"Bullying", in my case, at least, was a constant barrage of insults and public humiliation at my expense. Every day, multiple people poking fun at my appearance and weight, and making a school-wide ordeal.
You have a girly voice and you stepped up to rap in the OT. You got balls. You are an artist, you play guitar, you make great gifs and you are never shy to tell your opinion. I kind of like you. Don't know what these kids had such a problem with.
It wasnt one kid saying he wanted to fight me, which happened a lot due to my weight and the fact that i was known to fight (when you kick someone's ass, someone else who knows they can kick your ass wants to prove they can do so, etc), it was usually a group with a motive.
That sucks. I can see that happening. It sure helps if you have cars full of friends backing you up. We had a few neo-nazis in a neighboring town, when I was a kid and one of them wanted to pick a fight with me. He said he would kick my ass and then he would fuck up whoever else from my town, if need be. I told him that's cool, meet me one hour after school, downtown. I'll be there and obviously some other people who you can try. Then I called everybody I knew and chatted up everyone in school and told them that "the nazis" wanted to invade and "put a beating on the town" and voila I had about 150 kids with skateboards, sticks, parts of fences, bats and what not on my side. That was the biggest lynch mob of angry kids in the history of our small town. So the dudes rolled in with a car. They stopped. One guy got out, turned around, got right back in. Then the car set there as everyone was waiting for some other cars to arrive or something. One more car showed up, pulled around and drove off.
Then me and a few others knocked on the door of the car and the guy rolled down the window. They were like, you know this ain't a fair fight, right? I was surprised they had stuck around and I actually found some respect for them for even rolling down the window. I said, you told me to bring whoever, that's them. He said, o.k. fine, I'm sorry I messed with you. Let's leave it at that. I said, o.k., just don't go around threatening anybody from around here. Then they left and so did almost everyone else. That's when the real story happened. Apparently one kid with a few others followed them to teach them a lesson. Those guys drove to their grandparents. The granddad had a gun collection. They obviously felt threatened at that point. So the one guy gets a shotgun and stands in the door-way like, what? So the kid that followed them knows this guy. He's a little bat-shit at the time and he gets out of the car, walks to the guy with the gun, gives him a black eye and takes the gun from him. He still has it to this day, lol.
That's in my experience at least, and it seems to be the experience of the person who came forward.
That's my experience, too. It helps to get enrolled in sports. Nobody really picks on athletes. But then not everyone has sporting genes, so I guess it's not necessarily an option for everyone. Honestly though, even if you are bad at sports, after a year on the football team or better yet the wrestling team, you'll have a lot of big strong friends looking out for you, even if you aren't the best.
"Bullying" is usually something made to revolve public humiliation and not person-to-person assholism.
It's different these days I guess. When I was a kid there was usually some respected person that stuck up for whoever got "bullied" for longer than a week or so. One week was like the unwritten limit. There is no point in picking on someone that's already humiliated.
Once again, not excuse the latter, because it's fucking ridiculous as well. But the word "Bully" encompasses something a little more sinister at hand, which very well may be the case, but it doesn't really sound like it from what the article provided.
I'll see what comes out.
I don't know what the difference is supposed to be. Bullying also starts with one person, then others join in once weakness is exposed. It's exactly like you describe in my opinion, but that normally comes from one person having an issue with someone and making everyone else a part of that, like if you are my friend, you will help me ridicule this guy for reason xyz.
That doesn't mean we know what went on, but more then likely that fighter used to be acting a fool, because he was tougher than others. He then went into MMA and probably learned a lot of discipline and got self-confidence. I bet he doesn't act like that any more, because he now knows there is always someone that's tougher than you. So maybe he was a bully, maybe not. You can't change the mistakes you make in highschool, but that doesn't mean Head himself hasn't changed a lot. I can see the TS being happy about Head getting it, but in reality Head made money fighting and turned to doing something respectable. Win or lose, he stepped in there and put it on the line in a fair fight. He's fighting real fighters in a cage for money now, not picking on smaller guys that don't want any beef. Instead of posting here, maybe the TS could have written to Head directly, but honestly, TS's little thread is probably something James Head will have to live with. I don't exactly think a thread like this on sherdog will have a negative impact on his career. This isn't figure skating. It's a good sport for guys that are bullies or being bullied. It gives them both perspective, skills and self-confidence. It'll straighten out bullies and give those that were bullied something to be proud of. It makes them secure and then they won't attract bullies looking for weakness, just from the change in body language alone.
