How to not be afraid?

Discussion in 'Standup Technique' started by freaky, Feb 9, 2016.

  1. freaky

    freaky Banned Banned

    Joined:
    Mar 9, 2015
    Messages:
    6,324
    Likes Received:
    5,523
    Location:
    Inside Sherdog
    So I close my eyes everytime someone throws something at me. Everytime I get hit even on the body, I would blink.

    One time I even turned my head away as I threw a jab. I'm such a coward it's not even funny. How do I grow a pair and stare at the punches hitting my face without blinking or looking away?

    I just feel like cowering in a corner whenever some guy comes towards me.

    The only way I can fight is jab and push kick to keep them at a distance. If they come anywhere close to hitting me distance I start to feel like cowering and blink or just complete shut down.

    Help me
     
  2. MuayThaiDude

    MuayThaiDude Yellow Belt

    Joined:
    Apr 17, 2015
    Messages:
    193
    Likes Received:
    19
    I don't know if I'm getting trolled or not but my advice to you is simply do a drill defense. Have your partner throw basic jabs, crosses hooks and uppercuts at you in 3s or 4s. Work on both slipping, parrying, long arm blocks and column (peak a boo) blocks. Look up "crazy monkey defense", that is pretty effective for novices. When practicing these for the love of God don't look away, blinking is natural (try not to) but always keep your eye on on their chest and chin down. If you are going to get hit clench your mouthguard, stiffen your neck and give them your forehead. Work on staying in the pocket. Best drill for that is take a tire and put your lead leg in it. Have the partner do the same and go at about 20 percent. You won't be able to go anywhere so you have to stay and defend.

    If you honestly feel like cowering in a corner try the drills I listed or maybe MT just isn't for you.
     
    Kahran, freaky and Skiprope like this.
  3. Skiprope

    Skiprope White Belt

    Joined:
    Jan 11, 2016
    Messages:
    23
    Likes Received:
    4
    Location:
    Frankfurt, Germany
    Thanks for the post. Great advice. Ill be trying some of that tonight. Have to get this job thing out of the way first though...
     
    MuayThaiDude likes this.
  4. jonander50

    jonander50 Yellow Belt

    Joined:
    Nov 21, 2014
    Messages:
    191
    Likes Received:
    71
    It happened with me too, not only blink but I turned away and expose my back. Only training erased that over time. Just continue traiing.
     
  5. Sano

    Sano Red Belt

    Joined:
    Jul 31, 2011
    Messages:
    7,514
    Likes Received:
    13,518
    Location:
    Denmark
    Pretty ballsy of you for admitting it, the truth is a lot of people react very poorly to being hit. I don't think I've ever actually seen a complete beginner not turn or look away when getting hit.

    MuayThaiDude had good advice. You just have to get used to it. Build it up slowly. But, you also have to embrace the discomfort at some point and turn it around.
     
    MuayThaiDude likes this.
  6. Prez ebrmc

    Prez ebrmc White Belt

    Joined:
    Dec 31, 2015
    Messages:
    66
    Likes Received:
    14
    Through the repetition of danger one can become accustom to it.
     
  7. killedsirius

    killedsirius Blue Belt

    Joined:
    Jan 8, 2013
    Messages:
    549
    Likes Received:
    10
    Location:
    Ireland
    i've been boxing a while now, and sometimes i am still afraid. Fear isn't a totally bad thing. The drills is a great idea. Give yourself the tools to know how to react to what's hitting you and that helps with the fear no end. Then the only thing you'l have to fear is someone who is much stronger or vastly better :) and I don't think that ever ends :)
     
  8. Semper Barta

    Semper Barta Yellow Belt

    Joined:
    Dec 18, 2015
    Messages:
    214
    Likes Received:
    273
    Very honest post. I think most hit the nail on the head here about different drills to help. Buy honestly the most effective way is to get hit - and get use to it. Now, I'm not saying go out there and get pummeled or something. But the truth is, after a while you don't even think about it once you are use to the sensation. Maybe even train your mind to take a moment of impact as a time to throw a counter.
     
  9. Kanka

    Kanka Black Belt

    Joined:
    Oct 10, 2013
    Messages:
    5,100
    Likes Received:
    2,271
    relax, breath
     
  10. Chesten_Hesten

    Chesten_Hesten The Wiener of Steel

    Joined:
    Mar 7, 2006
    Messages:
    12,375
    Likes Received:
    24,251
    Practice till you stop blinking:
    [​IMG]

    [​IMG]
     
    Sano and Kiwi Tricker like this.
  11. Kiwi Tricker

    Kiwi Tricker Green Belt

    Joined:
    Feb 4, 2014
    Messages:
    1,390
    Likes Received:
    515
    Location:
    New Zealand
    Best advice has already been given. Drills and more live sparring. Getting used to it is about all you can do. I hope you have a coach who has a good eye and mind for bringing the best out of you- my old trainer was a pretty old-school dude, his approach was usually to try and just hammer it out of people through rounds and rounds of sparring. This approach doesn't work for everyone though. For some people, you can just throw them in the deep end, but when it's sink or swim, not everyone can swim. Some people need to be built up with confidence gradually. One post on the internet won't tell me which kind of person you are, but talk to your trainer about ideas for which might work for you.
     
  12. Sinister

    Sinister Doctor of Doom Staff Member Senior Moderator

    Joined:
    Feb 22, 2005
    Messages:
    41,215
    Likes Received:
    2,817
    Location:
    Vegas
  13. StopDucking

    StopDucking Ronda Rousey hater

    Joined:
    Jan 7, 2011
    Messages:
    2,386
    Likes Received:
    3,931
    Although this is good advice, I believe the BEST way to avoid blinking or looking away while being punched is not to learn how to avoid punches but how to roll with them.

    Once you've learned how to roll with punches:
    1) You will be less afraid of getting hit since you know the punches you saw coming won't knock you out.
    2) You will force yourself to look at the punches instead of turning your head so you won't get knocked out.
     
    MuayThaiDude likes this.
  14. freaky

    freaky Banned Banned

    Joined:
    Mar 9, 2015
    Messages:
    6,324
    Likes Received:
    5,523
    Location:
    Inside Sherdog
    How long did it take you to erase it?
     
  15. exclamatio

    exclamatio Yellow Belt

    Joined:
    Aug 9, 2006
    Messages:
    183
    Likes Received:
    121
    Location:
    Manchester, UK
    Confidence only comes from doing! Stick in there, keep working on all of your training and over time as your ability increases, so will your confidence! Good luck!
     
  16. Sinister

    Sinister Doctor of Doom Staff Member Senior Moderator

    Joined:
    Feb 22, 2005
    Messages:
    41,215
    Likes Received:
    2,817
    Location:
    Vegas
    Hmm, I think confidence comes more from knowing what you're supposed to be doing and it working. Getting beaten up a shitload of times does force the issue, but it doesn't always work with people who are otherwise perfectly trainable and just need to be shown and taught what to do, then they can apply it.
     
    Kahran likes this.

Share This Page

  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.