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After enjoying reading about the failures of a fellow sherbro in his quest to find a woman, I thought I'd share my own.
I used to be able to approach women when I was younger but in recent years, after smoking weed all the time and being in a relationship, I quit trying.
After I split up with my ex, I realized I didn't have the same confidence approaching woman. I see beautiful woman and feel very intimidated. I hate rejection and wuss out on talking to them. Later I hate myself for it and curse my lack of confidence. I don't have as bad a problem with women I consider average and approach them more often (though still not very much in the last couple years), but I was still easily intimidated.
I blame this partly on the weed as it does affect my social acumen. I am not making an anti-weed argument. It's different for everyone.
Well, it's been over a week since I quit smoking (quitting has been hell but I want to be free of my marijuana addiction) and tonight I saw a beautiful woman I wanted to talk to at in-n-out. I imagined all these different things I would say to her. I kept psyching myself up for the moment... and then promptly walked out of the restaurant without saying a word.
I hated myself as I got in the car. It's so pathetic. I'm almost 35 and am terrified of one of the things I want more than anything. As I wallowed in my self loathing, I pondered my dilemma.
So I got out of the car, walked back into in-n-out, sat down next to her, and proceeded to gush to a total stranger. I told her I'm nearly 35 and still terrified of women because I'm a pothead and that I just quit and that I have to talk to her because I have to conquer my fear. The first few seconds she didn't look up from her phone, but then she looked at me with really kind eyes and was very nice and understanding. She started talking to me and telling me about herself.
This is and isn't a success story. It's not a success story because right away she told me she wanted to be upfront and honest that she had a boyfriend who she'd been dating for one month, but she still gave me her business card, told me she has 2 kids, likes to hike, and used to live in LA but thinks it's overcrowded.
That's not the point though. I don't care if I talk to her again or not. The point is that I cold approached a beautiful woman even though I was terrified. Gushing like I did was probably lame or maybe it wasn't (she seemed to be really receptive to what I was saying even though she said she was seeing someone), but either way, I still talked to her instead of driving off like a pussy.
Whether or not I go anywhere with this chick doesn't matter. I talked to her even though I was scared. I now feel more confident and empowered. I am conquering my fear.
Some butt face on sherdog called me a beta the other day but I'm not a beta because I can walk up to beautiful woman and spit game... even if my game sucks, it can only get better from here because I'm no longer too afraid to even try.
So if you're already really suave with the ladies, have a good laugh at my expense, I don't care. If you're in the same boat I was in, remember, you strike out on every opportunity you don't attempt. Don't be scared.
I used to be able to approach women when I was younger but in recent years, after smoking weed all the time and being in a relationship, I quit trying.
After I split up with my ex, I realized I didn't have the same confidence approaching woman. I see beautiful woman and feel very intimidated. I hate rejection and wuss out on talking to them. Later I hate myself for it and curse my lack of confidence. I don't have as bad a problem with women I consider average and approach them more often (though still not very much in the last couple years), but I was still easily intimidated.
I blame this partly on the weed as it does affect my social acumen. I am not making an anti-weed argument. It's different for everyone.
Well, it's been over a week since I quit smoking (quitting has been hell but I want to be free of my marijuana addiction) and tonight I saw a beautiful woman I wanted to talk to at in-n-out. I imagined all these different things I would say to her. I kept psyching myself up for the moment... and then promptly walked out of the restaurant without saying a word.
I hated myself as I got in the car. It's so pathetic. I'm almost 35 and am terrified of one of the things I want more than anything. As I wallowed in my self loathing, I pondered my dilemma.
So I got out of the car, walked back into in-n-out, sat down next to her, and proceeded to gush to a total stranger. I told her I'm nearly 35 and still terrified of women because I'm a pothead and that I just quit and that I have to talk to her because I have to conquer my fear. The first few seconds she didn't look up from her phone, but then she looked at me with really kind eyes and was very nice and understanding. She started talking to me and telling me about herself.
This is and isn't a success story. It's not a success story because right away she told me she wanted to be upfront and honest that she had a boyfriend who she'd been dating for one month, but she still gave me her business card, told me she has 2 kids, likes to hike, and used to live in LA but thinks it's overcrowded.
That's not the point though. I don't care if I talk to her again or not. The point is that I cold approached a beautiful woman even though I was terrified. Gushing like I did was probably lame or maybe it wasn't (she seemed to be really receptive to what I was saying even though she said she was seeing someone), but either way, I still talked to her instead of driving off like a pussy.
Whether or not I go anywhere with this chick doesn't matter. I talked to her even though I was scared. I now feel more confident and empowered. I am conquering my fear.
Some butt face on sherdog called me a beta the other day but I'm not a beta because I can walk up to beautiful woman and spit game... even if my game sucks, it can only get better from here because I'm no longer too afraid to even try.
So if you're already really suave with the ladies, have a good laugh at my expense, I don't care. If you're in the same boat I was in, remember, you strike out on every opportunity you don't attempt. Don't be scared.
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