How does age change your perspective in life?

[Phr3121]

I have a family member who loves art and visits the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York every chance she gets. She has done this over most of her life and is now in her late 70s. There was something she told me once that really stuck. Over the years it seemed like the paintings had changed, but in fact it was her that had gone through the changes, and perceived the same painting in a different way.

Most members here are probably half my age. I've reached my late 40s now and can certainly relate to what she said. It has affected my view of the world and people. It has also strengthened my faith. I believe most people are good and strive to do the right thing. I have discovered my weaknesses and limitations and learned to come to terms with it. I've had many successes and many failures. If you compare yourself with others you will get disappointed. There will always be people better and worst than you. Be proud of your achievements. Fear is born of fatigue, loneliness, and lack of confidence. Stay away from drugs and alcohol. Rejoice in shelter, food, health, money, peace and good friends. Don't be afraid to be wrong and take responsibilities for your actions. Common sense is way more important than intellect. Lead by example. I've lost a son, failed at marriage and was laid off from work twice. I have also saved lives, fought for my country, and had a successful career. I have done everything I wanted to do. Life has been good to me and I have been blessed. Time sure changes your perspective in life and events in your past. Work on maintaining a positive attitude. Good luck...

 

[Phr3121]

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[Fluffernutter]

As I get older, I am less likely to wear sunscreen.

I just don't care anymore.

 

[melvinj0]

I just care about things less as I age

 

[FierceRedBelt]

As I get older, I am less likely to wear sunscreen.

I just don't care anymore.

Solid cultural reference!

 

[neverwas]

as i get older,i realise that women only bring drama into your life,then expect you to be thankful for it.

 

[Mike]

I get more and more nihilistic. I just see it as being able to see through the bullshit now, and it's all bullshit.

 

[FierceRedBelt]

I get more and more nihilistic. I just see it as being able to see through the bullshit now, and it's all bullshit.

You don't think there's meaning in the suffering? If you make the proper sacrifices the delayed rewards are there, don't you think?

Letting go of the idea that women are the key to life a good life is what I need to do. They come around once you've created a proper life for the most part and you can't depend on them.

 

[ScriptReadsMe]

I have a family member who loves art and visits the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York every chance she gets. She has done this over most of her life and is now in her late 70s. There was something she told me once that really stuck. Over the years it seemed like the paintings had changed, but in fact it was her that had gone through the changes, and perceived the same painting in a different way.

Most members here are probably half my age. I've reached my late 40s now and can certainly relate to what she said. It has affected my view of the world and people. It has also strengthened my faith. I believe most people are good and strive to do the right thing. I have discovered my weaknesses and limitations and learned to come to terms with it. I've had many successes and many failures. If you compare yourself with others you will get disappointed. There will always be people better and worst than you. Be proud of your achievements. Fear is born of fatigue, loneliness, and lack of confidence. Stay away from drugs and alcohol. Rejoice in shelter, food, health, money, peace and good friends. Don't be afraid to be wrong and take responsibilities for your actions. Common sense is way more important than intellect. Lead by example. I've lost a son, failed at marriage and was laid off from work twice. I have also saved lives, fought for my country, and had a successful career. I have done everything I wanted to do. Life has been good to me and I have been blessed. Time sure changes your perspective in life and events in your past. Work on maintaining a positive attitude. Good luck...

I agree with mostly everything except "stay away from drugs"

 

[Oeshon]

Life has no meaning, so just fucking enjoy it. So glad I figured that out in my 20s and not my 40s or 50s like a lot of people do.

Banging girls, eating steaks, and drinking good scotch like a fucking boss. Stacking dollars and spending in baht while traveling the world.

My advice = fuck everything you consider life and chase what you want to do as you will be rotting in the ground in the near future and all the shit in life that you think matters doesn't mean shit.

Those that worry too much about "you gotta do this" or "how will I do X if I don't do Y" need to know that life finds a way. Just need to be smart and resourceful and have your mind honed in on what you want. For me, the ticket was the ability to earn money online without having to work a job or have a boss. Started with really small shit like shitty freelance jobs and now I'm doing very well without having to slave away and sacrifice what matters (or what matters to me).

 

[Mike]

You don't think there's meaning in the suffering? If you make the proper sacrifices the delayed rewards are there, don't you think?

Letting go of the idea that women are the key to life a good life is what I need to do. They come around once you've created a proper life for the most part and you can't depend on them.

Not anymore, no. It's all random. I already gave up on codependency as an option, but it turns out giving up on the things you want doesn't make you happy either.

 

[Nimrod]

Because your aware of you're own mortality

 

[GeorgeO]

Agree with the TS, although I can’t stay away from alcohol: like it too much. Also books when I read them again many years later give me the impression that my perspective has changed.

 

[Goonerview]

Life has no meaning, so just fucking enjoy it. So glad I figured that out in my 20s and not my 40s or 50s like a lot of people do.

Banging girls, eating steaks, and drinking good scotch like a fucking boss. Stacking dollars and spending in baht while traveling the world.

My advice = fuck everything you consider life and chase what you want to do as you will be rotting in the ground in the near future and all the shit in life that you think matters doesn't mean shit.

Those that worry too much about "you gotta do this" or "how will I do X if I don't do Y" need to know that life finds a way. Just need to be smart and resourceful and have your mind honed in on what you want. For me, the ticket was the ability to earn money online without having to work a job or have a boss. Started with really small shit like shitty freelance jobs and now I'm doing very well without having to slave away and sacrifice what matters (or what matters to me).

The meaning of life is meaning.

 

[Goonerview]

You don't think there's meaning in the suffering? If you make the proper sacrifices the delayed rewards are there, don't you think?

Letting go of the idea that women are the key to life a good life is what I need to do. They come around once you've created a proper life for the most part and you can't depend on them.

Finding a good quality woman to marry is huge for your happiness. Human emotional connection is a human need.

Not all women are the same. A night-club f**k in the toilets type girl is very different from a conservative, cardigan wearing librarian type.

Be clear what kind of woman you want to meet and go for it.

 

[Goonerview]

as i get older,i realise that women only bring drama into your life,then expect you to be thankful for it.

Not all women are like that

 

[steve38]

Life has no meaning, so just fucking enjoy it. So glad I figured that out in my 20s and not my 40s or 50s like a lot of people do.

Maybe you will find more meaning in life when you're older....maybe not. But your perspective will certainly change in some manner. If your current lifestyle is still enough for you in 20 years, then you will have had it all figured out.

I lived the single, hedonistic, playboy life for 20 years as an adult and loved it. Now I'm much happier being a parent and staying on top of that. I never would have guessed that back in the day.

I do agree with you about going your own way, though.

 

[ThunderL1ps]

I'm in my 40's. I can be a bit more concise:

Experience is a powerful teacher.

If you're a simpleton who is incapable of insight, you're pretty much up shit creek.

 

[neverwas]

Not all women are like that

next you'll be saying none of them lie.

 

[Goonerview]

I'm in my 40's. I can be a bit more concise:

Experience is a powerful teacher.

If you're a simpleton who is incapable of insight, you're pretty much up shit creek.

I agree. I rely more on wisdom than any self-help book or advice from friends.

As Yoda says, failure is the best teacher. That said, don't fail so bad that you are f**ked for life.