I can't fight. I freeze and feel sick, weak at the knees. This always happens.

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  1. Kaptai

    Kaptai White Belt

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    Hello


    I'm not gonna lie I'm not a fighter, I literally just signed up here because it's a last resort and I can't solve my problem.

    Today I was in McDonalds and some street kid who was about 2 inches taller than me and a few years older than me (I'm 17) started threatening a homeless man with no reason. I was not involved with this whatsoever but even just watching him being aggressive or threatening made me feel sick, made me freeze up and shake.

    I've been beaten up a lot in the past. Why? For that exact reason. I freeze up and feel sick and weak at the knees. If a confrontation is planned by someone against me then I always tell myself before 'It won't happen this time be a man you want to beat the **** out of him' or after I will say 'Now he's confronted you it will be fine it won't happen next time' and I'll be really eager before or after but right at a point of confrontation I ****ing freeze and go weak at the knees.

    I watch 100's of videos and articles on this and I don't know how to fix it for me, if anyone here can tell me what they would've done if they weren't a pro fighter and how they overcame fear. My real fear is that If I do get the courage to actually fight my constant fear will let an opponent get the better of me anyway...

    This is how it's been for years and now people just walk all over me. I couldn't even protect my girlfriend if I had to. I just wish it could be like when I play fight with someone, when I have a pretend fight with my cousin like on a trampoline I will not stop trying unless I have an asthma attack and I win. But in a real confrontation I feel sick.

    Someone please help... I'm gonna get the **** beaten out of me otherwise... :(
     
  2. Gabe

    Gabe Saturdays are for the Boys

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    Carry around a gun.
     
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  3. MoparOrNoCar

    MoparOrNoCar Black Belt

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    You have anxiety bro.
     
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  4. 45ACP

    45ACP I'll Be Back Belt

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    Find a good gym and learn how to actually fight?
     
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  5. Jacob14

    Jacob14 Blue Belt

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    Sounds like you're having panic attacks. Maybe go train at an MMA gym and try to overcome your fear of getting your ass kicked.

    But for real, why are you getting into so many confrontations?
     
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  6. TrainInVain

    TrainInVain Swangin an Bangin Belt

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    Well remember that even some pro fighters get nervous and have those issues.

    Like 45ACP said find a gym where you can practice in a controlled environment.
     
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  7. Aegon Spengler

    Aegon Spengler Gold Belt

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    Perhaps train and get yourself slowly used to it.

    Kill some animals at a farm

    Or street rats.

    7 weeks to build a habit so 7 weeks worth of training or killing
     
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  8. Simian Raticus

    Simian Raticus GOAT in the North

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    I think what you need is to realise that getting you ass kicked isn't the end of the world, rather than convince yourself it can't happen.
     
  9. Scerpi

    Scerpi Black Belt

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    Slobodan and Nic will show you the way
     
  10. loyalyolayal

    loyalyolayal Steel Belt

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    Is normal.

    Post count is all you need. When you get your orange belt, you'd be a baltimore 7.
     
  11. Kick Strickland

    Kick Strickland Double Yellow Card Double Yellow Card

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    Hearse Lightning Not an Uber

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    Stop eating at McDonalds for starters.
     
  13. Kahran

    Kahran Tiger Style.

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    This story's made me kinda sad, dude. There have already been good suggestions so all I can do is repeat them. Do your best to find somewhere locally to train, it doesn't matter if it's Boxing, Karate, Wrestling, Judo, MMA, whatever. You need to be learn what to do in these confrontational situations and be confident that you can take care of yourself. You can't just talk to yourself in your head and say things'll be okay without any sort of action because your problem's going to constantly repeat itself. I don't understand why you're worried that you may still lose even when you know what to do and make an effort to defend yourself, having a chance is certainly better than having no chance at all.

    This kinda shit upsets me so i'll just urge you again to take charge and do something about it. There are only positives to gain from being confident and being able to handle yourself, you're not much younger than myself, take it seriously and you can learn, no one's saying you have to become a professional. Do yo' best.
     
  14. Milgrim

    Milgrim Australopithecus Platinum Member

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    Everyone says train - it's a good idea. Learning, sparring, etc. in controlled situations will probably help you stay calm in a real world situation ... but not necessarilly.

    But don't be in a hurry to get into a street fight to prove something, even to youself.
     
  15. JudoThrowFiasco

    JudoThrowFiasco Charming Quark Platinum Member

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    post a selfie and lets us vote on whether or not you should be concerned about getting your face smashed in. If you're ugly, you have nothing to fear.
     
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  16. Thai Domi

    Thai Domi Silver Belt

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    Next time just grit your teeth, tuck your chin and fill the room with uppercuts.












    Then report back here.
     
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  17. TankAbbott4Eva

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    Yep this, if you really want to know i'm sure this conditions your reflexes and instincts to defend yourself if needed. Obviously it should condition your body so you can outrun attackers if possible which is the smartest thing to do.
     
  18. Nowhere Fast

    Nowhere Fast Chules' Emotional Hostage.

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    join the prem thread, imo. We are one big family. Nobody would mess with you again.
     
  19. Harmonica

    Harmonica Strong, silent type

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    The longer you wait to act in confrontational situations, the worse you'll have it. Just start a fight. Everything else will feel natural. Sure, you might get beaten up but at least you'll conquer your fear.
     
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  20. Pliny Pete

    Pliny Pete Puts Butts In Seats

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