is bullying really that bad or are kids just huge pansies now?

obviously, there are extreme examples of bullying, and i am not talking about those. but if you take all this at face value, it would seem to be there is a massive epidemic of bullying in the united states at least.

so is there really or have our kids just become pansies and whiners? in this era of everyone needing to feel good about themselves and nobody being able to compete, i am leaning towards the latter. what are your thoughts? it seems every time some kid is upset, we must attribute it to bullying.

well, when i was a kid, people made fun of me and i made fun of them. i got jumped a time or 2 and i started a few fights as well. it was a part of growing up. anyway, thoughts?

i saw a thing on twitter that was talking about cyber bullying. they were claiming this because someone took a pic of a girl making a funny face and made a meme out of it and was asking if the kids responsible should be prosecuted.

 

combination of both i think ...its different then it was back in the day due to facebook/twitter and all that crap...

 

I think it's more serious now than it was back in the day. my older brother was THE bully around town growing up so I had it pretty good

 

kids are being coddled.

fuck parents these days, they all suck

 

It just spreads more because of technology. The people picking on you are more present in your life and can slander you to more people and at all hours. You can literally spread rumors to hundreds or thousands of people. The humiliation is more intense and widespread.

 

Good point. Now bullying can become a permanent thing but back in the day shit was forgotten in a week. I think parents are as much to blame as the children are if not more.

These days, parents are so quick to flip their shit over the smallest of things instead of handling anything with grace and dignity. We offer the weakest examples of how to act.

 

I don't think you know what bullying is.

 

Pansies

 

Exactly. If you fucked some fat chick or some girl fucked the whole football team. It wasn't posted on a medium that could reach thousands and live there for eternity. People just maybe whispered behind your back. But now they can whisper on the internet, on their phones, to many more people and expose you to your humiliation much more and rub it in.

When I was in HS, there were only a few fist fights a year. I got a friend who now teaches there and said there are a bunch of fights every week. It is out of control. Probably because the shit talking actually reaches people now. Before you could talk shit about somebody and it may only remain between you and them. The internet just causes and adds to real world drama.

 

Kids are being raised being told they are the greatest thing in the world. When somebody takes them down a notch they can't handle it. Pansies.

 

Anyone that is on this "kids are weak these days" bullshit is fucking retarded and out of touch. It's that simple.

Back in the 80s, some kids would push you around and call you names or beat you up if you did something stupid or if they thought you were gay or whatever...and that would be the end of it. A week or two later everyone forgets and you can move on a bit.

Now, people post horrific shit about you constantly, spread rumors all around, can just be nonstop and brutal about it, way more over the top violent than anything someone would say in real life. They can track you, find your phone number, have hundreds of people harass you non stop. Kids these days haven't changed, the bullies have. They're less physical, but more emotionally and psychologically abusive, which is why instead of being able to stand up for themselves (how can you stand up to an anonymous body of people?), kids feel so alone they fucking take their own life. That's not being weak, that's being failed by the system and the fucked up minds of sick bastards hiding behind anonymity.

Fuck you to anyone who makes light of these kids that are so down they kill themselves. You're the worst type of people.

 

True story.

 

^ thats why i was friends with mostly every type of kid in school...goth, punk, stoner, geek, nerd, jock etc etc

 

Yeah, the internet emboldens people. It's like Sherdog. People would talk to each other much differently in real life than they do on here. I don't think the bullies changed either, they just have a new toolset. I think kids in the 80s would act the same way as kids today if they all had smart phones, twitter, facebook, etc.. The internet tempts people to be obnoxious and cruel.

 

I was thinking earlier today about the connotation of the word geek when I was a kid and nowadays. It used to be an offense. Being called a geek was fighting words and a grave insult. But now it's basically just a fashion thing. Everyone plays video games or is in to comic boom characters. So what are these kids being bullied about I wonder? In fifth grade, it got around that I slept with my best friend. She hated me for years because of it and it caused me some intense humiliation and guilt. I imagine kids go through similar things all the time.

 

how so? i gave an example of someone being made fun of and them calling it bullying. and here in vegas a girl jumped a girl on the bus and they called it bullying. but thanks for your input

 

Ok I agree with that.

 

Sure, technology helps spread rumors faster but bullying has always been about "constant" harrassment. Getting your ass kicked once isn't bullying. Bullying is when you dont like some cause they are gay, nerdy, etc and you make their lives miserable for as long as you can.

I really don't think kids are dealing with worse bullying than before, just the medium involved has extended to social sites.

Also parents should be proactive enough to check their kids facebooks and see if they are getting bullied and deal with it in an appropriate manner. And I don't mean going to the principals office to complain.

They need to teach these kids to respect themselves and be able to strive through the difficulty. Not make them feel even more like victims and coddle them like babies.

 

Read Def1's post below.

 

and try to grasp what i said. when a girl was jumped on the bus here, they called it bullying. that was part of my original point. the entire concept of bullying has changed. they label everything that doesnt make a kid feel good as bullying, no matter how long it lasts. thats why i said i was jumped as a kid. i didnt label it as bullying. see how i made the connection there?