My wife's Gram died, why I haven't been online. I was one of the pallbearers and despite my destroyed back / leg - right side of my body not working situation, I was honoured to help and do this for her Gram/family Funeral day, everything was well organized... at the start. They told us the service was starting soon, heads up - 10 minutes, did the service. There was a reception between service / burial. We were all eating sandwiches and I was mid bite when someone yelled out - WE'RE ALL GOING TO THE BURIAL SITE NOW!!! I ran with the wife out the door and went to my car, seen people were leaving the parking lot so I hurried along to the cemetary cause I knew where it was. I was waiting and waiting at the cemetary for the rest to show up ... and then the wife's Dad called asking if we were going to show up. We were at the cemetary already and had to find them. The coffin was already positioned into the grave plot ready to be lowered but they still waited for us for closing ceremonies. I just feel really bad and the Dad asked why I didn't wait for the congregration. I wasn't the only one who thought it was a disorganized mess, every other event was announced but this part had no prelude, just everyone running to their cars and speeding off It was fucked I feel bad - I seem to screw up most things I don't know who filled in for me but I wasn't there for the family like I should have been. Her brother was another pallbearer and was also waiting with me at the wrong spot ... don't know who filled in for us.