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honestly ur prob gonna get friendzoned unless shes having mutual feelings as well which is rare cuz girls really like having guy friends for some reason (just as friends and not romantic partners). ur best option is to be honest with her and tell her how u feel asap. i found that vulnerability can be strength thru charm, confidence, & sincerity. it shows that ur comfortable with who u r and u have the balls to put urself out there with the possibility of getting shot down (that in and of itself is strength)
also if she does reject, its actually not completely over. 1/5 things can happen (worst case, just friends, friends with benefit/one nite stand or best case)
1. Best Case Scenario: she says yes and u two become a couple. congrats! il see you in a couple months when ur asking for relationship advice (girls too clingy, girls too distant, girls r crazy!)
2. Just Friends Scenario: she rejects you but values ur friendship and still wants to be friends. u can either pursue the friendship route by having her as a good friend whom u can ask for girl advice in the future. theres a complicated route of continuing to pursue a romantic relationship but im lazy and wont write it out. every1s different blah blah blah. also if u do pursue the friendship route, it may be awkward @ 1st when hanging out with her and maybe some mutual friends (word spreads fast), but the best u can do is that u gave it ur all and u have no regrets.
3. Worst Case: she shoots you down and nvr talks to you again XD. honestly, this is more about her than about you. shes prob insecure about ur feelings for her that she feels awkward about it and has some personal issues to work out. But if she does value ur friendship, i really dont see this happening
4. Friends with benefit/one nite stand: this is a strange one but im not one throw away a free gift. if she does sleep with you but doesnt want a relationship, i dont think u or any1 else would really complain too much (unless you really want to start a life with this friend). this has happened to me on several occasions so its not impossible and actually can be very probable. This can be that she either feels a surge of emotion because of ur confession or she hasnt had intercourse in awhile and just wants it
5. Eventuality Clause: This is an interesting but rare scenario, but i have seen it with my close friends before. What happens is that the girl initially doesnt see you as dating material and only sees you as a friend until you really tell her how you really feel. Then she will reject you on the spot in order to have time to process everything, or she will just need time to think about it. She will eventually work it out in her head to either move you into a potential dating candidate or leave you in the friendzone. Regardless, this scenario is dependent on the girl's response and process. During her incubation time, do NOT disturb her until she gives you an answer. From personal experience, probability does not favor this scenario. More often than not, the girl will reject the guy in the end.
Feel free to ask any questions. I'll be happy to respond based on everything I've seen and experienced.
also if she does reject, its actually not completely over. 1/5 things can happen (worst case, just friends, friends with benefit/one nite stand or best case)
1. Best Case Scenario: she says yes and u two become a couple. congrats! il see you in a couple months when ur asking for relationship advice (girls too clingy, girls too distant, girls r crazy!)
2. Just Friends Scenario: she rejects you but values ur friendship and still wants to be friends. u can either pursue the friendship route by having her as a good friend whom u can ask for girl advice in the future. theres a complicated route of continuing to pursue a romantic relationship but im lazy and wont write it out. every1s different blah blah blah. also if u do pursue the friendship route, it may be awkward @ 1st when hanging out with her and maybe some mutual friends (word spreads fast), but the best u can do is that u gave it ur all and u have no regrets.
3. Worst Case: she shoots you down and nvr talks to you again XD. honestly, this is more about her than about you. shes prob insecure about ur feelings for her that she feels awkward about it and has some personal issues to work out. But if she does value ur friendship, i really dont see this happening
4. Friends with benefit/one nite stand: this is a strange one but im not one throw away a free gift. if she does sleep with you but doesnt want a relationship, i dont think u or any1 else would really complain too much (unless you really want to start a life with this friend). this has happened to me on several occasions so its not impossible and actually can be very probable. This can be that she either feels a surge of emotion because of ur confession or she hasnt had intercourse in awhile and just wants it
5. Eventuality Clause: This is an interesting but rare scenario, but i have seen it with my close friends before. What happens is that the girl initially doesnt see you as dating material and only sees you as a friend until you really tell her how you really feel. Then she will reject you on the spot in order to have time to process everything, or she will just need time to think about it. She will eventually work it out in her head to either move you into a potential dating candidate or leave you in the friendzone. Regardless, this scenario is dependent on the girl's response and process. During her incubation time, do NOT disturb her until she gives you an answer. From personal experience, probability does not favor this scenario. More often than not, the girl will reject the guy in the end.
Feel free to ask any questions. I'll be happy to respond based on everything I've seen and experienced.