I regret moving out of my mom's house

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  1. Richmma80

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    I moved out of my mom's house in 2014. I bought my first home and I've been busy. It was just me and my mom for the longest time at her house. She never remarried. She didn't have any friends. She had noone to talk to but me.

    She called often, but I rarely answered the phone. I was busy with my new home and all the random girls I hooked up with. My mom would leave me voicemail messages that sound like she was having a full conversation with me. She would tell me how her day went, ask me if I heard the news about so and so. I can tell now just how lonely she was.

    She passed away last year. Didn't get to say goodbye. I wish I had stayed. I had no idea she was sick. I am at home by myself. I have friends to call and hang out with. My mom didn't have anyone. Even her piece of shit son turned her away.

    I feel so broken and I think every single day how I can make it up to her. I'm flying straight. No more alcohol and hook ups for me. I'm going to settle with my current girl. My mom would have loved her.
     
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    I’m sorry about your mom bud.

    Congrats on settling with a good girl.

    I thought this would be a selfish sherdog post about being angry you have to pay your own bills now. I’m glad you surprised me and you’re selfless.
     
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    I left home when I was 19 but didn’t miss my mom because she used to savagely beat me when I was a kid, like 5-11 years old cuz I looked like my dad who left her.

    I’m pretty messed up as an adult but I hold it together okay. Sounds like your mom was a wonderful woman.
     
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    GearSolidMetal I'm here to chew bubblegum and bang your mom. Platinum Member

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    You're still grieving. Its a natural process.

    The best kids try to make the best decisions to make their parents happy, even after they're gone.
     
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    JabToucher I don't put anyone on ignore!

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    It sounds like you lived life how any young man would after moving away from home and having independence.
    Hope you don't beat yourself up about this but I can appreciate how you feel.
    Best thing you can do is live life how you want to. I'm sure ultimately she would of wanted to see you happy after all.
     
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    I saw a video where Kevin Lee moved to Vegas and moved his parents there too, not in same house though. Respect.
     
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  9. Came here to insult TS, discovered thread wasn't what I thought it would be, leaving slightly depressed.
     
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  10. I have a crystal ball and am recommending you don't do any online genealogy tests.
     
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    <GOT3>Jesus Christ, bro. Family is all you have. You will prob learn this later. But loose women come and go and so do some fickle friends.

    I'm sorry for your loss. If anything your post was a reaffirmation that we need to love the older people in our life. Who knows when they'll be gone. Your mother obv loved you. Some ppl don't even get to have good loving parents.

    I think it's awesome that you are trying to make changes in your life to honor her. Good luck to you. And bless your kind hearted mother, RIP.




    <Prem974> . Gunna make sure I call my mother tonight.
     
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    I'm actually kind of glad i read this. Not because of your loss (made me sad to read that by the way, and i hope you're doing better man), but because it sort of reassures me that letting my mom move in with us is not a bad idea.

    My wife had asked me last year if i wanted my mom to move in with us when we buy our house, and i was reluctant for a while. I finally said yes. And my mom went back and forth on her decision, because my brother was still in HS and she didn't want to leave him by himself in the apartment.

    But now that my brother is off to college, she said yes to moving in. We have gotten used to having the house by ourselves, and her moving in will sort of disrupt that. But i can't just tell her no anymore. And i feel it's also my duty as the oldest son to take care of her as she ages.

    I sure hope everything works out for both of us TS.
     
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    Damn that hit me hard. I moved out of country, and my grandmother, and great aunt died back to back months. I hated that I was gone. I wanted to take a flight home because my grandmother was on her deathbed. I felt that I could make it. However, my family told me that she would probably pass away while I was on the flight. She didn't have much time left. I walked around aimlessly for hours. Sat in a chair by myself in my room with the lights off.

    Luckily my friend came around just to shoot the shit. He told me how his grandfather had died while he was playing a high school football game. They told him after the game was over. His grandfather had been the one who had put the money up for his football equipment. I think all of us get very concerned with our lives, and we need to be cognitive that our time is limited. Moving forward with my life I appreciate family, and friends above everything else. My friend told me that he thinks my grandmother would be very proud of the man I became. I don't know you personally, but your story touched me, and I believe your mother would be very proud of you.
     
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    {<jimmies} Lol, same here. Left here all teary eyed like a bich. TS showed me ..
     
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    Damn that was hard to read
     
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    Hey... it happens.

    I was a massive shit to my mom at times.
    One day I was back at home visiting and had a friend of mine over. When my mom came into the living room to get something I started turning the volume on the TV up to send the message that I didn't want her in the room. My friend even said to me, after she had left the room, "if you ever do that again to her while I'm here I'm fucking leaving."

    She died a few weeks after that from an aneurism.
     
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    I was way closer to my grandma than my mom. She made so many mistakes and it has taken me so many years for me to forgive her. Thanks to my grandmother's advice and guidance i was able to do so. And i try to do right by her from all that she taught me. I sure wish she was still here.
     
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  18. Davem10

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    That's so tough

    that's a pain that you can't fix

    God knows how you reconcile something like that, hopefully you find a way to stop beating yourself up
     
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    Damn, that's rough, TS. You can't beat yourself up too, bad, as you were young and needed time and space to spread your wings.
     
  20. frye666

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    This is actually pretty much how it goes most of the time. I would say maybe only 5% of the kids stick close to their parents when they leave. I work in long term care and it is rare to see family stop in, let alone at a rate of more than one or two times a year. It is absolutely shitty, but it must be human nature.
     
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