Is a downward Spiral in your early 30’s normal?

[Alonzo Black]

For people who were mature and responsible throughout their twenties?

People who worked and built up assets and went to school and did the right thing.

Just deciding to let go and stop trying. Partying like a teenager. Sex and drugs and shirking responsibilities?

Like you aged in reverse…. Getting in trouble with the law?

It seems like I know a few people who just broke down and stopped trying around 32-33.

Maybe they just needed a hard reset.

 

[kahiljabroni]

Don't think I've ever seen that. Maybe in a relapse

 

[MT7]

Just deciding to let go and stop trying.

Joke's on you. I never started trying.

 

[Crawler89]

prolly cause at that age you realise its all shit.

 

[Kingz]

It’s pretty common. Almost always drug or alcohol addiction fueled, coupled with feelings of wasted youth.

One of my best friends had a good job, married, kids but he actually realized he didn’t want any of that. He liked snorting meth but even without meth he didn’t think life turned out the way he thought it would It turned out quicker than he wanted it to.

He lost everything and has been basically homeless for several years now going in and out of jail for stealing. Last I talked to him he didn’t seem to have many regrets either. He feels free, admits he wants nothing to do with the responsibilities of being a parent, and would rather be living the life he does now than he did before. Not as boring.

hit him right after he turned 30. He’s an impulsive personality. Less impulsive people like me just got depressed after 30, but didnt act out in completely self destructive ways like that.

 

[gspieler]

My 30's have been significantly better than my 20's.

 

[gonads20]

Short answer, NO. However the decisions you made in your 20 will reflect on how your 30's will be. I've seen a few dudes that thought they were going to be a famous rocker/rapper and held onto that dream a little too long or hung onto the party lifestyle of college (without finishing college) a little too long and are now losers. I've also seen good dudes get divorced and take it pretty hard. On the flip side if you make good choices in your 20's your 30's will usually be better. I'm late 30s and life seems to be on easy mode now.

 

[facePuncher7]

I think a lot of people spend their 20s building things they eventually realise (around 30-35) that they didn't really want. I don't think it's too strange.

 

[Cool Hand Luke]

30s were great, 40s has been different

 

[Bornstarch]

I'm 21 years old. Why can't you old motherfuckers be young like me?

 

[JudoThrowFiasco]

Usually people fuck their lives up in their 20's. If you are a fuck up in your 30s you were probably a fuck up your entire life

 

[Ponchik]

Looking forward to finding out how that feels like.

 

[HHJ]

lol it was probably the best time of my life got kicked started around then

 

[aus101]

It’s pretty common. Almost always drug or alcohol addiction fueled, coupled with feelings of wasted youth.

One of my best friends had a good job, married, kids but he actually realized he didn’t want any of that. He liked snorting meth but even without meth he didn’t think life turned out the way he thought it would It turned out quicker than he wanted it to.

He lost everything and has been basically homeless for several years now going in and out of jail for stealing. Last I talked to him he didn’t seem to have many regrets either. He feels free, admits he wants nothing to do with the responsibilities of being a parent, and would rather be living the life he does now than he did before. Not as boring.

hit him right after he turned 30. He’s an impulsive personality. Less impulsive people like me just got depressed after 30, but didnt act out in completely self destructive ways like that.

Damn that's some "a scanner darkly" shit.

 

[TheTickG]

For people who were mature and responsible throughout their twenties?

People who worked and built up assets and went to school and did the right thing.

Just deciding to let go and stop trying. Partying like a teenager. Sex and drugs and shirking responsibilities?

Like you aged in reverse…. Getting in trouble with the law?

It seems like I know a few people who just broke down and stopped trying around 32-33.

Maybe they just needed a hard reset.

I partied pretty often from 25 until government lockdowns. Never shirked responsibilities though, as it paid for the lifestyle.

 

[boingyman]

Early 30s was great since I still didn't have kids and we were travelling all over the world.

