Giving off a Casual Vibe?

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  1. Pugilistic

    Pugilistic Red Belt

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    I’ve talked about how I’ve gotten better at game and picking up chicks in previous threads, but I still have some trouble in one particular aspect: giving off a casual, sexual vibe. As in I don’t have many one night stands or casual encounters with no strings attached. If I hit it off with a woman, she tends to really like me as my biggest strength is presence and being genuine. What I lack in looks, height, or financial achievements, I make up for in being “real” and as present as I can. I can tell women are perplexed by me and if they like me quite a lot, sometimes a bit more than I would like. I like that they like me, but I could do without the intensity.

    This sounds like I’m tooting my own horn, and I do like the affect I can have on women, but I am also envious of the guys who can often get laid casually with women who understand that it’s casual. I’ve only had that a few times but most of the time there’s more emotional investment and time involved. I sometimes feel swamped with dates, which leaves me less time to work out, play Hearts of Iron 4 or Overwatch with my friends, and to work on myself.

    Perhaps I’m not sexually aggressive enough or I invariably go for women who aren’t down for casual encounters. The types who are down may not find me attractive. I don’t want to lie or hurt people. Most attempts at being extremely direct and honest about this have been met with skepticism or doubt. I literally told one chick that I was very much attracted to her but I just wanted to fuck with no strings attached and she seemed down initially, but later changed her mind.

    Any advice from my fellow sherdog brahs?
     
  2. UltimateMoving

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    It seems youre probably doing better than 99.99% of Sherbrahs so im not sure theres any advice to get.
     
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    BRB, thinking of some advice from my momma's basement just like my fellow Sherbros
     
  4. QuitYourCrying

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    I think there's something deeply wrong with me because I'm a guy and I've never wanted no-strings-attached sex. I think I have the mentality of a girl from the 1950s.
     
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    if you are going for casual, look for girls that smoke. if a girl smokes there is just about nothing else she won't do.
     
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    koolinkunming Silver Belt

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    Learn to "put out the vibe". Watch and learn beta:

     
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    You just have to pick your targets wisely
     
  10. Pugilistic

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    Hm…I’ll look into that. My first one night stand was with a chick who smoked.
     
  11. The_Renaissance

    The_Renaissance On, ahem, fleek

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    Yeah, if she smokes, she pokes.

    I smoke when I drink so maybe its just a coincidence thing - IE - when you go outside to smoke, there's usually girls outside smoking so you've got a captive market and smalltalk often occurs. Someone usually needs a lighter. Also, lots of people hate smoking so I think smokers gravitate towards other smokers. If I see two hot girls, and one is smoking, I'd lean towards chatting her up in case the other girl hates the smell.
     
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    Lol ts is short.
     
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    Go to any dive bar in a big city on a weekend night. It's not rocket science.
     
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    I've asked girls if I can borrow their lighter or a cigarette even though I don't smoke just to talk to them. Then say I'd say I don't actually smoke and just wanted to talk to them. It's worked before but I need to do it more often it seems.

    lol yup. I'm a tiny dude by most standards. I'm the guy other dudes would jealously remark about how that hot chick is with a midget and that he must be filthy rich to get with her. I also sound poor.
     
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    This isn't social media. Stop trying to project an unrealistic image of yourself upon others.
     
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    This is the kind of stuff that makes me happy I have the cash to just pay hookers.
     
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    You just need to talk to more promiscuous women. There are a shit load of them out there.
     
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    You have a narcissistic personality disorder. It's literally all in your head.
     

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