I'm probably out of place here but I figured if I want to learn anything I should talk to some people who have mixed opinions rather than going to a gym and getting their biased ones. I'm a young guy (14, shame on me) who's tall and lean with no MA background, but I do have a very athletic history, as I've done sports and fitness training for around 8 years. I want to get into some sort of MA, for self defense, possibly for future competition, and for general further fitness. Self defense is probably the biggest thing I'm looking for, as I can't do much on the damage side of things to some of the bigger guys my age. (Not that I want to get in a fight period) I have family who have grappling experience, and it seems like something that would fit my body type more and set up good development, but I'm not an expert by any means and I don't want to pretend I am. I just want to know from people who have different opinions, what would MA to start with be? I've got limited options as I live in a small-medium city. If I could get some serious replies with some explanation to help me wrap my mind around, I'd really appreciate it, since I have no knowledge on these topics as of yet. Thanks.