Hey guys I started MMA the other day (note: I weigh 310 pounds, I DO NOT want to be a fighter I just want to lose weight and learn) and the first thing I did was jump rope for a warm up. Then I put on boxing gloves and the coach that day taught me how to do a "1, 2" which is a left jab (1) and then a right straight (2) since I'm right handed. I'm clumsy so my technique is bad and my foot work is terrible but now that I know what I need to work on I finally understand why people shadowbox and how they do it because without any knowledge of boxing I never knew how someone could picture themselves punching the air, but they're saying in their head different combinations. Now that I got that out of the way let me tell you where I think I went wrong. I was watching some of the guys grapple and what I noticed alot of these guys who get caught in chokes or locks don't tap immeditally, even when they're just sitting there in the lock or choke. It's like they wait 10-15 seconds inside of a choke or lock and then tap just to give the guy who caught them some respect for catching them so they let him have the pleasure of locking in a long submission. Often times these guys who get caught are laying down on the mat for 30 seconds or so recovering. Someone asked me if I wanted to roll I said yeah so we started on our knees and grappled, he got the take down and pretty much dominated me. Well, I struggled for a long time and he eventually got ahold of my arm and was trying to pull my arm out for an arm bar. I knew for a fact I could not get out of this, he had me on the mat, my body wasn't going anywhere and he really wanted this arm bar. So I tapped befor he pulled my arm out and locked his arm bar in. At the time I didn't see the point if I gave him my arm I was gonna tap anyways and I knew there was no chance for me to escape so I went ahead and tapped while he was jerking to pull my arm out. Afterwards I rolled 2 other times, once I got caught in an arm triangle I let the guy have it for a few seconds befor tapping and the next I got caught in an Americana which I didn't tap until I felt pain. After coming home and thinking about my first day of MMA I felt bad for the guy who practically had me in an bar and I tapped befor he could have the pleasure of locking it in and atleast working on his technique. I don't think I left a bad impression but I certainly don't wanna leave one. Would you wanna roll with someone who tapped early? After my first roll (remember I rolled 3 times total) my 2nd and 3rd ones were really half ass. I was so tired that I really didn't put up much of an effort off my back because I don't really know much besides some stuff in the guard. After my 3rd roll I told the guy "I was tired and nice job" which seemed like an excuse that took away from his submission but I was just giving him an excuse to why I was so lazy off my back that time. Would you roll with someone who didn't challenge you? Someone who just laid there while you worked around them easily? I'm 310 so I expect some sympathy but at the same time this is a sport and I should atleast be willing to work even when being dominated and show some heart. Can you guys give me tips on keeping a good attitude and etiquette?