortunately, I realized that I just wasn't good, or smart enough to become one of my dream positions.

    If I ever win the Lotto, I will def. buy a garbage truck and fix it up really nice. Chrome pipes and top of the line hydraulics + epic stereo system.

    I would also get a decent telescope from Wal-Mart, and a few sniper rifles online.
     
  7. Magooglie

    Magooglie Yellow Card Yellow Card

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    Sounds more like they were your hobbies.
     
  8. lakersfan45

    lakersfan45 That's sardo! No mr, accent on the do!

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    I had/am in a similar situation. I used to write a lot of scripts. I took a screenwriting class with a very accomplished screen writer and learned a ton. The class was awesome and was basically people writing and having other students help and evaluate their writing, then the professor would give very good and detailed notes. It really helped me with my writing, problem is that after the class my writing suffered from not having the structure I had during that class. I basically haven't written anything long since that class and feel clueless in getting back into it, even though I could easily write before that class

    All I can say is follow ur hobbies and dreams. I took the class and wrote for fun, my main goal in life is to be an accomplished scientist. My hobbies such as writing is what makes it possible for me to go after my goals and keep a sane mind. Just realize if ur dream or goal in life is to be a writer or something in a creative and crowded field you will have to work extremely hard if ur goal is to actually make a career of it.

    Dont give up!
     
  9. lion paw

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    Last time I wrote something was last month. I had trouble doing that. It just felt weird/uninspiring. As for you sir, good luck getting back into it.
     
  10. 5H3RD0G

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    You never truly quit you just take a break. In time you will return once again habit of nature.
     
  11. gigantalor

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    Did you find it hard to swallow?
     
  12. Kühle Hand Luke

    Kühle Hand Luke Mr. Cool Hand Luke Ice

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    I just wasn't 'cut' out for the business.
     
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    3825 968 moonwalking

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    you blew your audition
     
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    I find I only have the bitterness to be creative when I give up on my dreams. As soon as I start pursuing them again, I get cheery and boppy and vacuous so there's nothing left to write.
     
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    What you are experiencing is called life.
     
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    When a supermodel passes the age of 27, i give up on that particular dream.
     
  17. AgeofEmpires2**

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    I've noticed most people that are under 30 are trying to coast through life and want to get paid for full-time work while only working part-time. People under 30 are opening up their own 'consulting' firms because they didn't want to be the fax/scanner bitch at their corporate office with what they perceive to be an over-qualified degree. These consulting firms led by people without a wrinkle on their face remind me of Homer Simpson who starts a website and asks everyone 'Can I have my money now?' A lot of other people I know are trying to make it big becoming 'photographers'. That seems to be the counter-culture career choice amongst the youth that should have full time jobs by now but they don't. I think these people just don't want to accept that maybe working full-time for a while is in their future.

    Why am I saying this? Because I wanted to become a screenwriter too, but part of that perhaps was because I wanted to work part-time and get full-time pay. 100k a year for 1 screenplay? Possibly a million? Yes please! No different than musicians trying to make it big, actors who move to Los Angeles to try and make it big, etc. Here's a better tip, follow the money right now and save as much as you can. Once that happens start looking to transfer your career into your passions. I think I'll take up writing again when my future investments start picking up, when I can stop working 55 hours a week and instead 25. Get the money growing, reduce the hours of your old work, replace it with your passion and profit.
     
  18. S1Z

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    Yeah that's a really great post AgeofEmpires.

    To answer the OP, I lose faith in my goals and find myself questioning 'settling before giving myself a chance to try them' more and more these days. I'll likely end up pursuing them; whether or not I do so in the best way possible is to be determined.
     
  19. jehosafats

    jehosafats Zungguzungguguzungguzeng

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    I used to think my only real talent was baseball. From my highschool days, up until around six or seven years ago, I was lost. Once I started writing on language and evolution, it all became clear to me. I did most of writing in 08'-09' and then seemingly abandoned the project, since I felt like I solved it. But I'm still going at it. I've finally committed to something. I know this, because I still study the literature, and have now waded into the realms of calculus and game theory. There is no turning back.

    My greatest enemy is complacence. But, oddly, through this process, I managed to find my dream girl. She's quick to dress me down, so this shouldn't be a problem.
     
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