Regardless of age there are always people out there that just fucks up their lives. I've seen it happen to a decent amount of people. Our friends ex husband fits the bill. Dude even with the typical Sherdog standard. He was 6' 5, fit, good looking guy. Former marine and had a good paying job with Amazon only to cheat on her while she was deployed in Afghanistan. He ended up staying with the girl that he was cheating with. Got into drugs and eventually got into some trouble that led by him being sentenced to prison. Sad shit!

 

[Oeshon]

fuck no. early 30s is when you are establishing yourself and in your prime.

early 30s is the greatest.

you should be hitting your fucking stride and on top of the world.

 

[rckoltrane]

I’ve seen great guys fall apart at this age. That existential crisis is a bitch.

I’m 35 and I’m feeling it. Hard to get excited about life things.

Relationships? Almost got married 3 times, that’s 3 strikes, I’m out on that.

Dating? Much wider range to choose from. College girls are fun but don’t last and they play games. Mid to late 20s are too serious or too picky. 30 and up got kids, not down for that ever. Haven’t met someone I really liked in years.

Work/career? I have a masters degree and been in my career field/agency for 12 years. Bosses don’t scare me I’m smarter than them. Coworkers don’t phase me. I could run this bitch half asleep. Okay maybe not lol but shit.

Training/working out? All the boxing gyms shut down in my area. Haven’t trained in years I miss it everyday. Been lifting now and the muscles are cool but who really cares I wanna box so bad.

Friends? Love my buddies but both ways we’re just low maintenance. Some of them got kids.

I’m not looking for a solution, I’m searching for meaning. I’ve been a musician since high school and been in bands, written, recorded and released music. My last band fizzled out. I’ve put on hold for years working on my own thing. Perhaps that is the way. I’ll get to it and report back to you all. Stay tuned!

 

[Vergilius]

Never seen that happen. My close circle started families in their late 20'ies early 30'ies. The f*ck up of the group only got around to it in his 40'ies, but even he has cleaned up now. A couple of us were pretty responsible in our 20'ies too, but I don't think either of us ever felt the urge to crash our lives. I suppose if you hate your wife or something, you could get hit by an early midlife crisis.

 

[Vergilius]

I’ve seen great guys fall apart at this age. That existential crisis is a bitch.

I’m 35 and I’m feeling it. Hard to get excited about life things.

Relationships? Almost got married 3 times, that’s 3 strikes, I’m out on that.

Dating? Much wider range to choose from. College girls are fun but don’t last and they play games. Mid to late 20s are too serious or too picky. 30 and up got kids, not down for that ever. Haven’t met someone I really liked in years.

Work/career? I have a masters degree and been in my career field/agency for 12 years. Bosses don’t scare me I’m smarter than them. Coworkers don’t phase me. I could run this bitch half asleep. Okay maybe not lol but shit.

Training/working out? All the boxing gyms shut down in my area. Haven’t trained in years I miss it everyday. Been lifting now and the muscles are cool but who really cares I wanna box so bad.

Friends? Love my buddies but both ways we’re just low maintenance. Some of them got kids.

I’m not looking for a solution, I’m searching for meaning. I’ve been a musician since high school and been in bands, written, recorded and released music. My last band fizzled out. I’ve put on hold for years working on my own thing. Perhaps that is the way. I’ll get to it and report back to you all. Stay tuned!

I definitely can relate to the search for meaning, even though I'm happily married etc. there are days when the world just seems grey and pointless. I have fewer of those days than I did when I was a 20-something wannabe artist, but it still happens.

I read Nietzsche once who taught me that there is no meaning outside the individual will: nothing in the universe matters in itself, but the human will can give things meaning. There are days when I find that thought comforting but on other days its frightening: if I stopped caring about my life and the things in it, it would cease to matter. On the other hand, I have the ability to make my life matter.

Makes me feel alone in the centre of my own universe, for better or worse.