Getting older, Career taking off do I need to settle down?

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29 years old now. 9 year old kid from a previous relationship. Closing on my Second Condo October 17th.

I’m going to be 30 in December.

I have a girlfriend who I’ve been with 7 months, she’s good person but don’t know if she’s the one.

Am I going to regret not settling down if I continue to play the field in my 30s?

I’m a decent guitarist and keep in good shape. Everyone wants a wife and family eventually but I’m like a 30 year old boy still figuring myself out while working my ass off and raising my kid.

I don’t want to be a lonely old guy with no wife because I enjoyed being single too much.

Anyone else here settled and didn’t mind it? Or didn’t settle and regretted it?
 
1. It's up to you whether you want to settle, not us telling you.

2. I advise you live together with your girlfriend for at least 6 months before committing to marriage.
 
If you’re a cheating piece of shit on a previous virgin no less, you’re not ready to settle down and be good at it regardless of whether you should or not.

You cheated on this girl you’re with, she’s not the one and you’ll do it again to the next one.
 
Steven_Universe said:
29 years old now. 9 year old kid from a previous relationship. Closing on my Second Condo October 17th.

I’m going to be 30 in December.

I have a girlfriend who I’ve been with 7 months, she’s good person but don’t know if she’s the one.

Am I going to regret not settling down if I continue to play the field in my 30s?

I’m a decent guitarist and keep in good shape. Everyone wants a wife and family eventually but I’m like a 30 year old boy still figuring myself out while working my ass off and raising my kid.

I don’t want to be a lonely old guy with no wife because I enjoyed being single too much.

Anyone else here settled and didn’t mind it? Or didn’t settle and regretted it?
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Just the fact that after 7 months you don't know if she is the one, meaning you are pass the "honey moon stage" of the relationship. Meaning you are not fully in love. You deserve spectacular.

You should not settle for other than a girl that knocks your socks off. You can play the field well into your 50's as long as you keep yourself in good shape. Woman are more attracted to older man anyways.
 
Orgasmo said:
1. It's up to you whether you want to settle, not us telling you.

2. I advise you live together with your girlfriend for at least 6 months before committing to marriage.
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I’m indecisive because whenever I make major decisions I leave a swath of destruction in my wake like a human locust.
 
koolinkunming said:
If you’re a cheating piece of shit on a previous virgin no less, you’re not ready to settle down and be good at it regardless of whether you should or not.

You cheated on this girl you’re with, she’s not the one and you’ll do it again to the next one.
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I don’t mind you making judgement about my past. But I don’t think you have the right or ability to predict my future.
 
Pick a good cage for yourself.



But remember, a wolf in a cage is not a wolf. Same deal for humans.

Wives are for raising a family. If you want that then, if not, women are for enjoying.
 
Bro, just last month you posted that you cheated on some girl, and then she went and banged some guy and you were put off by this. You also made a thread about never seeing your kids, and another one about having STDS. This post doesn't seem to add up with your past sherdogging.
 
Steven_Universe said:
29 years old now. 9 year old kid from a previous relationship. Closing on my Second Condo October 17th.

I’m going to be 30 in December.

I have a girlfriend who I’ve been with 7 months, she’s good person but don’t know if she’s the one.

Am I going to regret not settling down if I continue to play the field in my 30s?

I’m a decent guitarist and keep in good shape. Everyone wants a wife and family eventually but I’m like a 30 year old boy still figuring myself out while working my ass off and raising my kid.

I don’t want to be a lonely old guy with no wife because I enjoyed being single too much.

Anyone else here settled and didn’t mind it? Or didn’t settle and regretted it?
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Didn't read thread, just your OP. But your good until around 35, if you want another kid. If you don't want another kid, you're good until early 40s.

If you don't think current girl is the one, bream it off and fish around.

I am a few years older and just now settling down with someone i have been with over 2 years.

At the same time, it took me over a year to realize she was the one. I had to go through some personal stuff, external.to her that showed me that tho.

Maybe give her a few more months and then see. Lots of pro and cons to being single and being settled.

Certainly do not commit to someone you are unsure of. Not healthy for you and her long term.
 
Krixes said:
Bro, just last month you posted that you cheated on some girl, and then she went and banged some guy and you were put off by this. You also made a thread about never seeing your kids, and another one about having STDS. This post doesn't seem to add up with your past sherdogging.
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This one is totally untrue. My kid lives with me and I feed and clothe him and pack him lunch every day. He spends weekends at his moms.i adore being a dad.

Everything else is true though. Except she only slept with a guy after I dumped her. My girl never cheated on me even though I had it coming.
 
Steven_Universe said:
This one is totally untrue. My kid lives with me and I feed and clothe him and pack him lunch every day. He spends weekends at his moms.

Everything else is true though.
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You made a thread about taking a high paying job where you wouldn't be able to see your kid that often. I guess you didn't take that job.
 
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No one here can answer these questions for you. As a man it's very likely that you still have a considerable amount of good dating time left in you after 30 years old.
 
Damn, read the rest of the thread. Not surprising this STD having, cheating asshole didn't like my post when I gave him heart felt advice

What a lying and/or creepy ass clown.
 
28-32 is usually the timeframe I see people starting to finally get traction. Whether you settle down is up to you man, you don’t have to rush shit.
 
cottagecheesefan said:
Damn, read the rest of the thread. Not surprising this STD having, cheating asshole didn't like my post when I gave him heart felt advice

What a lying and/or creepy ass clown.
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I did like your post. I didn’t read it yet. And I’m not a cheater anymore. Why does everyone on this site call me an asshole for cheating in the past but then in the next breath make fun of spineless incels who are afraid of girls?
 
Steven_Universe said:
I did like your post. I didn’t read it yet. And I’m not a cheater anymore. Why does everyone on this site call me an asshole for cheating in the past but then in the next breath make fun of spineless incels who are afraid of girls?
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It’s not really much of “in the past” when it was like 3 months ago. That’s like a hooker who just quit recently saying “in the past”. K.
 
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