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Having over 60 years of experience with the human female, the ladder theory is pretty spot on. Studies have been done showing that women decide within minutes of meeting a man whether he is someone she would have sex with.
Women clearly put men they like into friend or lovers categories and different levels within of those categories. Ladders are a good analogy. If there are 2 ladders against a wall with some distance between. You don't jump from one to the other. You go down the ladder you're on, go to the other one and climb up. You get off one to get on the other one. In the past it often happened with distance.
When I was 16, my family moved and I found out being the new guy in school was a good thing as I wasn't on the women's friend ladder. At the city I moved from, the girls in high school were all ones I knew from the age of 12 or before. At 16 when I wanted to date them we were just friends. Sophomore girls dated Junior or Senior guys that they weren't already friends with. When I went back for a football or basketball game, I was able to hook up with the girls who wouldn't date me the previous year. I had gotten off the friend ladder by my absence.
I noticed that ignoring women works when a male friend of mine was trying to pick up a girl he liked in college that I was friends with. I would find somebody else to talk to to give him a chance to talk to her. After a couple of weeks my friend decided he wasn't getting anywhere with her and he and I started going to different places and I didn't see her for a couple of weeks. The next time I did see her she was leaning on me. I was sitting on a bar stool and she was straddling my leg and rubbing herself on my knee. I asked her what she was doing and she said she was horny and I should take her home. I told her she had said she didn't think of me that way and my friend would love to take her home.
Maybe TS would be better off to be busy for a while.
Women clearly put men they like into friend or lovers categories and different levels within of those categories. Ladders are a good analogy. If there are 2 ladders against a wall with some distance between. You don't jump from one to the other. You go down the ladder you're on, go to the other one and climb up. You get off one to get on the other one. In the past it often happened with distance.
When I was 16, my family moved and I found out being the new guy in school was a good thing as I wasn't on the women's friend ladder. At the city I moved from, the girls in high school were all ones I knew from the age of 12 or before. At 16 when I wanted to date them we were just friends. Sophomore girls dated Junior or Senior guys that they weren't already friends with. When I went back for a football or basketball game, I was able to hook up with the girls who wouldn't date me the previous year. I had gotten off the friend ladder by my absence.
I noticed that ignoring women works when a male friend of mine was trying to pick up a girl he liked in college that I was friends with. I would find somebody else to talk to to give him a chance to talk to her. After a couple of weeks my friend decided he wasn't getting anywhere with her and he and I started going to different places and I didn't see her for a couple of weeks. The next time I did see her she was leaning on me. I was sitting on a bar stool and she was straddling my leg and rubbing herself on my knee. I asked her what she was doing and she said she was horny and I should take her home. I told her she had said she didn't think of me that way and my friend would love to take her home.
Maybe TS would be better off to be busy for a while.